Every year during the Spring Festival, rural people who return to their hometowns will begin to have large-scale blind dates.
It is not easy to find objects in the city, everyone can only return to their hometowns once a year, and they have to wait another year to miss the opportunity of the Spring Festival.
Blind dates are a good thing, but rural blind dates are frequent and outrageous every year.
In recent years, many men on the Internet have complained about the heavy bride price, complaining that the wives who marry home want more and more power, bear less and less obligations, and the rights and responsibilities are obviously not equal, whether it is men in the city or men in the countryside.
They feel that this is something that extreme feminism has provoked, and extreme feminism also feels that this is their own credit.
In fact, this has nothing to do with extreme feminism, which is purely disgusting, and Westerners have come up with tools to disrupt China's political stability, nothing more.
The core reason, in fact, can be found here in rural blind dates.
In the past decade, the price of bride price in rural areas has soared.
In the zero years, the rural bride price also pays attention to a lifetime (11111 yuan), more than 10,000 pieces of basically no pressure on the man, and the woman will return a long -term (9999 yuan) dowry.
From a male perspective, rural daughters-in-law at that time were still generally very "traditional virtuous patronage of the family", which was completely different from now.
Therefore, at that time, marrying relatives in the countryside was an absolute joy, for the man's family.
I don't know whether it was from 2006 or 2007, and the price of dowry in rural areas began to rise gradually.
By 2021, the price of dowry in many rural areas has exceeded 300,000, in addition to the requirement of motionless, that is, the county has a house and a car at home.
Not counting the cost of the caravan, the bride price alone will pay the woman 300,000 yuan, and usually will not bring back much dowry, which makes the vast majority of rural families unable to bear, so the resentment is great.
In 15 years, the bride price soared by 300,000, an average of 20,000 a year, and proportionally it soared 30 times, which was much more than the increase in house prices.
Why can the bride price go up so much? Is it the credit of extreme feminism to hate men and hate men every day, and to incite the antagonism between men and women?
Of course not, these have done nothing but disgusting people and destabilizing society.
To know the answer to this question, you must first think about it, why do rural women dare to ask for so many bride price? Why do rural men dare not ask for so much dowry?
Last year, the village was 150,000 dowry, and this year a girl suddenly wanted 170,000, not afraid of chickens and eggs?
If all the boys in the village knew that this girl was a greedy day and did not dare to touch her, what would be done for the rest of her life?
Why don't boys dare to ask for a dowry of 300,000 yuan, isn't it because they are afraid of chickens flying eggs?
It's hard to have a favorite object, if it's cold because of this, thanks to ah.
But in fact, the price of dowry in the countryside rises year after year, and no girl is afraid of chickens and eggs.
Women dare to ask, men dare to give.
Why? Why do women have this confidence to pay a bride price, and men do not have this confidence to get a dowry?
If the bride price is a Chinese tradition, then the previous rural families were more traditional, and the rural boys and girls in the eighties and nineties were very traditional, and they had never seen such an outrageous bride price.
The real reason is that girls are really not afraid of chickens and eggs, and boys are really afraid of chickens and eggs.
What we think of as blind dates in the conventional sense is one-on-one blind dates, one for each man and woman, and everyone goes out to find a place to get together and talk, but not in the countryside.
But in rural blind dates, girls sit at home and wait, boys come to the door to find girls, and dozens of boys go on the same day and the same girl's home.
A boy will give a few minutes, say a few words and go home and wait for the notice, which is even more outrageous than the interview work.
Rural female dolls with more than 20 boys in a day a day abound.
Rather than saying that it was a blind date, I felt more like the emperor choosing a concubine, but the gender was reversed, and the female emperor chose a male concubine.
A rural girl, sitting at home during the Spring Festival, will have dozens of boys coming to the door to ask for relatives a day.
Dozens of candidates a day are waiting for you to pick, and 3 days directly 100 candidates for the opposite sex.
More than 20,000 pieces of chicken flying eggs to fight?
Then the chicken and egg are played, I drop 10,000 pieces, find the next person.
This is where the rural girls dare to ask for a price.
The reason why rural boys are forced to grit their teeth and promise so many bride price gifts is because they are completely panicked after seeing so many same-sex competitors, and they are afraid that girls will not choose themselves, and they can only give as much as they want, unless they can't afford it at all.
Now I have heard of a rural blind date case, a second-married woman blind date, there are still dozens of unmarried boys around.
The blind date requirements put forward by rural second-married women are that the boy must marry for the first time, and the dowry must be 200,000 yuan, and only when this line is reached can he be eligible for blind dates, otherwise he will not be seen directly.
Just like this, there are dozens of boys around, because good villains can save 100,000 yuan, which is not a small amount in the countryside.
The first-married boy with the second-married woman also has to pay a dowry of 200,000 to the woman, and the height and appearance are usually obviously better than the woman, which is selected by the woman among twenty or thirty candidates. Do you think this condition is fair?
If you think it's unfair, then go cool, there are twenty or thirty unmarried boys around here, and many of you are this one.
In the zero years, the mate selection criteria for rural boys were non-virgins, and there were all kinds of cases of discrimination against non-virgins and direct divorces that were not virgins.
Fifteen years later, the criterion for rural boys to choose a mate is to be able to be born, and there are no other conditions, because there is no qualification to pick conditions.
What is the force that, in 15 years, has lowered the conditions for rural boys to choose a spouse so low, and left behind all the requirements of traditional rules for daughters-in-law?
It is a huge disparity in the ratio of men to women.
The ratio of men to women in China is 104.88 to 100, and men are 30 million more than women, which is the source of the famous 30 million single stick theory.
You think that 30 million male single sticks are terrible, but in fact, this is already the official media whitewashing taiping.
China's marriage problem is more than 30 million men singletons.
The official media reported that the data is true, but he is talking about the ratio of men and women in all Chinese, and the Chinese aged forty or fifty and seventy or eighty are counted.
The mortality rate of men is higher than that of women, and it is normal for women and men to be more in the elderly, but what is the point of you counting all these people.
It is a 20-year-old man and woman who need to be married, not a man and woman in their 70s and 80s.
Babies born in 2000 will enter the marriage market in 2022.
The normal male-to-female ratio is 105 to 100, which is a natural rule, because the probability of a baby boy surviving to adulthood is significantly lower in nature than a baby girl.
But since 1982, China's male-to-female ratio has expanded dramatically, peaking at 118.6 in 2005.
In 2000, China had 116.9 male babies versus 100 female babies, and these people would have a need for marriage in 2022.
At least 17 boys can't find a wife, which is a terrible statistic.
Moreover, the sex birth ratio in the city is much more than obviously normal, and the rural data is actually far more than 117, which is the average data.
A question for you, assuming you are a boy and want to get married, what conditions will you prefer to be single rather than married when the woman proposes?
It must be a very outrageous and very excessive condition that makes you extremely difficult to accept.
It is not until 17 people prefer to be single and do not accept this condition that the male and female marriage market will reach a new dynamic balance.
You think that's the end of it? No, and much more.
Because of the huge economic advantages of the city over the countryside for a long time, many conditions that rural boys cannot accept seem to be easy to accept in urban boys, so a large number of rural women marry into the city.
This is the so-called phenomenon of Chinese men marrying down and women marrying up.
I don't know who is deliberately distorting the facts, saying as if Chinese since ancient times, men want to marry down, women want to marry, and forge this into a Chinese tradition.
But in fact, if you go through the history books, the whole article is written by the door to the door, and there is no word for marriage in any history book, and the frequency of the word "marriage" is very high.
The so-called upper and lower marriages are new words that have been fabricated in recent years.
There has never been such a disparity between men and women in ancient times, and there have never been so many more men than women, and even most of the time there are more men and girls, because war will lead to a large number of deaths of men.
The urban siphon effect has a major impact on the rural marriage market, but the biggest impact is not urban siphon, but the accumulation of single men.
A rural boy has been on blind dates since he was 18 years old.
If you can't find the object you like, will you never get married in this life?
Of course not, he will go on a blind date the following year.
The first year was 115 boys versus 100 girls, assuming there were 15 boys left.
The next year is 130 boys versus 100 girls, and there will be 30 boys left.
The third year is 145 boys vs. 100 girls, and there will be 45 boys left.
And so on and on.
The reporter once visited 9 rural areas in different counties and districts in southern Hebei and found that the ratio of marriageable men and women in 9 rural areas was between 2:1 and 3:1, and the most serious even reached 4:1.
The ratio of male to female births is very large, but the disparity is not as exaggerated as 3 to 1, and the serious imbalance between 3 men and 1 woman can be reached, which is obviously the credit of urban siphon and bachelors.
The older they get, the more unmarried young men are willing to pay the bride price to compensate for their age disadvantage.
117 boys have a serious involution effect on 100 girls, and same-sex killings are extremely severe.
What about 300 boys vs. 100 girls?
The mate selection criteria for rural boys are lowered every year, and the bride price paid is increasing every year, and the root cause is obvious here.
Unless you can conjure up 200 girls, there's no answer to this problem.
Those extreme feminists take the credit for the rise in the bride price on their own heads, and engage in activities where girls help girls every day, purely for gold and earn IQ taxes.
The competitor of men in the marriage market will always be men, and the initiator of raising the bride price so high will always be another man, not a woman.
The more men, the higher the bride price, the more women, the lower the bride price, this is the basic law of unbreakable economics.
Boys helping boys will only lead to more bride price, and girls helping girls will only lead to lower bride price, can it be the other way around?
Some people actually collect women's money through this slogan of reducing women's power, which is not an IQ tax?
But whenever you have worked for a job, you should know that the more bosses you recruit, the higher the salary you can get, the more college students who are looking for jobs, and the lower the salary you can get.
If you want to increase the wage level of Chinese, the best way is to start a business and let everyone become the boss, so that the wage level of the migrant workers will soar, rather than the other way to let everyone stop being the boss and work.
Boys in the city should not think that the chaos of blind dates in the countryside has nothing to do with themselves, because China's population can move freely.
Many people say that there are more leftover men in rural areas and more women left in cities, because a large number of rural girls marry in cities, so it is difficult for high-quality women in cities to marry.
This may seem to be true, but not all.
I ask you a question, as long as the rural girl is willing to go back to her hometown for a blind date, she can choose one of one or two hundred boys to choose her favorite during the Spring Festival, and she can also receive a dowry of 300,000, and this boy still has a house in the county.
So under what conditions would this rural girl be willing to go on a one-on-one blind date with a city boy and not want a 300,000 bride price?
It is clear that the actual cost paid by urban boys is well over 300,000, which will make it attractive to rural girls.
Basically, 400,000 starts.
For urban girls whose own conditions are significantly better than those of rural girls, according to the law of the market, the actual price paid by urban boys should be greater, I think at least 500,000 yuan.
This is only at the county level, prefecture-level cities I think to start with 700,000, provincial capitals to start with 1 million, and beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou to start with 1.3 million.
The price paid by urban men for marriage is only at this level before it is possible to marry a wife.
Otherwise, why don't others go on a blind date in the countryside.
Do you think that the inner volume of men is the inner volume of rural men? The inner volume is a national roll, from the bottom up, all men can't run away, and rural men are just completely eliminated because of their low ability to pay.
Many urban men wondered, I don't have a dowry of 1 million, why do I pay 1 million for marriage?
Because the city and the countryside are not the same, the traditional house in the countryside is built on the homestead, can not take away and basically can not be traded, buying a house in the county is a trend that has just formed in recent years, and rural girls have not yet formed the practice of adding names on the real estate deed for a while and a half.
Therefore, the definition of the cost of marriage by rural girls is very pure, that is, money, which is expressed entirely as a bride price.
The city girl's definition of the cost of marriage is all-encompassing.
Family planning was first carried out in the city, there were many only children, and there were no boys in the family who needed to pay the bride price, resulting in a small demand for the bride price in these families.
With the existence of these girls, the price of the bride price in the whole urban circle cannot rise, and you will be despised if you want 300,000 bride price in the city.
But human payment methods are not only currency, many forms can be used to pay the price.
Although there is no bride price, the overall cost will certainly be much higher than that in the countryside, and it will increase step by step to form a dynamic balance.
A girl with a Beijing hukou, a house in Beijing, and a heavy education is not as attractive in the marriage market as a rural high school girl with no house and no savings.
This girl may not want a dowry of 300,000, but the price paid by men must be far more than 300,000 dowry, otherwise it is not in line with basic economic laws.
The original form of this payment method was real estate.
In the past few years, in the big city, the man pays the down payment, the woman pays the decoration, and the down payment is similar to the decoration money, which is actually the dowry and dowry of the city.
Later, the housing prices in big cities soared, or if the man operated like this, the pressure on the man was increasing, but the rules have not changed.
Because the number of men and women was out of balance, the dowry in the countryside soared, and the dowry began to far exceed the dowry.
Rolled into the city, the marriage cost of the man's family begins to far exceed that of the woman.
Although the house is half of one person, the man pays significantly more money than the woman, and the proportion varies greatly from year to year.
The house name is just an attitude.
Is this attitude?
Maybe, but it's also a direct gift of millions.
Are all the men in the city willing to pay the price?
Of course not, but no one is willing to pay the price.
What if you don't want to pay the price?
Simple, the market economy in the city is developed, and the payment methods are diverse.
You don't want to pay a million or even millions, don't look for the opposite sex of the same grade, you can look down.
Tall men look for short women, master's men look for undergraduate women, men with an annual salary of 200,000 look for women with an annual salary of 100,000, handsome men look for a woman who is not beautiful, and men with good tempers find a woman with a bad temper.
A man with a plain face and his wife's makeup are similar to the degree of eye care, and the cost of marriage can be obviously less.
This is called women getting married.
There is no man who does not want to find a high-quality woman, but the conditions offered by high-quality women are too high, and they cannot afford to pay such a big price, and can only be forced to seek second.
In addition to high-condition men looking for low-condition women as a payment method, there is also a way to pay is to reduce the requirements for women and increase the requirements for men.
I see that many men now complain on the Internet about how women now drip, this does not do that, but also this and that, the requirements for men are getting higher and higher, the requirements for themselves are getting lower and lower, and the male version of the three from the four virtues is about to be completed.
Yes, it's also a form of paying the price of marriage.
You think you're watching the hilarity of rural men curling up, but you don't know that you've already rolled up on yourself.
Why don't urban men dare to find a woman who is on par with their own conditions?
Why don't urban men dare to make such and such demands on their wives?
Why in the past few years on the Internet to discuss the extraordinary so-called non-virgin can not marry such a topic, in today's looks like a joke is completely a joke, and in the zero years to buy a house is good or buy a car is the same joke.
Because there is a serious imbalance between men and women, you have no choice, and the kind of conditions you expect from your future wife are destined to be only a fantasy.
What do you think your future wife should do, it's your freedom, but what if you can't find the opposite sex that meets your requirements?
Or find it, but she prescribes a marriage price that you can't afford at all, what do you do?
Why can the various conditions that women expect from their husbands slowly change from fantasy to reality, while the conditions that men expect from their wives slowly become bubbles from traditional rules.
This is not a female liberation, it is completely caused by the imbalance between men and women, because the most fierce European and American countries of extreme feminism have not solved the problem of marrying and marrying their husbands' surnames to this day, and women's power is far inferior to That of China.
Chinese women have the highest male-to-female ratio in the world, and they have the strongest bargaining power in the world.
If the current ratio of men and women in rural areas is reversed and replaced by a rural boy sitting at home, dozens of rural girls come to the door every day to ask for relatives, and one or two hundred girls wait for this boy to pick during the Spring Festival.
Believe me, you are not good at women's rights, and this man's demands on his future wife can even be more excessive than the rules before liberation.
It is also okay not to accept these requirements, low dowry and high dowry, and take money to make up for it.
This kind of harsh demand does not require the consent of these two hundred girls, and one girl can agree.
This is called the inner volume, and to what extent the inner volume between Chinese women will be rolled up, you will feel chills if you think about it a little.
And this level of inner volume is what Chinese men are currently experiencing.
Many conditions on the Internet are absolutely unacceptable once men and women are exchanged, that is because the ratio of men and women is not exchanged, and the degree of internal volume between the two sides is not exchanged.
Nowadays, some people in rural blind dates even use the call number queuing system, a boy sends a number, and whoever goes to the number will enter the door and chat with the girl.
Moreover, before the blind date, everyone must fill out a form, and after filling out the form, they must write 300 words to Qianqian.
Show you how outrageous this table really is.
On this kind of table, which man dares to let the woman fill it out? If you dare to take it out, the other party dares to directly slap this piece of paper in your face.
But Qianqian dared.
She dared to be confident because there were more than 100 men waiting for her to pick, she wanted to toss how to toss, anyway, not worried about marriage.
As long as a few people are willing to fill it out, she can marry out, and this form itself is a means of screening obedient men.
There are more than 100 men waiting in line for themselves to pick, so I can't dream of anyone daring to go on such a blind date.
Rural blind date spectacles are frequent, absurd, but understandable.
Anything that goes up for 10 years will create a bubble market, and everyone's perception will be biased.
Rising, overestimating.
Falling, overvalued.
It's all market laws, but you can't change reality.
Because China's traditional concept is too strong, it is indeed a preference for sons over women, and there is no need to deny it.
Although China's current marriage market has formed the fact that women are superior to men, it has only been a few years, and the concept of son preference has lasted for thousands of years.
If we can really dissolve the idea of son preference that has been passed down for thousands of years in a few years, it is by no means something that equality between men and women can do, but an absolute female superiority and male inferiority, otherwise it is impossible to dispel the inherent thinking of the elderly for decades.
As of now, China is a woman who is inferior to a man, but it has not yet reached an absolute female superiority over a man, because although the idea of son preference has been seriously suppressed, it is still tenacious.
There are 1504 women named Li Zhaodi in the country, while there are less than 10 men named Li Zhaomei.
Isn't this patriarchal?
Although the bride price is heavy, although the price paid by men for marriage is so staggering that both rural and urban men cannot afford it.
But so far, I have not heard of any family deliberately not wanting a male fetus, as long as the female fetus, at most, both men and women are the same, and it is good to have boys and girls.
Being able to not give up the male fetus in the face of such an unequal marriage is enough to see how strong the support of traditional ideas is.
In 2018, The ratio of males to females born in China was 113 to 100.
In 2019, China's male-to-female birth ratio was 112 to 100.
In 2020, china's male-to-female birth ratio is 111 to 100.
The imbalance between men and women continues to improve, but there is still a long way to go before the natural ratio of 105 to 100.
This ratio shows that there are still people who have made artificial sex selection, otherwise it is impossible to explain the sex ratio of more than 110.
But even under the premise that marriage is so stressful for men, these people actually choose male fetuses.
According to economic laws, this can only show that the pressure of marriage on men is not enough, and everyone still thinks that it is slightly cost-effective to have a man under the trade-offs.
The marriage market is already markedly unequal between men and women, and second-married women require men to marry first and attach a bride price of more than 200,000, which is not equal from any point of view.
On this, everyone still has to have a man, why?
The biggest variable in the middle, I think, is the traditional patriarchal mentality, which is too stubborn.
Patriarchal thinking you think is good for men?
No, on the contrary, the idea of son preference is the root cause of all the suffering of men at present, and all the gender dividends of women at present are traced back to the traditional idea of son preference.
Male competitors are males and female competitors are females.
They all prefer sons to daughters, they all go to give birth to male babies, and the pit is naturally male.
If men are dissatisfied with the current status of marriage and want to promote their power and status, then you need to exclude and suppress the idea of son preference in all places where you can speak.
If women want to maintain the current dividends in the marriage market, or even further enhance their power and status, then you need to advocate for son preference in every situation where you can speak.
If everyone gives birth only to boys, and you are a woman, then you are the empress.
Proceeding from the overall interests, men should oppose son preference, and women should support son preference, is it not contradictory? But that's the truth.
However, starting from local interests, men should support son preference and maintain their current status, and women should oppose son preference and enhance their current status, otherwise they will feel that they are looked down upon, but all these words and deeds are actually destroying the foundation of their own interests.
Man, what a contradictory creature.
However, the pressure on the marriage market is still effective, and parents in many places have slowly given up the pursuit of boys.
Boys have at most one, and if the first child is a boy's second child or a boy, it is a nightmare.
As long as the mind is emancipated, as long as you do not cling to the traditional concept of son preference, giving birth to a daughter is really much better than giving birth to a man, and when you are young, you don't feel the gap, and when you grow up and get married, the gap will appear immediately.
In late 2021, China opened up its three-child policy.
For stimulating fertility, the three-child policy is useless, and now there are too few people who have the ability to have three children, people with money have no time, and people with time have no money.
But for regulating the ratio of men to women, the three-child policy has a huge impact.
Because under the premise that most people do not have three children, the three-child policy is basically equivalent to completely unlimited fertility, and it is only a fig leaf away from fully liberalizing fertility.
According to the birth data of 2000, in the cities that implement the one-child policy, the sex ratio is 115.7, the sex ratio in rural areas where the one-and-a-half-child policy is implemented is 124.7, the sex ratio in a few remote mountainous areas where the two-child policy is implemented is 109, and in some ethnic minority areas that do not implement the family planning policy, the sex ratio is 108.2, and the gap in the sex ratio brought about by different policies is huge.
Today, it is the whole country that has directly released the third child.
In 2000, when the rural sex ratio was 124.7, the sex ratio in the same rural ethnic minority areas and remote mountainous areas was only 108 to 109, only because of the implementation of the two-child and three-child + policy.
Therefore, I expect that perhaps in 2022, China's sex ratio will change significantly, perhaps falling below 108, because women's power positions and marital advantages are now significantly greater than in 2000, and the impact on parents' reproductive decisions is very huge.
Today's price is to pay off the debt 20 years ago, and the unmarried male barrage lake accumulated year after year will take many years to digest and solve.
Even if the sex ratio below 108 will be reached in 2022, it is actually more men and fewer women, and all the men in the past did not participate in the marriage competition, and it was barely OK, if the unmarried men accumulated before still have to participate in the later competition, it is simply not enough.
Is it not good to give birth to a girl, in addition to some of the false names given by the elderly, there are other benefits, and the real benefits are not stronger than those false names?
Judging from the current ratio of men to women, at least in the next 20 to 30 years, China will not be able to change the current status quo of marriage.
If you feel that men bear a heavy price in marriage, if you feel that men are inferior to women.
Then when you get married, you can choose to have a girl and don't let the next generation suffer the same as you.
Depending on your personal choice, if you have to make a name, I can't help it.
In short, I hope that the current blind date miracle can disappear as soon as possible, the huge bride price can disappear as soon as possible, and men and women can be truly equal as soon as possible.
Patriarchal thinking is the enemy of all men, remember.
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