III. The Loveless Marriage of Song Yunhui and Cheng Kaiyan in the Original Work of "Great Rivers and Great Rivers" (Part 2)
Between husband and wife, the most important thing is communication, and communication helps to cultivate feelings. But Song Yunhui could not communicate with Cheng Kaiyan about his work, as well as national policies, economic development, the world's cutting-edge technology, information, markets, etc. These "man" problems, (don't say that Cheng Kaiyan did not understand, most of the lowly educated women in that era did not understand)
Besides, although Song Yunhui is tired and not dead, but there are also troubles, he also wants to find someone to talk to, although Cheng Kaiyan has two ears, he can't understand what Song Yunhui said, and he will also question, which makes Song Yunhui more annoyed, and he doesn't want to communicate with Cheng Kaiyan. (Smart people really annoy stupid and ignorant people, just like many parents teach their children to learn, and finally collapse.) ）
Although the two people are under the same roof, there is no communication and resonance in thinking, Cheng Kaiyan is not without thinking about learning, but just like Song Yunhui saw through Cheng Kaiyan at the beginning is a person who was not saved, Cheng Kaiyan also fished for three days and dried nets for three days, and finally gave up directly, Song Yunhui despised this kind of person the most, but he could only endure.
Song Yunhui grew from a fierce wolf to an elegant lion, and Cheng Kaiyan was assimilated from a simple ignorant girl to a vulgar woman. From the original text, it can be seen that Song Yunhui hates the vulgar office women, but he still put up with it.
In fact, this is not a big deal, in that era, there were a few women who could stand shoulder to shoulder with men, it was enough to have a virtuous wife at home, the leaders of the factory all came this way, and Song Yunhui should have spent his life with Cheng Kaiyan.
But two incidents led to the breakdown of the two people's marriages.
The first time was when Song Yunhui himself asked to be transferred out of the Golden State, he found that the Cheng family was uneasy about him. Later, I got the answer from Daxun's side, it turned out that his marriage was calculated, and the calculated things were of course not assured in his heart. This made Song Yunhui, who had already regarded the Cheng family as a relative, very sad, he couldn't believe that Cheng's father and mother, who were so good to him, were such people, but the reality was here.
Sorting out the causes and consequences of his marriage, Song Yunhui felt very uncomfortable. Subjective acceptance and passive commitment is not the same, Song Yunhui is a reasonable and principled person who recognizes the principle of death, if he himself was blind to marry Cheng Kaiyan and could not complain about others, the road he chose would be bitter and he would go on, just like Song Yunhui's sister was killed by Lei Dongbao in disguise, but Song Yunhui's family forgave Lei Dongbao, because that was the choice of the sister, the sister loved Lei Dongbao, Lei Dongbao also really loved his sister, and he could not complain about others, but if Lei Dongbao was a sister who was obtained through calculation, That Song Yunhui would definitely hate Lei Dongbao for the rest of his life. Song Yunhui knew that C was the wrong choice, but he was forced by the Cheng family to choose C, if he passed the exam, it would be counted, and the result was that the exam did not pass, who could not be angry in his heart, but since then he has a knot in his heart.
After all, now that he is married and has children, Cheng Kaiyan is also obedient to him, the Cheng family did not ask him to do anything, and he did not want this family to be so scattered, so after Song Yunhui returned, he and Cheng Kaiyan opened their hearts and talked about it, talking about his desire for home and a happy life, not wanting this family to disperse, wanting this family to live better, which shows the importance of Cheng Kaiyan to her. (But there is no mention of love for Cheng Kaiyan)
The second thing was Cheng Kaiyan's suspicions. Cheng Kaiyan is not a fool, she can feel her husband's contempt for herself, the gap between the two people is widening, and the director of Min Factory has learned from the past, so she has always suspected that Song Yunhui will cheat. She was afraid that Song Yunhui would dislike herself, but she was unwilling to improve herself, did not take the initiative to change herself, but just waited in place.
She wanted to monitor her husband, but she didn't think about the consequences of doing so, and she didn't think about what she would do if Song Yunhui really cheated. (It's like many people who have made mistakes, they haven't thought about the consequences at all, they haven't been prepared to bear the consequences, and when they finally have to take responsibility, they find that they can't afford it, don't want to bear it, cry and shout: I'm sorry, I was wrong, I didn't know it would be like this, I don't want this, forgive me, I don't dare/will anymore.) ）
The result was seen by Song Yunhui. Ordinary people encounter this kind of thing of course, there is nothing, say two sentences will pass, but Song Yunhui has the purity and pride of a reader, which is an insult to Song Yunhui, who is he Song Yunhui? And after all these years, she didn't even know what kind of character she was? (It's like if you came out of the supermarket and were suspected of stealing something and was searched, and the supermarket owner is still your brother, I remember there is a plot where there is a little girl who is suspected of stealing, is forced to search, and finally smashes the supermarket)
When I thought back the next day, Song Yunhui herself felt that her anger was a little big, and the reason for being angry was untenable, what happened to the daughter-in-law to check your suitcase? Cheng Kaiyan also apologized and knew that he was wrong, and why he did not forgive Cheng Kaiyan the next day, why he was unwilling to face it, and hated Cheng Kaiyan.
It was Daxun who revealed the true thoughts of Song Yunhui's heart. From the emotional point of view of the two people, Song Yunhui did not love Cheng Kaiyan at all, and he could not look at Cheng Kaiyan at the beginning, after marriage, with the ignorance, incompetence, vulgarity of Cheng Kaiyan in life, as well as those things that Cheng Kaiyan did, all made Song Yunhui increase disgust.
Before the husband's responsibility, as well as his own character, for the family and children, these are like a floodgate, blocking the disgust of emotions do not flow out, but when the pressure is too great, the floodgates can not be blocked, this time the event led to the floodgates being broken, can no longer be stopped, can not go back.
Song Yunhui could still live in confusion before, but after this conversation with Daxun, he also understood his true thoughts in his heart, originally for the sake of his children, as well as his own reputation, his career was not affected, he also wanted to try to repair, but unfortunately he could not deceive himself, he admitted in his heart that he hated Cheng Kaiyan's ignorance and vulgarity, and deepened with time. His slight affection and trust in Cheng Kaiyan was also ruined by Cheng Kaiyan himself.
The relationship between the two people has come to an end.
The next part talks about the true love between Song Yunhui and Liang Sishen.
Song Yunhui did not understand love until he was in his thirties and met love. How many people understand love now?
