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Inertia is a human instinct that instinctively yearns for a comfortable and comfortable life. Therefore, for human beings, self-motivation is very rare, and self-motivation is almost the standard for successful people.
In real life, no one does not envy the life of the rich, and the daily expenses of those successful people can even cover the expenses of ordinary people for half a year, and the life and resources they enjoy are even more enviable.
But when you ask an ordinary person why you don't want to be a rich person yourself, people will hesitate, because it is not easy to become a real rich man.
So, where do the rich people come from? Are some people born rich? The answer is definitely no.
The reason why ordinary people can only do nothing in their lifetime is because no matter what ideas ordinary people have, they will only put them in their minds, will not pay practical actions, and dare not take the first step.
Coupled with the impetuous modern social environment, the fast pace of life and great pressure, most people have been crushed by reality when they have no ideas, and people are willing to degenerate and become plain people.
The reasons for successful people to succeed vary, but most people who are willing to fall have the following five common characteristics. When these five characteristics appear in a person, it means that he has begun to fall.
First: loss of self-confidence
Self-confidence will make a person shine, self-confidence is not only a person's good character, but also can promote people to forge ahead. Believing in yourself is not a simple thing, but this requires people to be confident, and confident people are the most beautiful.
In real life, when encountering difficulties, those who are confident can always get through the difficulties more easily, while those who have no self-confidence to speak of will only fall in front of the predicament, stop moving forward, and suffer from serious mental stimulation.
At this time, people who are not confident are like a kite that can't help the wind, as long as there is a little wind and grass, it may lead to a complete collapse of their spirits. In the rest of their lives, it was difficult for them to regain their self-confidence and move forward.
There are also some people who are not completely self-confident, but are afraid of accepting challenges and afraid of failure.
Most of these people have encountered many failures and blows in their previous experiences, making them gradually become afraid to try, and they do not have the courage to face failure again.
In fact, failure is not terrible, as the saying goes: "Failure is the mother of success." ”
And what people really have to face is not failure, but their own hearts, and the blows that life can give us are all skin, and only your own denial is a real blow to yourself.
Second: self-injury awareness becomes stronger
Self-harm is similar to self-harm but not as severe as the latter, and self-harm includes both physical and mental injury. In modern times, staying up late for a long time, playing games, smoking a lot, and drinking heavily are all kinds of self-harm.
These behaviors may not see the impact on the body for a while and a half, but over time, the harm to the body is very large and irreparable.
The decline in physical condition will definitely affect the psychology, and most people with poor health may not be able to be mentally healthy.
Therefore, the balance of the body is broken, and over time the state of mind will change, if you do not want your life to become a mess from now on, you must stay away from the above self-injurious behavior.
Third: addicted to the Internet and confused reality
Modern people are inseparable from smart phones, smart phones in addition to the convenience of people, but also to people to bring a lot of immediacy enjoyment, such as short video platforms, mobile games and so on.
People will pick up their phones and can't put them down, sometimes hours will pass in a flash, which is a waste of time, and when you think you're reading information on these platforms, time is actually wasted.
Fourth: Be content with the status quo
Most people in society are satisfied with the status quo, which is not special, when a person's life is stable, it is difficult to have the momentum to rush upwards.
Especially after some achievements, people will immediately begin to enjoy the results they have gained, so as to give up the struggle and stop moving forward. And it is precisely this state of life that is content with the status quo that will make people gradually flat, calm and mediocre.
Fifth: Proud of the light things
People who are too arrogant are doomed to succeed. Perhaps they did achieve some enviable results at this moment.
When they put themselves above everyone else, they will ignore the voices of the people around them, they will begin to think that they are superior, and they do not care to communicate too much with the people around them, and they will rest on their laurels.
This will lead to their ideological heights never stagnating, and their horizons will be difficult to broaden, so the chances of success are naturally minimal. And this is one of the biggest characteristics of a person who used to have some ability to fall willingly.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.