The netizen letter said:
My wife and I are free to love and marry, but during our love, I exist like a licking dog, even after we get married, I hope that the husband and wife can stand in a relatively equal position to manage our feelings, but I find it particularly difficult in the specific operation process, because the wife has become accustomed to asking for me, so that when I can not meet some of her requirements, she will be particularly unhappy.
Some time ago, because of the trivial matters of life and the quarrel with her wife, she lived back to her mother's house in a huff. At that time, my real idea was to snub my wife for a few days first, so that she could have a self-reflective effect (before, my wife had several quarrels and went to her mother's house to borrow, basically I went to call her home the next day, during which she and her parents would give me ridicule). What I didn't expect was that during the week I snubbed my wife, I didn't take care of her, and she didn't take care of me. In the end, I still couldn't hold my breath and ran to her parents' house to tell her to go home. However, she said nothing this time to come home with me. Later, I heard from her neighbor that she had found a home for herself: the other party was a man who had pursued her for many years, and this man was well-off, but his appearance was too bumpy.
After learning the truth that my wife had mixed with other men before I divorced me, I theorized with my wife that my wife confessed to wearing a green hat for me, and said to me hardly, I don't expect to divide the family property from you when I divorce, not to mention that the house also belongs to your premarital property, and there is nothing to divide. Therefore, I want to divorce you with the mentality of leaving the house. Since my wife has said everything about this, it seems impolite for me to continue to pestering her. So, I finally agreed to my wife's divorce request. Divorce procedures are currently in progress. The experience of licking the dog in this relationship made me very painful, but after all, I have worked hard in this relationship, so when I really have to face the divorce result, I am actually quite heartbroken, but I also need to face the divorce result.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
In life, you will indeed encounter similar love: you have always been in a state of pleasing each other in this relationship, during this period, as long as you can not meet the requirements of the other party, the other party will be angry, the key is to know that the cold war between the two people is the result of the other party's unreasonable trouble, but the other party has no sense of apology, during this period, if you are not willing to take the initiative to apologize, the other party will always be cold war with you. Find that no, in the field of feelings, the beloved party often shows no fear. At this time, the truth of the other party's heart: you just can't do without the other party's licking dog anyway. So that even if the other party makes a mistake of principle, the other party will not have a trace of guilt. Such feelings, when it is really about to be lost, some people will show regret, while some people will show an attitude of indifference and feel that after being withdrawn from your side, the next one will be better.
Obviously, your wife did not show gratitude because of your humility in married life, but felt that she had more choices, especially after she now had a flower protector around her, and she was more confident about divorce. So, in the face of such a woman, perhaps divorce is the best outcome.
The reason why you feel heartache now may not have much to do with the divorce itself, but you are not willing to let your efforts be easily wasted. However, when you are truly divorced and can calmly think about your wife's disposition, you will feel that you are really divorced.
Perhaps, in this relationship, your wife has not really loved at all, so that she is not willing to invest, the key is that you should be grateful, unfortunately your wife does not. The reason why she chose to be with you in the first place was because you were superior to the man who had pursued her for many years. Now, the reason why she wants to divorce the other party and you is that she feels that your attitude towards her after marriage is very different from before marriage.
Some women are like this: in addition to taking, they do not experience the difficulties of men at all. So that after marriage, when men can not continue to provide themselves as fairies, it will be extremely psychologically unbalanced, the key is that married life originally needs to be grounded. Perhaps, after your wife and lover reorganize the family, the lover will also be impatient with your wife because she wants to pursue the minimum equality between men and women, or care that your wife has a history of marriage, and at that time, your wife will realize one thing: there will be quarrels after who you marry. However, when your wife understands this truth, you have completely disappeared from her life, even if your wife regrets it, there is no regret medicine to take. Therefore, the cruel reality that a woman needs to admit her fate is that all feelings will be deduced to be high and low, and in holding feelings, it is necessary to let yourself have the minimum dedication, if you have to let yourself exist selfishly, then the final harvest and loss must be yourself.
Unfortunately, there are always some women who are young and beautiful, and present a lofty posture in marriage, the key is that a woman's best years are also in those years, in order to continue to maintain a relatively active posture in married life, what needs to be done includes: while taking, you must also know how to pay. If you are selfish and unwilling to give in a relationship, then it is really difficult to say who will be the loser in the emotional field in the end.
Heartache is very normal in the face of the impending collapse of marriage. However, divorce is definitely not the end of the world, after all, there is still a long way to go. In the face of a selfish, spending person who he once held, after breaking up with the other party, he may use the shortest possible time to withdraw himself from the relationship. After all, in the adult world, you can't always immerse yourself in the unbearable memories of the past, because looking forward and striving to live a better life is the right way to open a new life.
Editor's Note:
In the field of feelings, everyone needs to respect each other, only in this way, in order to make both parties in a more comfortable state, if in a relationship to know the request, the key is that their own demand is sometimes beyond the other party's ability to complete, at this time, the other party may feedback to you an impatience. So, a lot of times, we should have this attitude, if the other party treats you the way you treat the other person, can you stand it?
In this life, we will meet a person who is not related to himself to form a new family, and in the case of a more comfortable marriage relationship, the other party will be the one who accompanies him to his old age. Therefore, we should form a very good mutual relationship in this relationship, rather than fighting for each other to love you, wreaking all kinds of rages in front of each other, and being careful in exchange for the result of the other party saving enough disappointment and taking the initiative to withdraw from you. In addition, even if you are the initiator of divorce, then one day in the future you will be burdened with too much conscience debt, so that you will feel guilty.
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