In the New Year, when the child sees a strange relative, he will always pounce into the arms of the parents, and cry loudly, sometimes when relatives come to pinch their faces, hold hands, hug, the child will behave very excitedly, will hug the parents, and even cry, there will be some disgust, in the face of relatives and friends will be very uneasy, and this shows that the child is in a period of stranger anxiety. It is the so-called "recognition of life". Of course, there are things you can do to help your child reduce their uneasiness about strangers.
Workaround for the error
1. Force and urge children to greet strangers. In fact, this practice is not correct, "hurry up and greet uncles and aunts", such a mandatory and commanding tone, can not let the child open hello and say hello, and some parents even can not control their temper, think that the child is not polite, do not understand, let their face lose. So scolding the child in person will deepen the child's fear and make the child more timid.
2. Label your child "timid" and "rude". These labels are easy for children to have psychological cues, they will think that they are really a timid person, and over time, children will become very timid and inferior.
The right thing to do:
1. Guide and be patient in accepting children
Many parents will blame their children for not understanding things, not being polite, or in order to find a step for themselves, they will say in public: "Your child is really introverted..." Such words will invisibly bring great psychological harm to the child. Therefore, parents should learn to accept their children's imperfections, and not feel that their children are not good because of the advantages of other children. To love a child is to love him in his entirety, to give the child a sense of security and happiness in the family, so that the child has the courage to take the first step and contact strangers.
2. Go out and play with your children more
Most families are dual-career families, and the children are generally taken care of by grandparents. The elderly are older, the energy is not as energetic as the children, so most children stay at home all day long, which also limits the child's social interaction, so that the child's opportunity to contact strangers will be less, so there will be a fear of the exercise in front of the door Every time you take the child back to your hometown or go to a friend's house, first practice greeting the child, for example: "Baby, what do you want to say when you see your uncle and aunt?" Guide the child to say: "Uncle and aunt are good." Tell your child that if you say hello to someone, they will say the same hello to you. Let your child be mentally prepared to not be overwhelmed when it comes to actually saying hello.
In short, when children have "stranger anxiety disorder", parents must pay attention to it and cannot ignore it. At the same time, parents should also avoid the wrong methods mentioned above and take the right way to guide their children.
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