Whether it is relatives and friends, or parents themselves, they like to look for similarities with themselves in their children, such as looks, IQ, personality, etc., such as:
"This child is lively and cheerful, and has the same personality as his mother."
"This kid is like his dad, he has few words, he's a steady one."
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But sometimes, you will also find that both parents are a chronic child, and the result is that the child is an acute child;
Or the parents are outgoing and cheerful, but the child is restrained and timid, and can't help but have a sigh: Is this child born to me?
In fact, the formation of children's personality is affected by two aspects, one is the innate genetic factor, and the other is the acquired environmental factor.
Innate genetic factors: the child's personality has been decided as early as the mother's belly.
The emotions of pregnant mothers will affect the child's personality
During pregnancy, if the pregnant mother is in a happy mood and has small mood swings, the child has a good personality and a good temper. If the pregnant mother has large emotional fluctuations and is prone to anger, anxiety, and short temper, the baby will also become restless in the stomach, and many babies will become fond of tantrums after birth.
The bigger factor is actually related to the child's acquired living environment.
Different living environments will obviously affect children's way of thinking, speech and behavior.
- The influence of family environment on the formation of human personality
The main way of learning of human beings is imitation, the way parents behave in the world, as well as the usual speech and behavior, are the objects of imitation of children, if parents give children a good example, children will form a good character.
If the child grows up in an environment where the parents are often arguing, disharmonious, and domestic violence, the child's personality may be timid and cowardly, emotionally impermanent, and not good at communicating with others.
- The influence of schooling on character formation
After the child goes out of the house, there are more than ten years of time spent in the school, and during the school study, it is the initial stereotype period of the child's personality formation, so a good school and a good teacher will have an impact on the child's life.
- The influence of the social environment on the formation of human personality
After graduation, teenagers begin to go to society, and their personalities are basically fixed. But this does not mean that their personality will never change again, and the positive atmosphere and positive energy of society will also be of great help to the formation of people's good character.
As the saying goes: parents are the child's first teacher, in the early stage of the formation of the child's personality, their personality characteristics are imitated by adults, even if they go to school and go to society later, the family is also directly or indirectly affecting the child's personality.
And the child's IQ, like personality, is also affected by genetics and environment.
40% of the IQ in childhood is determined by genetic factors, and if both parents are high IQ, then the probability of the child being a high IQ will be greatly increased.
However, the physiological development mechanism of the brain is much more complex than the physiological development mechanism of our body, and the medical community is still unable to explore the true mystery of the brain, and we can only determine two things:
Both the genes of the father and the mother have an effect on the child's intellectual formation, and the mother's influence may be larger, but the difference is small.
What are the main aspects of the acquired environment that affect intelligence?
- Educational methods
The difference in educational methods affects the intellectual development of children, the traditional cramming teaching method and today's heuristic teaching, situational teaching methods, the latter education methods guide children to use more brains, think more, children's intelligence can be better developed. The way parents educate their children also affects their children's intellectual development.
- Family atmosphere
If parents love to read and love to learn at home, children are edified in this environment, and it is easy to develop the habit of loving reading, and have a strong desire for knowledge, this spirit of independent learning will allow children to achieve high achievements in a certain field.
- For economic reasons
Economic strength determines what kind of environment children can learn in and what kind of education they can receive. Families with good economic strength, children are more knowledgeable, and children with more knowledge are more flexible in doing things.
- Whether to seize the critical period
Children generally have a variety of sensitive periods at the age of 0-6, the so-called sensitive period refers to the growth process of 0-6 years old, the child's learning ability is particularly strong period. Grasping the sensitive period of children to train and learn can often play a multiplier effect with half the effort. If you miss the sensitive period of learning, the learning effect is likely to be half the work.
0-3 years old has a critical period of intellectual development, this time more and children to communicate, and children to play intelligence, can promote the development of the baby's nerves and intelligence, so that the baby is more intelligent.
Before the age of 3, the child's main life is the family, and the parents are the starting line of the child's life.