Why do people in the world worry about their partner's infidelity to them every day, why are now couples always vigorous when in love, but cold and vicious when they break up. Maybe it's because of the depth of love and the depth of hate! At the beginning, because you did not meet the results you wanted or because you were afraid that you would be more lonely and helpless in the future, no matter what the reason, if you really have to give up marriage, in fact, don't be afraid of a person, because a person can also be very happy. Today we come to read how Zhang Youyi's real life was criticized by xu Zhimoden's divorce, a female teacher who only read for three years, she did not give up her future and eventually became the first Female Banker in China, who managed the vice president of the Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank and turned it into a profit, and then became a director of the bank for many consecutive years; opened the "Yun Clothing Company", served as the general manager of the company, a well-known entrepreneur. In 1934, he managed the finances of the National Socialist Party of China. For a Zhang Youyi who never gives up on herself, from weak to strong, the world of emotions will eventually usher in its own beautiful spring.
We all know that Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo were the first divorce cases in Chinese history under the Civil Code. Zhang Youyi, formerly known as Zhang Jiayue, was born in 1900 in Baoshan, Jiangsu Province, his grandfather was Zhi County in the Qing Dynasty, and his father was Zhang Runzhi, a well-known local doctor. The children of the Zhang family are very good, can be described as the hidden dragon Crouching Tiger, Zhang Youyi has lived in a wealthy family that does not worry about eating and wearing since she was a child, although her life is rich, she still lives in the shadow of the era of son preference. There are twelve children in the family, eight men and four women, and Zhang Youyi is the eighth brother and sister. With the help of her second brother Zhang Junjie (Jia Sen) and her fourth brother Zhang Jiaxuan, Zhang Youyi, a girl, only began to study at the age of twelve. Enrolled in Jiangsu Provincial No. 2 Girls' Normal School. The school's first Yang Daquan attached great importance to girls' education, and Zhang Youyi received advanced education here. One day three years later, Zhang Youyi, who had not yet completed her studies, was taken home by her parents to prepare for her to abandon school and become a relative. The matchmaker for her was her fourth brother, Zhang Jiazhang, who was the secretary of the provincial governor's office at the time, roughly equivalent to the secretary general of the provincial government, and when he inspected the school, he found that there was a talented student in Hangzhou, he was Xu Zhimo.
After inquiry, Xu Zhimo was born in a rich merchant family, so he wanted to marry his sister Zhang Youyi to Xu Zhimo, so he wrote a letter to Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru to propose the idea of marrying, Xu Shenru listened, very satisfied, the business and government marriage, the two families are regarded as a match made in heaven. But for Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi, both of them are studying in other places, neither of them knows about this matter, the two families sat together beautifully and happily exchanged engagement gifts for them, exchanged two birthdays, and exchanged photos, so that the marriage of the two people was booked. Interestingly, after the two exchanged birthdays, a fortune teller in Shanghai at the time said: "This marriage is not worthy!" Zhang Youyi's mother was anxious, simply changed Zhang's birth year, directly two years earlier, Zhang Youyi, born in 1900, originally belonged to the rat, this change, changed to 1898 belongs to the dog, the result of this change is with the monkey Xu Zhimo is a "match made in heaven". This marriage, since the conception to the final union, Xu Zhimo is completely unaware, and he does not know the change of the eight characters behind it. The marriage of two people is such a big thing that it should be completely inconsistent with the provisions of the Marriage Law without their consent. During the Republic of China period, arranged marriages bound by feudal traditional ideas abounded, and children's marriages had to be decided by their parents. At that time, Xu Zhimo had just graduated from Zhejiang No. 1 Middle School and was admitted to Shanghai Baptist College and Theological College (the predecessor of Hujiang University, now university of Shanghai for Science and Technology), and in October 1915, Xu Zhimo, who was studying in the rich second generation of the brother, was suddenly arranged by his parents for his marriage For a while, there was no way to refuse it, when he first saw Zhang Youyi's photo, the corners of his mouth flicked down and said with disgust: "Rural buns!" But by the traditional "order of the matchmaker," by the parents. Helpless, he could only endure. Zhang Youyi, a weak woman, has no ability to resist, and everything can only be arranged by her parents. So arranged by the family, Xu Shenru decided the marriage of his son Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi, the daughter of Zhang Runzhi, a rich man in Luodian, Baoshan County, Shanghai.
The grand wedding ceremony was luxurious at the time! In 1915, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi held a sensational wedding in the city. The dowry is Western-style furniture purchased directly from Europe by Zhang Youyi's sixth brother, and the utensils used in life are All Western-style. So much so that the train could not be loaded, or transported directly to the Jiashi Zhang family by boat. In those days, the thicker the dowry, the higher the status in the in-laws' family. In this way, 15-year-old Zhang Youyi dropped out of school and married into Zhejiang as a young grandmother. Unexpectedly, in exchange for Xu Zhimo's cold treatment. During their new marriage, Xu Zhimo would rather read books in the courtyard for several hours in a row than look up at her. After marriage, Xu Zhimo ignored him in addition to fulfilling the most basic marital obligations. To fulfill the obligation of marriage, Xu Zhimo only thinks in his mind is that his parents need to hold their grandchildren. From the time of marriage to the birth of the first son Xu Jikai in 1918, they were married for three years, and the two lived together for no more than 4 months. Deeply bound by the old Chinese etiquette, Zhang Youyi has a silent and resolute personality, a dignified demeanor, and is very effective in taking care of housework, raising children, taking care of in-laws, and taking care of finances. But these advantages, in the eyes of the poet, are ignorant and dull. From the first day of his marriage on December 5, 1915, Xu Zhimo, who had a new era of ideas, was full of thoughts that may have been how to leave the home that he did not love after marriage.
In order to avoid this family that he does not like, on the other hand, it is also for the development of his career. Soon after the birth of his son, Xu Zhimo stayed in Yangyang, and in 1920 Xu Zhimo received a letter from Zhang Junjie and was forced to impatiently take Zhang Youyi to his side, Zhang Youyi had never been out of the door, and he was seasick, vomiting on the ship, and people were more uncomfortable than dead. When the good guy finally arrived at the dock, she saw Xu Zhimo in the crowd of people picking up the boat. Zhang Youyi recalled Xu Zhimo's attitude at that time: "I reclined on the tail deck, impatiently waiting to come ashore, and then saw Xu Zhimo standing in the crowd looking east and west. At this moment, my heart was very cold. He wore a long, thin black wool coat with a white silk scarf around his neck. Although I've never seen him look like he's in a suit. But I knew it was him. I could tell at a glance that his attitude was not mistaken, for he was the only one among the people who picked up the boats and showed an expression that he did not want to be there. At this time, Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin had already met and fell in love, and after Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi lived in Shaston, Zhang Youyi soon became pregnant again. At this time, Xu Zhimo was pursuing his so-called soul mate Lin Huiyin, and this first love-like love made Xu Zhimo no longer able to face the marriage with Zhang Youyi, and had no time to take care of Zhang Youyi. "It was dangerous to beat the fetus that year," Zhang Youyi said: "I heard that some people died because of the beating." Xu Zhimo said coldly: "There are still people who die because they take the train, don't you see people who don't take the train?" Xu Zhimo wanted to divorce immediately, so he still proposed a divorce to Zhang Youyi, and seeing that Zhang Youyi did not agree, he left zhang Youyi alone in Shaston.
Xu Zhimo for the sake of true love, for the freedom of love he can abandon everything, would rather abandon his wife and children than doubt that his love is higher than the sky, love is deeper than the sea, in the poet Xu Zhimo's emotional world love is his life. Xu Zhimo Zhang Youyi's marriage, which began with the fate of her parents, is a complete tragedy, who is responsible for Zhang Youyi's misfortune? Zhang Youyi, who was in Paris, had to write a letter to the second brother Zhang Junjie for help, and with the help of the second brother, he came from Paris to Berlin, and under Zhang Junjie's advice, he did not listen to Xu Zhimo's advice and removed the child, and gave birth to his second son Peter in 1922. After Xu Zhimo learned the news, he went to Berlin to ask for a divorce again. Zhang Youyi did not make any radical acts at this time and resolutely agreed. Subsequently, he signed a divorce with Xu Zhimo in Berlin. After signing the divorce agreement, Xu Zhimo followed Zhang Youyi to the hospital to see his youngest son Peter; this is the first civilized divorce case in Chinese history according to the Civil Law that the world knows. In November 1922, Xu Zhimo announced his divorce notice in the "New Zhejiang" newspaper, declaring his freedom! And explained the unreasonable reasons why parents can't divorce; this is the first divorce incident in modern Chinese history, and it is estimated that because of this matter, it is also famous, which is mixed! It's more that people who hold old notions of marriage are attacking him! In order to protect Zhang Youyi, Zhang Junji did not want her to be criticized by the divorce suffered in front of the people of the world who were still living in the ideological constraints of feudal society at that time, and did not let Zhang Youyi return to China. Soon after giving birth, Zhang Youyi quickly recovered from her grief, hired a nanny at home, and began to learn German on her own, and Zhang Youyi chose to enroll in the Pestalozzi College in Germany to study early childhood education. In Germany, she once again suffered a heavier pain in her life, her beloved son Peter after divorcing her husband. When she died of peritonitis in Germany at the age of two, the darkest time of her life shrouded her, and the fact of divorce and loss of her son made Zhang Youyi's life fall to the bottom. Maybe when a woman has nothing, she will have nothing to fear, and the blow of all this finally makes Zhang Youyi recognize the reality and really start to grow up. Even though the storm was thick, she began to be fearless. Since then, she has studied while working, learned fluent German, and her rigorous work style has enabled her to find self-confidence and understand the value of life.
In the summer of 1926, Zhang Youyi decided to return to Shanghai, and in order to raise her eldest son well, she took her eldest son Xu Jikai to Beijing to study, until Zhang's mother died, and she returned to Shanghai with her son. Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, was very hard to see Zhang Youyi with his son Xu Jikai (his own grandson). At this time, Zhang Youyi first taught German at Soochow University. The enlightened Xu Shenru gave Zhang Youyi the "Fan Garden of Huashan Road" at No. 125 Haige Road, so that she could have no worries about food and clothing in Shanghai; what was valuable was that Zhang Youyi began to still serve Xu Zhimo's parents, and the second elder recognized Zhang Youyi as a righteous daughter, and Zhang Youyi carefully raised her and Xu Zhimo's son. At this time, Zhang Jiaxuan was already the vice president of the Bank of China, and presided over the affairs of banks in Shanghai, with the support of Zhang Jiaxuan, Zhang Youyi began to enter the banking industry, and after continuously learning from some foreign experience, the Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank quickly turned a profit and served as the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank, and was elected as a director of the bank for many consecutive years. At the same time, Zhang Youyi's younger brother Zhang Yujiu has always admired Xu Zhimo's poetry and opened a Yunsheng clothing company on Jing'an Temple Road with Xu Zhimo and four others, and Zhang Youyi became the general manager of the company. In Yunsheng, Zhang Youyi opened a private customization, innovated clothing fabrics, adopted a unique three-dimensional tailoring method, and improved the style of Chinese clothing, which was all the rage in Shanghai Beach. In 1934, her second brother Zhang Junjie presided over the establishment of the National Socialist Party, and she was invited to manage the party's finances. After experiencing many experiences in the world, Zhang Youyi, who has been in the business world for a long time, has accumulated a large amount of military dyes after the outbreak of the War of Resistance, so she has also made a lot of money.
At this time, Zhang Youyi's career was prosperous, and at this time, Xu Zhimo had remarried with lu Xiaoman, a talented woman, because of the rejection of Lin Huiyin, and the Xu family did not recognize Lu Xiaoman as a daughter-in-law. He no longer funded all of Xu Zhimo's expenses. And Lu Xiaoman usually squandered in his life such as medical treatment and opium smoking, so that Xu Zhimo would often cheekily come to Zhang Youyi to borrow money. And Zhang Youyi said to Xu Zhimo every time: "This is your father's money." The reason why Zhang Youyi said this is to take care of Xu Zhimo's face, and the other is to let Xu Zhimo reconcile with his father. It is a pity that such a caring woman has been let down. Poor Xu Zhimo, in order to maintain Lu Xiaoman's luxurious life, traveled from place to place and worked hard. Fortunately, this life on the brink of collapse did not last long. On November 18, 1931, Xu Zhimo's plane crashed into a mountain peak and crashed, and Xu Zhimo unfortunately died at the age of 34. For Xu Zhimo's unexpected death, Lu Xiaoman, who was Xu Zhimo's wife at the time, was very broken and refused to claim the body. Zhang Youyi stood up and asked the eighth brother to take his 13-year-old eldest son Xu Jikai to claim the body, Zhang Youyi took care of all the aftermath, held a funeral for him, and even, after Xu Zhimo was killed, Zhang Youyi sent money every month to help Lu Xiaoman, who was poor and sick. She not only cared for Lu Xiaoman, because she was grateful that the second elder of the Xu family had always treated him kindly, she did not consider her marriage events, but as a daughter, she provided for Xu Zhimo's elderly parents until the end. (To be continued)