Do you control your child with emotional emotions or teach it to you with rules

Always crying childishly, affecting the child's sense of security, but also damaging the mother's authority, becoming more likely to be pinched, tested and challenged by the child.

She didn't want to bully her mother.

Every child wants their actions to make their mother happy.

But this needs to be reinforced.

When the child has a positive behavior, such as brushing his teeth once in a while,

Mom strengthened in time——

Wow baby, Mom only said it once today, and you'll brush your teeth right away

You are really Mom's sweet little baby

Mom feels like you're taking care of yourself more and more

Mom is so happy

The child will find that the mother will be very happy to do so

Then she will increase the frequency of positive behavior in the future

Instead, you cry all the time, and the child increases the frequency of negative behavior

She wanted to test —

How long will it take for my mother to cry this time?

She's upset about your erratic emotional response

If no matter how tempting she is, you are gentle and firm

She'll find out—

This trick is ineffective, the mother will not cry, the mother has always been so gentle and smiling

She stopped tempting.

Therefore, the child's behavior is "shaped" by the mother's own different reactions.

Blaming children for disobedience cannot solve your fatigue and anxiety

Fundamentally, you need to adjust the way you respond to your child, in every detail.

Crying also has a negative effect.

The more I cried, the more helpless my mother became, and she felt pitiful.

Even a two-year-old bullied himself.

This will leave you with no confidence and no sense of control.

These frustration experiences will translate into deeper and longer anxiety and anger that you will release into your child and form a vicious circle of your relationship with your child.

Need to move from "knowing" to "acting"

What is anxiety most afraid of?

Let's go!

Rejection does not hurt the child, perfunctory, indifferent, irritable, disgusted.

If there is only expectation, it will inevitably fail

Because our relationship with anyone cannot be smooth sailing, it is impossible to be happy every day.

There is always conflict, there is always unhappiness.

What matters is whether I have done my best to find ways to make us both happier, to reduce the proportion of unhappiness and increase the proportion of happiness.

Children do not have such abilities

They will try, but most will end up with their mothers being angrier

But we have, and we must have.

Because we are adults, the leaders of children's growth.

If we don't have the ability to create happiness ourselves, where can children learn it?

Be sure to take care of yourself [love]

Don't fall into self-pity and self-touching [pathetic]

The ability to take good care of oneself and one's children is great

If you are gray-headed, not only do you not like yourself, your family and others will not think that you are working hard with children, but will only feel that we are "incompetent".

We want the family to see a vibrant little fairy [jumping]

The atmosphere of the whole family will also be different because of your vitality.