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As we get older, love doesn't know when it becomes a hard-to-touch luxury.
Adults' concept of love is always inevitably linked to the world, we will measure each other's knowledge, will consider each other's family, but also weigh the suitability of two people, always want to maximize their own interests.
But at the same time as such "calculation", our hearts have always been looking forward to someone who can unconditionally favor us.
The desire to be loved is a common human desire.
American psychologist Abraham Maslow said:
Human beings have five needs from low to high, the third of which is the need for emotion and belonging.
If a person does not feel the care of the people around him, then he will think that he has no value in living in this world.
But as we drift apart from our parents, this experience of being loved is less and less.
So when we are most miserable and helpless, it is a fortunate and thankful thing to have someone by our side.
Many friends who have watched "Harry Potter" will probably be attracted by Snape, a man who is gloomy and at the same time affectionate and infatuated, and all his bravery and tenacity, humiliation and silent protection are related to Lily.
Why is Snape so Aili?
We can understand that Snape grew up in a violent and harsh environment, which also cast his twisted personality, longing for love but not loving.
Lily is the complete opposite of him, beautiful appearance, lively personality, happy family, has everything Snape wants, and more importantly, she let Snape experience kindness that he has never experienced before, because Snape has received very little love, so even a little kindness is precious to Snape.
Like a goddess, Lily became the only light in Snape's childhood life, illuminating his future life, so that it became his obsession, deeply loved. Maybe for Snape, it was only Lily who made him truly feel the value of being alive.
I believe that everyone has experienced this feeling:
I am at odds with the world, and I don't know why fate treats me so unfairly. I obviously made a lot of efforts, but in the end I still didn't get anything, and I wanted to escape alone.
But one day, a person appears in front of you, you will find that you can also be very happy, you have suffered all the bad things, all the bad luck, maybe just to meet each other, then you seem to be able to relax everything in the past.
I think that's why some love is called a feeling of redemption.
Because in such a relationship, the party who is deeply mired in the quagmire can look up to the sunshine and find the value and meaning of life again, and such emotional weight is even heavier.
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This Valentine's Day, there is also a movie about mutual redemption that is about to be launched, that is, "Ten Years of One Pint of Warm Words".
Perhaps for you, your life is not as full of tribulations as the male and female protagonists in the play, and you feel that the plot lacks a sense of reality;
Or maybe, in the protagonist's body, you can spy the shadow of your own life.
But I believe that all love is figured out, to put it bluntly, we are ordinary people who long to love and be loved, so whether it is redemption love or ordinary love, we can get some touch from it, so as to understand the definition of different loves.
Love in reality may lack purity, but the ultimate goal of love is the same, that is, to make us better and happier.
Lin Xi said in The Believer:
The good days of youth and madness end as soon as things are understood.
Maybe it is not because there are few people who hurt you, you understand things so early, but from childhood strong and habitual, more pain is not silent, raising your head is always smiling.
But in love, if you meet the right person, you will find that you can be assured of weakness, because your good and bad, the other party can catch.
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