Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a motivational theory in psychology, which divides human needs into five types, which are progressively followed by a hierarchy: physiological needs, security needs, belonging and love needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs. Human conscious action revolves around these five needs, and feelings are no exception.
When you choose to love someone, you subconsciously consider your own needs. When the other person can't meet your needs, love disappears, so love is selfish to some extent.
The most typical is the "true love" in marriage, vigorous before marriage, wind and snow, physical and psychological freshness have been satisfied, but after marriage, with the tedious daily life, long-term getting along, the stimulation of dopamine desire can not be satisfied, there will be "red apricot out of the wall" and "golden house hidden jiao" accident.
Love can be selfish, but marriage can't, and marriage is often born with responsibilities and obligations. Therefore, when Xiao San met the original match, he only dared to shout that he was "true love" and did not dare to say that he was the right lord.
Article 4 of the original Marriage Law stipulates: "Husband and wife shall be faithful to each other and respect each other; family members shall respect the elderly and love the young, help each other, and maintain equal, harmonious and civilized marriage and family relations." ”
People have the right to pursue love and happiness, but this right is to be based on legal compliance, not infringing on the rights and interests of others, "true love" is not a shield of moral corruption, but there are always xiaosan to take it as a signboard, Guizhou Zunyi Street came from the "we are true love" affectionate remarks.
The gesture of the parties tea and tea was also filmed by the netizens who ate melons on the side of the road and posted them on the Internet. It happened on a street in Zunyi, Guizhou, where a woman, Xiao Wang, was walking alone in the downtown area, carrying a bunch of things in her hand, mostly household items she had bought.
But as he walked, he found that the man not far away looked like his husband, but he still had a young woman by his side, and the two were intimate, and the relationship was obviously not ordinary. In order not to cause "unjust, false and wrongly decided cases", she decided to go inside and explore the nearby, only to find that the man was her husband.
Tired and tired for the family, carrying a large bag and a small bag alone, the husband is out to live happily, which woman can stand it. She rushed forward to pull the widowed man and woman apart, cursing her husband for having no conscience, and hating the little three on the side, after all, no one wanted a third party in their marriage.
Once a third party appears, it means that the painstakingly managed marriage will be broken. The infidelity of this kind of thing does not make a slap, in fact, the culprit that caused the rift in the marriage is her husband. But the husband is a member of the family, and when this happens, the woman is even more angry with the foreign intruder.
So there was a scene of a street dispute. Xiao Wang tore on the spot and rushed up to teach Xiao San a lesson, but what made people chill was that Xiao Wang's husband did not have the slightest guilt, not only considering his wife's feelings, but even when the two women fought, they also chose to protect Xiao San tightly behind him.
He and Xiao Wang have been married for many years and raised children, but the passion between the two has long since faded, and he projects physical and belonging needs onto Xiao San, if women are animals that think with emotion, men are completely puppets manipulated by desire, especially this kind of man who lacks morality and responsibility.
Xiao San Tea pretended to be aggrieved and shouted the oath of "We are true love", and he pitied the difficulty of the third party, using "true love" as an arrow to ruthlessly pierce the heart of the original match.
Little Three is pitiful, should his wife who bears children for him and takes care of the housework be hurt? Seeing that her husband protected Xiao San and did not let go, Xiao Wang's heart was also cold, and he cried: "I thought you were working hard outside, but I didn't expect the bunting flag to flutter outside, I had to take care of a family while I was working, but you and this little goblin were having a lot of fun outside, are you worthy of me like this?" ”
But tears cannot be exchanged for conscience, and if he could really understand his wife's hardships, he would not have done anything to betray the marriage and violate morality. Love is precious, the price of freedom is higher, and true freedom is not debauchery, but restraint, is the nobility of the soul, in this farce, Xiao San and Xiao Wang's husband only have selfish love, and the fragmentation of a family often comes from selfishness.
Finally, under the persuasion of the crowd of onlookers, the three people separated, and after this trouble, Xiao Wang's marriage was probably shaky. In the face of such a thing, many women will choose to forgive for the sake of family and children, as long as their husbands change their minds, but as everyone knows, cheating has only been 0 times and countless times.
If Xiao Wang chooses to divorce, she can also take legal measures to protect her legitimate rights and interests. If the divorce by agreement is not successful, divorce proceedings can be filed.
Article 1079 of the Civil Code stipulates that where one of the spouses requests a divorce, the relevant organization may mediate or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. The people's court hearing a divorce case shall conduct mediation; if the feelings have truly broken down and the mediation is ineffective, the divorce shall be granted.
In any of the following circumstances, where mediation is ineffective, divorce shall be granted:
(1) Bigamy or cohabitation with another person;
(2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;
(3) Have vices such as gambling or drug addiction that do not change;
(4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;
(5) Other circumstances leading to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.
However, if a divorce proceeding is filed on the grounds that one party has cheated on it, the court will not award divorce based on this without relevant evidence. And not only to come up with evidence of the other party's cheating, but also to supplement it with evidence to prove the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife, after mediation, mediation is invalid before it will be judged to be divorced.
However, if one party appeals again to divorce after the expiration of one year of filing a divorce lawsuit, the court will approve it in accordance with law. As the wrong party in the marriage, Xiao Wang's husband will be less divided in accordance with the principle of taking care of the woman and the no-fault party when dividing the joint property of the husband and wife.
Even if Xiao Wang is divorced in the end, and his husband and true love are together, just imagine, how far can two people who can turn their backs on morality go? Some people call marriage a shackle, saying that it is the graveyard of love, in fact, there can still be sweet love in marriage, there are many ways to meet physical and emotional needs, and infidelity is undoubtedly the lowest one.
(Involving privacy, the names in this case are pseudonyms, and some of the pictures are from the Internet, which only matches the narrative.) Warm reminder: respect the original, please do not plagiarize and reprint Oh. ）