Newborn babies don't look much different, so in the era when medical care is not perfect, it is easy to have oolong incidents of holding the wrong child.
Nowadays, medical technology and services are more and more perfect, and nurses will wear specific bracelets for them after giving birth, which can effectively prevent mistakes.
But there is a farce on the Internet, many years ago, two families gave birth to a child in the same hospital, because the hospital's management system for newborns was not perfect at that time, both families gave birth to sons, resulting in the wrong hug.
Seven years later, one of the families needed a blood test because they were sick and realized that they might have held the wrong child.
Later, after several turns to find the child, but the two families feel that they have been raised for many years, although there is no real blood relationship, but they have accumulated deep feelings, and do not want to cause adverse effects on the growth of the child, so they are not willing to change.
Eventually, the two families' lives returned to their original state, and the two children grew up healthy and happy.
Which is more important, birth or raising?
In fact, the feelings between parents and children, blood relations are only a bond, what is really important is the accumulation of bits and pieces in daily life, birth and maintenance are equally important.
If you want to be intimate with your child, parents should do these things
First, give your child adequate care and companionship
Parents can only give their children enough companionship and care to make them feel loved, and love is mutual, and being loved can also make children learn to repay their parents.
If you want to establish a deep relationship with your children, you must get along with them more and accompany them with your heart. The companionship referred to here is not formal, but to interact effectively with the child.
You can let go of the identity of adults and play games with them, or do housework together, which can not only communicate feelings, but also exercise the child's life ability and adaptability.
Second, more communication
Parents and children should communicate more and deepen their understanding of each other. When communicating with children, parents should pay attention to tone and maintain an equal relationship.
Take the initiative and find topics to communicate with children in life, do not indulge in work and mobile phones, talk to children about topics they are interested in, close the distance between each other, and understand each other's true thoughts.
Frequent communication can also avoid contradictions, in fact, many family disputes are misunderstandings caused by poor communication.
Third, give children a certain amount of space and freedom
No matter how close parents and children are, they cannot do everything, depriving them of the opportunity to grow themselves. Parents should be given space and freedom to develop an independent personality and thinking, and not to interfere excessively in private life.
Be trusting enough, believing that children have the ability to decide some things, can do a good job of learning planning and life planning, and respect their ideas in everything.
Before making some decisions, you can refer to your child's opinions to make them feel valued, respected, and confident.
Excessive interference in children's behavior and ignoring their own ideas can alienate relationships and create estrangement.
Parents and children have deep feelings, but even the most intimate relationship needs to be managed with care. Parents should maintain a good parent-child relationship, accompany more, take time to take their children to outdoor activities, close their feelings, and pay attention to high-quality companionship.
Companionship is not only people together, but more importantly, spiritual companionship, more communication and interaction can close the relationship and reduce contradictions.
Occasionally, you can carry out some family games to enliven the atmosphere and make life more ritualistic, so that every day has a different feeling, and the family atmosphere will get better and better.