This is the story of the 134th real person we tell
My name is Song Doudou @ my name is Song Tuotuo, a 28-year-old chengdu native.
It is said that children who are fed by stories are full of heart and rich, and I have longed to become Snow White since I was a child and have perfect love. But when you grow up, you find that the story of the princess and the prince is not all beautiful, and there is also the cruelty of the prince betraying love, and the fairy tale is just a bubble after all.
In fact, divorce is not terrible, nor shameful, it is an opportunity to re-examine the self, but also a nirvana. I am like this, after the divorce, not only did not have decadence, nor did I give up on myself, but I became an example in the minds of many people.
(December 2021, third day of divorce with children)
In 2011, when I was just 18 years old, I was still fantasizing about the distant future, but I was tricked by fate and fell off the cliff of life.
Originally, with my grades, there was no problem in taking a better second book, however, the college entrance examination was unwell for a few days, resulting in abnormal nervousness, and the result was abnormal, and only three books were barely obtained.
At that time, I was most afraid of facing my parents, who worked hard to relieve our worries, but I only got such results. However, all the worries seem to be superfluous. My parents didn't have too much of a harsh rebuke, but just told me to follow my heart and learn a good profession.
(January 2013, review in bed before the college entrance examination)
It is said that my daughter is the intimate little cotton jacket of my parents, because the three tuition fees are particularly expensive, in order to reduce the burden on the family, I took the initiative to choose a college. At that time, I held my breath in my heart, thinking that as long as it was gold, it would glow everywhere.
And with the support of my parents, I no longer wandered because of the mistakes of the college entrance examination. Because I was particularly sensitive to numbers since I was a child, and when I was a little older, I was determined to become an accountant in the future, so I did not hesitate to fill in the accounting major for the choice of specialty.
After entering the university, in order to make up for the regret of the college entrance examination that year, I put all my mind into studying. While the other students were in the middle of the month, I kept going back and forth between the classroom and the dormitory, and lived a long monotonous life of two o'clock and one line.
(20-year-old me and my mother went to a birthday party)
But what girl doesn't yearn for sweet love? I have also fantasized about what my future lover will be like. It is said that 500 times in the past life can be exchanged for the encounter in this life, and that summer, inadvertently, I met him.
In 2013, when I was a junior in college, I took advantage of the summer vacation to work and study in a restaurant in Chengdu. I never thought about what would happen in such an ordinary post. However, the gears of fate made me encounter the most beautiful encounter in my life, and it also became a lingering experience for the rest of my life.
Where young people get together, there will always be a lot of laughter, and we are no exception, colleagues will always giggle and laugh after work, and there is a boy in this group, which makes a special impression on me.
(In 1999, I was 6 years old in Jintang, and my mother said that when I was a child, I was very skinny)
He was funny and humorous, and he could often tell a lot of jokes to make us laugh. And I often feel that there is a pair of warm eyes behind me, paying attention to me at all times. Whenever I was exhausted from work, he would always appear in front of me at the right time, make me happy and make me laugh.
At first, I only treated him as an ordinary colleague or friend, and did not have special feelings for him. However, he launched a fierce pursuit of me, not only making me happy every day, but also often booing and greeting me warmly.
His care is like the sun in early winter, everything is so suitable, intoxicated into my heart.
It is said that feelings can be slowly accumulated, at the beginning I did not feel for him, after half a year of enthusiastic pursuit, gradually moved by his vitality and warmth, agreed to associate with him.
Soon, I found a job after graduating from college, and he was in his senior year. At that time, we were all busy with our careers and studies, and we only got together on weekends.
(I will laugh and live every day for the rest of my life)
In my mind, life is not a novel, without those vigorous plots, it is plain and ordinary every day. And I thought that this blandness would continue until the end of our lives.
However, the idea is always beautiful, but the reality gives me a cruel blow. In 2015, when he was a senior in college, he actually threw me away and got along with a schoolgirl.
When I heard the news, the once beautiful feelings collapsed, and the mood was like a fierce wind and waves. But I had never experienced such a thing, and I didn't know what to do for a while.
I just remember that I was out of control and asked him, why? Then those beautiful moments passed in front of my eyes like a movie, and the one who said that he wanted to accompany me through life was getting smaller and smaller.
When I burst into tears and asked him to choose between me and my sister, he chose the latter, saying that she needed more care.
(After wiping away my tears, no one can see that I have cried)
The feeling of heartache is hopeless. I was heartbroken, felt like the whole world had turned gray, and often shut myself in the house alone, intoxicated in pain in the dark.
In fact, from the very beginning, my mother was not optimistic about this relationship, she always comforted me, and made me a good meal every day. With the care of my family, I also slowly came out of my sadness and placed it in a corner of my heart, no longer easily opened.
Life does not exist for one person, and we can neither predict what is going to happen, nor can we predict the future. So, when I accepted reality and wanted to live the next day, surprises came unexpectedly.
Half a year or so after the first breakup, without warning, he suddenly appeared in front of me again. I thought there would be no more waves in my heart, but when he cried bitterly and begged for my forgiveness, his heart softened again.
(Strong life, brave to face all difficulties)
Sealing memories does not mean forgetting, and at this time I realized that I had never forgotten him in my heart. But I didn't know until later, because the student sister chose to break up with him, so he found me again.
As the saying goes, falling in love makes people stupid. And at that time, I was like a fool, blinded by love, firmly believing that people are not sages and sages can be blameless, but I forgot that some people are easy to change their nature and difficult to move.
After getting back together with him in 2015, we did have a really sweet time. At that time, after he graduated from college, I accompanied him to Anhui to start a career, and he was also particularly self-motivated, his career was booming, and his salary also rose with the water.
With goals, life will have endless motivation. Because his family conditions are not very good, he has to rely on himself for everything, so he works hard every day, just to buy a marriage house with a high salary.
(Bought yourself a new dress with powder)
In 2019, we finally ushered in the most important moment of our lives and entered the palace of marriage. Amid the blessings of friends and family, we promise to spend our lives together.
At that time, I was undoubtedly the happiest, and I didn't think about the difference between being in love and after marriage. For example, when you completely expose yourself to the other party, can you still maintain the lasting heat like when you are in love? I suffered a big loss in this regard.
Soon after the marriage, I became pregnant, and my body had all kinds of discomfort, so I put all my energy into the matter of pregnancy, and ignored a lot of his feelings. After becoming a mother, I was once exquisite, but I began to be untrimmed, and I was sloppy every day.
At that time he also said to me a few times occasionally, asking me why I stopped dressing up. At the time, I thought he was just talking casually, but I didn't hear what he was saying.
2020 is the happiest time of my life, with the birth of my son, every day is very busy. Just when I was immersed in the happy and trivial life of taking children and enjoying a family of three, I did not expect that under the appearance of a peaceful marriage, there was already a dark tide.
It wasn't until May of the following year that I suddenly discovered that my husband had cheated on me.
(This is my full moon photo in 1993, and my mother said that my son looked very similar to me when I was a child.)
The moment I learned the truth, I slumped down on the couch and couldn't speak for a long time. The scene of that year is vividly remembered, and the oath is still clear and clear, but now it is no longer human.
Under my questioning, he and the tray came up with everything. It turned out that they had been together since I was pregnant, and they were still a senior.
When I cried again and asked who to choose, I thought that he was just a ghost and would soon return to the family, but he said that the girl was very gentle in heart, and she paid attention to the quality of life, and was very good at dressing, especially for him.
The words that came out of his mouth were like a sharp knife, and they were inserted into my chest fiercely, and my heart ached unbearably. I was angry, ranting, and even crying, and let him make a choice between us. However, he chose someone else again, saying that he did not want her to be hurt.
At that moment, I understood that all these years of my efforts now seemed to be dispensable, so I also began to re-examine the bits and pieces that had happened along the way.
(In December 2021, the company team was built, and the departure photo taken at home was taken)
There is only a difference between 0 times and countless times, and it was only then that I understood that some things cannot be forgiven.
We discussed it before the divorce and set aside a six-month cooling-off period for each other's divorce. From acquaintance to separation, in 7 years, we have witnessed each other's growth, and in the future, we will be different and each will be fine.
During that time, I did not dare to go home, always hiding in the rental house to secretly shed tears and reflect on myself. It is said that a slap on the wrist cannot be made, and in this short marriage relationship, although he has made mistakes first, I also have an unshirkable responsibility.
After the cooling-off period, my son gave it to him and I got out of the house. When I went to get a divorce certificate that day, I thought I would be unable to suppress my tears, but I didn't have a single tear. It was really sad, but it was also a relief. After calmly completing the testimony and saying goodbye to each other, each of them went to a new life track.
These years busy with the family, neglected or even given up a lot, now back to single, have more time to manage their own future, and found a favorite accounting job, can take the salary they earned, shine in the post, my heart is very full.
At the same time, he also had a bold idea, picked up the major and continued his studies, and also applied for a certified public accountant. Now that I have passed two of the exams, I hope that within the next five years, I will be able to successfully take the exams in all subjects and successfully obtain the certificate!
(Accompanying his son to play in the playground)
Although my son did not live with me, he would accompany him every time he took a vacation and told him that although his parents were divorced, it did not affect our love for him.
In life, I am a person who loves to laugh, and there are always many friends and colleagues who say that my smile has warmed their once hurt hearts. Therefore, last year, I also opened a self-media account to share the bits and pieces of life and marriage, as well as the bitterness along the way, and encourage those friends who are still confused in life to be strong and confident. For this reason, I have also gained a large number of fans, who silently pay attention to me and encourage me, and I will live every day with them in the future.
As the saying goes, once bitten by a snake for ten years, I am afraid of the well rope. But I don't agree with this sentence, and when I meet true love again in the future, I will still give it wholeheartedly. Because I always firmly believe that people who love to laugh will not lose, and my future will only be better!
[Oral Narrator: My name is Song Doudou]
【Editor: Yuanyuan】
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