With the progress of society, equality between men and women is now advocated, but in some respects, men and women are bound to be unable to be equal. For example, when it comes to having children, there is no way for men to have children instead of women. And the harm caused by pregnancy for a woman can be said to be devastating and immeasurable.
The times are developing, and women are slowly afraid of pregnancy and childbirth, but as they grow older, they are afraid of missing the best age for childbearing, and finally they are forced to choose pregnancy. Many women say that pregnancy begins with the most difficult period of their lives. For example, the reaction of early pregnancy, nausea and inability to eat every day, even if you drink water, you will feel uncomfortable.
Pregnant mothers have survived morning sickness, and new problems have emerged, of which "one pregnancy is stupid for three years" is the most obvious situation. Of course, the stupidity here is not really the kind of stupidity with a low IQ. The main manifestation is that women's memory level declines, often forget things, may be out of the house to forget to bring the key, may also be when washing clothes forgot to put washing powder and so on.
"Three years of pregnancy" is obvious especially after giving birth, mainly because it is too hard to take care of the child, and there is no rest time and no pay for this job. Still need enough patience, many mothers at this time instead began to miss the time of pregnancy, after all, at that time as long as you eat well and sleep well, the baby is healthy in the stomach.
After the baby is born, the baby will be hungry and will drink milk. Babies can pee and poop, and they need someone to "serve". When you are not happy, you will directly cry and cry, which will make the adults feel confused. What's more, I have to be "on standby" 24 hours a day, I am tired, I don't get enough sleep, and I may not be understood by others. Coupled with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that may appear at any time, if your husband can understand himself, then life can still be lived. If the husband can't understand it, he will doubt whether his fertility is worth it. This is how many postpartum depressions are caused.
There is a friend I met online, her husband's family is particularly patriarchal, and she gave birth to a daughter. So from the birth of the child, she was looked at differently by her in-laws, and her husband was lukewarm to her because she lacked opinion in the middle.
After returning home from the hospital, the in-laws are not very willing to help with the children, only she and her husband bring two people, but her husband usually has to work and often works overtime, and after returning from overtime, he is not very enthusiastic about the children due to fatigue. So most of the time, she had to bring it herself. Originally, after giving birth, he was relatively weak, his mental state was not good, and he had to circle around the child for a day.
The in-laws treated her and the child with an outsider mentality all day long, making her feel disheartened, feeling that she had no status in this family, just because she had a daughter, her original sense of dignity was gone. She also confessed that from then on, she really saw her husband clearly, and only then did she begin to realize that only she was reliable, and never thought of relying on others!
In fact, whether it is "a pregnancy for three years" or "being a mother without dignity", there will be a variety of vivid examples in real life. In fact, it is not inevitable to produce these phenomena, it is not that women after pregnancy will really become stupid, nor is it really a mother without dignity, more is man-made. A careful observation of the happy postpartum families in life will find that they are all husbands, and they can understand and understand their wives' difficulties in the prenatal, childbirth, postpartum, and subsequent parenting processes.
The physical fitness of women who have just given birth has not yet recovered, naturally they need more care, if men can accompany more at this time, more understanding, of course, there must be more action, to truly let their wives feel love, feel the warmth of the family, when they are vulnerable, when they need help from others, their closest people can help themselves, no doubt for women's psychological and physical recovery are of great benefit, and can make the wife love her husband more. Under this premise, even if it is more difficult to raise children with children, I believe that the vast majority of female compatriots will feel that it is worth it.
Here is also appealing to the majority of male compatriots, when your wife is pregnant, give her more companionship, let her feel a little more relaxed and happy, it is also beneficial to the fetus and the future fertility of the wife; when she gives birth to a child, she should give her more care, more understanding, more care, take care of her life, just after giving birth to a woman like a child, she needs to be taken care of in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation.
It is really not easy for women to have children, whether it is a vaginal birth or a caesarean section, the damage to the girl's body is very large, and it takes a long time to recover. Not to mention that in the process of giving birth, girls have already experienced great pain.