Someone hit my child, should I let my child hit back at him?
Someone hit my child, should I hit him back? Among the commented questions in all of our private messages, this question came out of the top three. Because there are many opinions on this issue. So, should the child be beaten back?
In fact, before we can address this, we should clarify two things. Once you are beaten, can you fight back if you want to fight back? Let me ask you a question first. What would you do if someone hit you? Most people would say, of course, first know why he hit me. If there is no particularly reasonable reason, of course I have to call back. Let me ask you one more question. What would you do if someone much stronger than you beat you? I'm sure probably more than half will think carefully and remain silent.
Most parents who ask their children to fight back after being beaten are ideal, believing that as long as the child wants to fight back, they can fight back. However, the reality is often much more complex. Except for the first type of fight between friends, most people who really hit people easily will not give up because the other party fights back. Kids don't know how to judge where they are? If they blindly hit the child, they will fight back. Didn't they think they could fight back?
If the other party is more terrifying and powerful than the child, only knowing that fighting back against the child's guilt will only cause greater harm. In addition, because the child itself has a shrunken communication psychology, in case they cannot fight back with their hands, the psychological pressure will only be greater, and the communication will be less confident. If your child doesn't call back, will he become weaker later? I believe that most parents do not know whether to teach their children to play.
The trouble of going back is actually due to the fact that the child cannot fight back. Will it become cowardly in the future? In fact, in the same sentence, the child is a blank piece of paper, what kind of person he becomes, depends on the adult's brush, which is on it. How to read and write? Venus, known as the poisonous tongue of the entertainment industry, once told such a story:
One day, she took her son to the supermarket to go shopping. As she passed the toy section, her son was slapped by another child who grabbed the toy for no reason. She asked her son to fight back, and he covered his monkey-like face and said, "No, he beat me because his mother didn't educate him well." I'm different from him. This sentence shocked all those present, so the mother was also deeply moved by her son. Although his son did not fight back the other children, was this a sign of his weakness? In fact, on the contrary, this is the embodiment of the child's inner strength. As a parent, when you find out that your child has been beaten, you will naturally be heartbroken. But in addition to feelings, we must firmly believe that children will not become weak because they have not fought back.