To get along with people, we must take into account the weaknesses of human nature, get along with society, and consider the social environment. The so-called way of dealing with the world is always a very test of a person's wisdom, emotional intelligence and ability.
In fact, the first growth of people is more or less in the real realization that they are not the center of the world, and become humble.
Curb your personality, manage your emotions, restrain your instincts, and when you reach a certain age, you will find yourself having to do so.
Everyone takes a different path, so the content of the world that is summarized, understood, and inferred is also different. You don't have to take other people's truths too seriously and continue to follow your own path, but if some truths are worth thinking about and inspiring to people, you may be able to use them to warn yourself.
Although the truth always has to be realized by oneself, it will come more profoundly. Perhaps the wisdom of survival, to the extreme, is also a process of understanding "man".
10 ways for people to live and must understand!
1. Bring gifts as guests.
Especially in the case of children and parents in the other party's home, the mood of entertaining you is different, whether you receive it in the end, you just need to do yourself. Don't care if others need it or not, or always think that the other person doesn't need it, and infinitely overestimate each other's relationships.
At least this is your attention and courtesy, even if people don't say it, but the feeling in their hearts is different. If you don't want to spend this money, don't just agree to someone else's invitation.
2, people are subjective.
Try not to argue with people, it is meaningless, you can't change the other person's mind, the other party can't change your idea. Ask yourself, why do you have to argue with people? Is it really about right and wrong? No, you're just defending your point of view.
At the same time, don't believe too much in other people's opinions, statements, and suggestions, and you must have judgment to absorb those contents that can be absorbed.
3, friends are relationships.
The essence of social networking is value exchange, there is no value, it is useless for you to know anyone, the value of social reality is not equal, and even the best relationship will gradually be estranged. When you feel that a person knocks on the door, it may just be that you are not worth enough, so it is meaningless to be generous with you.
The maintenance of friendship relationship mainly depends on exchanges, everyone has come and gone, no matter what benefits they get, they must also let each other taste some sweetness.
4, do not think that you are smart.
I remember reading a sentence, which probably means that in this world, everyone is similarly smart, so you take advantage of the other party, and the other party knows it in their hearts, but they are too lazy to bother with you. Don't be complacent and think you're smart and the other person doesn't notice.
Don't play your little cleverness in front of people, often lift a stone to drop your own feet, all people who like to take advantage of small advantages, in the end will suffer big losses because of small cheap.
5. Mobilize action of interests.
Give someone some sweetness and ask someone to help you, or you want someone to do something for you. The world is bustling and all are profitable; the world is bustling and all are profitable. Without interests, people have no action and motivation, even if they are your subordinates, your juniors.
6, do not get too close to people.
If you don't want your relationship to break down sooner, don't get too close, even if you're like-minded, have similar interests, and are very happy together. Because between people, once they are close, it is easy to lose their sense of proportion and become accountable.
The relationship between adults is that as long as there is a gap, they can no longer get closer. The better the relationship, the more cautious you must be.
7, do not trust others casually.
You never know the true psychology of others, no matter what the relationship, in this world, only parents are really hoping that you are getting better and better. People also have jealousy, and it is normal for you to be poor and afraid that you are rich, for example, when you do a glorious thing, there are always people around you to add fuel to you to find some disgraceful motives.
For other people's words, don't take it too seriously, whether it is good or bad, people who say that they are good for you, some are too proven.
8, less jokes with people.
In particular, don't joke about other people's shortcomings and shortcomings, as well as those experiences that are not decent enough, which is easy to poke at the other party's sore spots, just as the so-called speaker has no intention of listening.
In many cases, you may feel that your relationship is very close, the feelings are very deep, even if it is a joke, it is nothing. But have you ever thought that this is just your own feeling, and the other party does not think the same. If you don't know a person, then don't assume on the surface that he is a joke.
9, less complaints of bitter water.
No one likes to listen, such as friends looking for you to eat and drink, in fact, it is to be happy, to relax, if you bring your own negative emotions into it, and completely immersed in their own negative emotions, endlessly complaining, complaining, which fundamentally destroys the other party's good mood.
When you are finished venting, maybe the mood will be better, but you have made the other party in the mood. In this world, no one really likes to hear you complain.
10. Grasp the skills of communication.
Never interrupt others; always guide others to talk more and listen more to themselves; never correct each other's mistakes in person, and never talk about topics that only interest you.
At the same time, I must also be a qualified listener, respond to the other party with my eyes, and tell the other party that I am listening seriously. Or appropriately put forward some rhetorical questions, say what you don't understand, and guide the other party to make a more complete and comprehensive statement.
In fact, many things are not difficult to understand, as long as a person knows how to think and is good at summarizing. This means that he is willing to learn, can also see the part of himself that needs to grow, is deeply aware of his own shortcomings, and tries to change.
Maybe life is like this, you are not allowed to be introverted, and you are not allowed to be simple, forcing you to change into what you do not want to change into.
If life is divided into the first half and the second half, then the first half is a process from simple to complex, and later it is a process from complexity to simplicity. Some people may say, then why bother?
This is not a superfluous move, but the simplicity of the second half of life, which needs to be supported by a certain experience and temperament, knowing the world and not the world.
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