Family secrets depend on each family member to keep, as the elderly in the family, even if idle and bored, do not take the family secrets as a topic.
First, the ugly things in the family are the secrets of the best
The elderly should control their mouths when they go out, even if they want to say ugly things in the family, they must stop talking and stopping, but when they talk to outsiders about ugly things without incident, outsiders are at best verbally comforting you with a word or two, but outsiders will whisper joy in their hearts. Outsiders can't wait to base the happiness of their own home on the pain of your family, and the more and bigger the family scandals you say, the more they will make outsiders feel proud. Outsiders not only hearsay themselves, but also add oil and vinegar to the surrounding crowd with false rumors. The result is often this: your family's good things do not go out, but your family's bad things seem to have wings, and it will not take long to spread inside and outside. Therefore, the elderly should treat the ugly things in the family as internal contradictions in the family, solve them within the family, and spread to the outside of the home, which will not only help but also make the ugly things in the family expand, until the ugly things in the family are out of control.
Second, we must not only learn to make a big fortune in a muffled voice, but also ensure that the wealth is not exposed
Even if the elderly receive more pensions, they must learn to keep a low profile, do not talk about their pensions when they go out, do not talk about their wives' pensions, and do not blurt out how much money they have saved. After all, no matter how high your income is, no matter how much your family's savings, it still has nothing to do with outsiders, after all, you will not give outsiders a penny for no reason. In addition to causing the jealousy of outsiders, it is to trigger the comparison of outsiders, if it is passed on to the ears of outsiders who are plotting against you, they will either take action at the moment to steal, or they will always remember that the big trick is harmful to you and to your family.
Third, do not regard children as the capital of showing off, children have children's plans, originally wanted to show off their children to put gold on their faces, did not think that it will bring negative effects to the work or life of children.
Everyone thinks that their children are good, so showing off their children is not feasible, even if the superficial approval is perfunctory, how unconvinced in the heart is how unconvinced. In addition to causing others to be unbalanced in their hearts, others who just need the help of your children's authority, or need to borrow money, you show off your children, believe that the real outsiders will ask your children to do things or ask your children to borrow money, in the end the children will pay the price for your heart, the more the children are in a dilemma, the more it shows that the negative impact is far-reaching. The result is often not that the children help outsiders or lend money to outsiders, or that the children reject the outsiders, so that the relationship with the outsiders will be much worse than before.
Conclusion: Some secrets to prevent leakage to outsiders, not only do not benefit themselves, but also will be harmful to their families, the more in the group when the need to keep their mouths shut.
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