Now most families do not plan to continue to have children after giving birth to their second child, the reason is very simple, feel that raising three children is too stressful, but sometimes looking at two children, they will feel that there are shortcomings, and they always feel some regrets, especially in terms of gender.
Case: Giving birth to two boys, the whole family feels unsatisfactory, and then add a three-child female treasure
Xiao Zhang and her husband have given birth to sons in the first two births, and Xiao Zhang knows that her husband has always hoped to have a daughter, after all, most fathers love their daughters more. In the process of the two sons growing up slowly, boys have the characteristics of boys, everything is not so delicate, and they do not love to be spoiled, whenever Xiao Zhang and her husband see how intimate other people's daughters are, they will feel how good it is to have a small cotton jacket again.
Later, even the in-laws advised the couple to have another one while they were still young, but Xiao Zhang was afraid of giving birth to a son, so he hesitated. The mother-in-law said, "Every time, there will be another son after a big deal, and there are many people in the family." ”
Because of the mother-in-law's words, but also encouraged Xiao Zhang, so he and her husband began to prepare for pregnancy, and finally gave birth to a little girl treasure two years later, which the whole family felt complete, especially the husband, but also became a "daughter slave".
Not only that, the two sons also spoiled their sisters very much, and from time to time proudly said to their classmates, "I am also a person with a sister." "After the children grow up, the relationship is also very harmonious, and the daughter will indeed be more intimate, whether it is for Xiao Zhang and his wife, or for his grandparents, he is very filial piety, and Xiao Zhang also feels that the original decision was done correctly."
01 The most regrettable family combination is this, if you are not old, three children can fight another one
For most families, it would be a pity if the combination of two children is either boy or girl. Because everyone prefers to have children in pairs and form a "good" word. If they are all girls, or if they are all boys, then some happiness may not be experienced.
For two male families, because boys will be more naughty, not good at expressing their love for their parents, may also often cause trouble, which also leads to parents to feel more headaches, and the boy's rebellious period will come more violently, and the parents' discipline will be more difficult. So if they are both two children, this means that the pressure on parents may be double.
In addition, the family of two boys also prefers to be noisy, and there will be quarrels from time to time, and the two boys quarrel more directly than the girls, and may choose to do it, which is also a point of distress for parents. In addition, when boys grow up, although they are around, they do not have the intimate care of girls, often like "stuffy gourds", they will not perceive the minds of their parents, even if their parents lack something, they will not observe.
For the family of two girls, although girls will be more intimate, more clingy to their parents, and the relationship with their parents will be better, but girls will always have to marry when they grow up, and some may not be far from home, but after all, they are not around like boys, and many things cannot be taken care of.
Some people may say that daughters can also bring their parents to live, but in fact, this will lead to more family conflicts, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions and so on. In addition, some people may say that when the time comes, they will simply recruit a son-in-law directly, but most of the families now have only one or two, so they basically will not agree to their children to be sons-in-law to others.
Therefore, whether it is two boys or two girls, there will be some regrets to a greater or lesser extent, so the combination of "good" words of one man and one woman is the best combination, or two men and one woman or two women and one man.
This can perfectly fit the advantages of boys and girls, and many netizens suggest that if they have not yet reached the age, those families with regrets can actually try to fight for another three children. Of course, there may also be three children of the same sex, and at that time, I hope that parents will not be disappointed, holding the idea of "more people in the family is also more lively", will have a stronger sense of happiness.
In addition, it is more important that parents educate their children well, because if they do not educate their children well, even if it is a family combination of one man and one woman, in fact, parents will still suffer in the future. But if the children are well educated, the combination of multiple male or female families will actually be very happy, and the meaning of the so-called "things are artificial" lies in this.
Conclusion: If you do not want to have three children, it does not matter, after all, the pressure of having three children is also in front of you, you must consider the current situation of your own family, as well as consider your own parenting ability, comprehensively consider many factors and then decide to prepare for the third child, otherwise blindly more popular three children, you may feel regret in the future.