For a person's silence, there is a saying on the Internet that says:
"If you become more and more silent, less and less talkative, it is not that you are old, but that you are mature." 」
Deeply.
The reason why a person is becoming more and more mature is probably because he looks down on many things and sees through many people.
The reason why a person is becoming more and more silent and more reluctant to speak is often because of the following four reasons.
My heart was broken
Choose to be reticent
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"Silence is an unconcealed loss."
I agree.
In the relationship, after experiencing too much repetition and disappointment, even the hottest heart will lose its temperature.
Just as when you share with each other with joy, his response is cold; when you are full of grievances and talk to the other party, his attitude is accusations and complaints.
Again and again, he pours out your enthusiasm, ignores your feelings, and over time, you will not take the initiative to mention it, let alone talk about him, but become "quiet and sensible".
When a person's heart is broken, he will become quieter and quieter, more and more silent, because he will not want to say anything if he says that he is not cared for, he is not expected.
Just so-called: light mourning and many words, great mourning and silence.
After all, the human heart is not a dress, broken can also be sewn to mend, once the human heart is hurt to hopeless, it will be full of grievances and hearts are hidden, and then choose silence to replace the heart death.
In this world, leaves do not turn yellow every day, and people's hearts do not become cooler every day.
If not hurt, who wants to be silent and relatively speechless?
No more trust
I don't dare to say it to anyone
Why are people becoming more and more silent?
Probably because I have experienced too many things, I gradually understand that only silence is the most peaceful way to deal with the world.
Young and ignorant, too many emotions are often declared in the mouth, the relationship is not smooth, the workplace complains, the ups and downs in life, unreservedly "spit" to the people around them.
Unconditionally believe that they will stand with you, listen sincerely and give you comfort, but you don't know that your pain behind your back is a joke after dinner in others.
As the saying goes: people's hearts are unpredictable, and trust is rare.
There are not many people in this world, who are really worthy of your heart and lungs to trust, and there is not much affection, it is worth your sincere efforts without complaint or regret.
As the writer Tong Hua said:
"The human heart in this world is complex, there is deception, there is jealousy, there is betrayal, there is hurt. I'm not going to lie to people, but I don't trust anyone easily now. ”
Therefore, hiding the words in your heart and being a person who is not alarmed and emotionally stable is the way to deal with the world.
Life is too stressful
Get used to suffering in silence
I have seen such a picture, there is a colleague, after work, either go to the roof to blow the wind, or smoke a cigarette in the car in the parking lot, in the mud and sand life, get used to being alone, dissolve all the bad emotions and then go home.
When he entered the house, he behaved lightly in front of his wife and children because he did not want them to worry.
Working far away from home, I was obviously tired and wanted to cry, but I picked up the phone and smiled and told my parents, I am very good here, I am afraid that they will have to worry about their old age.
Because there are guardians, even if the clouds are miserable in their hearts, their faces are also spring breezes.
Because of the people who have loved, even if life is difficult, they have to grit their teeth and trek.
As Bi Shumin said:
"At a certain age, you can no longer talk like a child when things happen, cry when you are unhappy, but more hide your heart in your chest, brew wine, self-intoxication, self-digestion." 」
Before them, we keep our sorrows silent, our sufferings silently endured, and we appealed to joy and left behind joy. There is as much silence as there is love.
See through life and understand that it is useless to talk more
I have seen such a sentence:
"Silence precedes despair, and silence follows growth."
True.
A person becomes silent and speechless, more because he sees through the sophistication of people and the coldness of the world.
Perhaps in the past, I would always care a lot about other people's evaluation of myself, and when I heard gossip, I was grumpy, and when I was misunderstood, I was eager to argue, and I said it when I encountered a little unfairness.
Experienced more things, eclipsed and hurt, but also understood, your joy and sorrow, want to understand very few people, abounds in the fun, grievances to talk more has become a pretense, small things more calculations will appear stingy.
Birds can't understand the fish that sway at the bottom of the pond, and we can't ask others to empathize.
Life is your own, you don't have to show it to others, you don't have to care about other people's opinions, sometimes, saying more wrong, silence is more convincing than explanation.
Choosing silence is a kind of maturity, looking down on many things, seeing many people clearly, not making noise, not being silent, and having the power to be silent.
The water is silent, and the people are steady.
Feelings or life, but like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Life is short, and if you become more and more silent and more reluctant to speak, you must understand that many things, many people, are not as important as you think.
After all, people who care about you don't need to say much, and people who don't care about you don't need to say it.
For the rest of your life, may your silence be golden, silent and joyful, not afraid of the changes of time, and live happily and freely.
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