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The wish of parents is very simple, nothing more than to let children grow up healthy and happy, but there are always "special babies" around us, and at the same time, the mental health of these "special babies" is more worthy of attention.
No abnormalities were detected at the obstetric examination, and the boy was born without fingers on his left hand
The video of a 4-year-old boy making dumplings in Henan has triggered many netizens to discuss on the Internet, because the 4-year-old boy has no fingers in his left hand, which makes everyone feel sad.
According to the child's mother, when she was pregnant, the obstetric examination did not find any abnormalities, and it was only after the boy was born that it was found that there were no fingers on the left hand.
So the whole family told the boy a white lie, telling the boy that he had lost his finger because he had protected his mother in his stomach and fought with dinosaurs.
The good and gentle lies grew up with the boy, although the left hand did not have fingers, but the boy has basic life skills, and the whole family loves him very much.
Can't a maternity check completely rule out fetal development defects?
The popularity of four-year-old boys has made more people start to pay attention to the obstetric examination, the so-called prenatal examination is not to detect the situation of the fetus and the mother, why is there no problem with the obstetric examination, and the baby is born without fingers?
In fact, all current obstetric examinations have certain limitations, and can not exclude all abnormalities in fetal development through a series of examinations, coupled with the fact that the mother's physical state and fetal position during the obstetric examination are very random, which will affect the results of the obstetric examination, and errors are unavoidable.
The most critical point is that the abnormalities that can be excluded by prenatal color ultrasound are mostly serious structural abnormalities, and the larger the deviation, the easier it is to be found, that is to say, the inconspicuous defects are not easy to be found.
Although the obstetric examination cannot exclude all developmental abnormalities, it cannot deny the role of the obstetric examination, and the obstetric examination is still necessary out of a responsible attitude towards the mother and fetus.
If both parents have a family history of genetic diseases, relevant tests can also be done before pregnancy to avoid abnormal fetal development to the greatest extent. Even if a healthy baby is born, it is necessary to do a good job of newborn physical examination and various screenings.
How to guide children with congenital defects is what parents should think about the most
There are errors in obstetric examinations, but the love and education of parents will not, we cannot avoid unfortunate things falling on us, but we can use love and correct education to reduce the impact of misfortune on children.
In the face of flawed children, love is essential, but it must also give them a certain ability to live.
First of all, parents should be strong and let their children learn to accept their imperfections from an early age. If you feel too cruel and always escape from reality, your child's ability to accept will decline with age, but it will be more difficult to face his own flaws after understanding things.
What parents have to do is to let their children face it from an early age, and parents themselves should not always show sad emotions, so that children realize that it is very important.
The process of making children accept themselves is actually very long, and even difficult, and as a parent, you need to be more patient.
If you scold the child because he is slow to learn or has limited ability, it will aggravate his inferiority, lead to serious self-denial, and even escape from reality.
Second, parents should help their children master a little skill. Having skills or strengths can help children improve their self-identification, and even if they are physically defective, they can gain the respect and like of those around them through skills.
Finally, let the people around you accept the child. Defective children sooner or later to go out of the family, to understand and contact the outside world, for defective children, kindergartens and primary schools are very important, equipment and teaching quality can be ignored, the key is the school atmosphere, to be inclusive, warm.
A person's value is composed of two parts, one is a healthy and complete body, and the other is a sound soul and personality, compared to the role of personality on personal value is the greatest.
We must not only love and care for defective children, but also let them struggle, learn and enjoy life like normal children!