There is no harm without comparison, the same 9-year-old boy, but the self-care ability of the two children is far from the same.
Cousin children can brush their own school bags, shoes, socks, and water glasses. My children can't do anything, let's sweep the floor, the broom can't be grasped; the bathroom where the socks are washed is water, and then the wash can't be cleaned; the clothes are not turned over, and what they take off is folded, so that he can't be angry enough to do a job.
I asked my sister-in-law, why don't my children do anything? Sister-in-law said that it is not that the child can't do it, but that you can't let go, the bag can't be brushed at all, the shoes can't be brushed clean, but the work is done by himself, he knows that he didn't brush clean, next time he will pay attention, always can't let go, always feel that he can't do a good job, don't let him exercise, and don't do it well at any time.
Thinking about it is indeed the case, every time I feel that the child is not doing a good job, I will do it for him, so the child's self-care ability is much worse, and I have a certain relationship. In the past, I always heard people say that parents of waste can cultivate children with strong self-care ability, and diligent parents can cultivate children of waste, which is indeed such a truth.
