Today is still to share with you some time ago a fan parents to provide a real case, this fan parent private message told me, the family lives in a second-tier city, the daughter this year in the second year of junior high school, introverted personality, when I was a child was quite obedient, from childhood is very kind, not lazy, very know how to think about adults.
Academic performance is not bad, elementary school, junior high school are in the local key schools. But I never expected that such an obedient child from a young age would be very serious from the second year of junior high school.
I feel that the child is suddenly not interested in anything, often inexplicably depressed, the things he used to love to eat are not eaten, the toys he used to love to play are not played, he often locks himself in the bedroom, is unwilling to communicate with the outside world, and does not talk to his parents more.
Last semester, I frequently took leave at home, and after a few days of school, I didn't go to school, because I was unwell. Asked the school teacher, the child did not have any bad behavior in school, but according to the classmates, she is now less and less like to talk, I feel that she always has a heart, not very happy.
Listening to the parent's description, I can basically determine that his daughter has some depressive tendencies, but I think it should not be too serious. Since the parents mentioned that the daughter has been very obedient, kind, and knows how to think about others since she was a child, at least it can be said that the child's character is still very positive, which is good.
But often such children, the probability of depression is very large, this reason I put in the next issue of the content of the details, here for the time being to expand on the first.
Today here, I will mainly talk about what can be implemented at present and at present, not to seek a complete solution, at least to alleviate the child's depression in the short term. According to the child's character, my advice here is to have a spiritual pet and leave it to the child to take care of.
What is called a spiritual pet, the most common, is a kitten, a puppy, because this is an urban family, and these two are the most suitable. Why pets? There are four main reasons:
First, good people generally have a spirit of dedication and dedication.
According to the description of parents, children are very obedient, understanding, and very kind from an early age, then this kind of child will definitely have a spirit of dedication, very simple, that is, to hide their own ideas, sacrifice their own needs, suppress their own behavior, to cater to the people around them, especially to their most important relatives, they are not afraid of dedication and pay, afraid that the people around them do not recognize themselves.
Second, introverted people actually have more emotional needs, but there will be psychological pressure when socializing with others, and pets are a good alternative to social objects.
This child has an introverted personality, that is, he is not very good at socializing, and does not like to easily communicate his ideas with people unless he meets Zhiyin. Therefore, introverts, especially when they are in a bad mood or have depressed tendencies, will still involuntarily put the other party's feelings in front and their own needs in the back when socializing with others, so they will still suppress themselves, so there will still be psychological pressure in communication.
However, getting along with pets does not require complex language communication, and the psychological pressure will be much less, so pets can be used as an alternative social object, so that children are at least not too lonely, too lonely.
Third, kind people are not afraid to pay, not afraid of tiredness, nor laziness, the most afraid is that they have no value, no sense of achievement, and no sense of need.
Since this child is so kind and likes to think about others, it can be seen that the ultimate psychological need of the child is to be recognized, needed, and want a sense of achievement and value. Then raising a small pet can achieve these psychological needs to a certain extent.
But we must pay attention to what kind of pet to choose, what supplies to give the pet, how to place and take care of the pet, we must let the child decide by himself. Let the child feel that the little pet needs her, can not do without her, under her careful care of the pet is very happy, very satisfied, in the process of the child can get a lot of sense of achievement.
Fourth, whether it is a kitten or a puppy, you can also give your child a good reason to go out outdoors.
Puppies needless to say, walking dogs is already a common knowledge. Even if it is a kitten, you can take it out to bask in the sun, see the outside world, and let the kitten run on an open and safe field, after all, there is not much space at home for pets to move.
It can be said that most of the children who are bored with school and depressed are not very willing to go out, and basically stay at home most of the time, which is very detrimental to the relief of symptoms. If there is such a small pet, you can say to the child like this, "You go take the kitten and the puppy out for a walk, it always stays at home and has no activity venue, you can't always circle it at home." ”
If you are a very obedient and understanding child from a young age, you may wish to give them a small pet and try it. I dare not say that it will completely cure the child to return to school, but at least, it can play a relief role in the short term. That's all I suggest.
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