These 4 kinds of people, superficial and kind, inner darkness do not have deep friendship
preface:
In today's society, it is difficult to detect the true and false,
Almost everyone who lives in this world has an unknown face.
Some people are kind on the surface, but in fact, they are extremely dark inside, which is what we call inconsistencies in appearance.
Many times we think we see a person clearly, but in fact we only see his surface.
Only when we tear off each other's real masks can we truly know whether a person is negotiable.
Sincerity in interacting with people is the main premise, and good people will always have friends around to help.
Of course, we also don't expect a person who pretends to be kind to you sincerely,
At this time, we must have the ability to recognize people, and at the same time, we must protect ourselves.
In fact, everyone's attitude and personality are like the weather, and they will change a lot at any time.
When we come into contact with people around us at different times and in different places, we all have a lot of faces.
So don't overestimate human nature, and don't underestimate human nature.
If we are too obvious, it is easy to expose our own nature, so we learn to disguise.
People should be frank and frank in their dealings with each other, and no one should count anyone, but people's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and we can't always see the inside.
Sometimes we blindly treat the people around us, but we are played like fools by others.
Therefore, at any time we must not have the heart to harm others, and the heart to prevent people must not be without,
Learn to observe others so that you don't get hurt.
1. Always say something pessimistic and negative
Everyone's personality is actually very different, everyone is an energy field.
The same people will always attract each other, and different people will not be able to come together.
But most people like to interact with people with that kind of positive energy,
In this way, the heart will be sunny and there will be no excessive negative emotions.
On the contrary, those who still have negative energy in their bodies are very negative in their hearts.
Over time, it will be very decadent and will affect our mood.
Because a pessimistic person is always venting his dissatisfaction everywhere,
With such people for a long time, the original good mood will become very angry and uneasy.
In fact, this kind of person is subconsciously hurting us, and after encountering it, they have to take a detour.
2. Deny the words of others
When many people communicate with people, in order to hide their deep sense of inferiority, they often deny others.
At the beginning of our interaction with this kind of person, we will feel that the other party is very honest, in fact, after a long time you will find that he is belittling you.
Even many times to exalt yourself in order to deny your words.
And this kind of person does not change their face and is very jealous of you in their hearts, and they can't see that the people around them are better than themselves.
Because they are afraid that someone can replace being surpassed.
After spending a long time with this kind of person, there will be a very big trauma in the heart.
It will also cause our personality to slowly become inferior and cowardly, or even not to seek progress, feeling that we can't do anything.
In fact, it is not that we can't do it ourselves, but that the other party has brainwashed us.
3. Flattery
There will always be such people around us, who feel that they have a little ability to constantly approach people who are better than themselves.
No matter what, they are very fond of expressing themselves, and even choose to go to the lockdown.
This kind of person is very good at looking at the dish under the face, and feels that this method of flattery is more effective.
In fact, this kind of person does not attract the people around him at all.
So in life we don't want to do this kind of opportunistic and flattering thing,
Whether it is work or life, we must go on step by step firmly, so that life will be solid and stable.
So remind everyone that people who are often extremely dark inside, they like to do the above three things.
After we meet, try not to make deep friends, otherwise you must be the one who suffers the loss in the end.
Conclusion:
People with the above three characteristics, the heart is likely to be psychologically distorted,
So they're very dangerous, and we have to be vigilant at all times.
Haruki Murakami once said, "In a certain situation, the very existence of one person harms another person." ”
Therefore, in addition to mutual care, the relationship between people is more of a mutual harm.
Each of us is a complex individual with no absolute bad and no absolute good.
So many times a person's success or failure depends on a thought.
Although many people are reluctant to admit that they are such people, they all understand that they are not good to others.
Therefore, as long as we do not take the initiative to harm others, we must not be unforgivable.
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References | Journal of experimental psychology. Learning,memory,and cognition