Don't always say, "Daddy is busy," Obama has never been absent from his daughter's parent-teacher conference

Don't always say, "Daddy is busy," Obama has never been absent from his daughter's parent-teacher conference

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Kan Zhaocheng

Recently, the Children's Work Department of the All-China Women's Federation released the results of the second national survey on the status quo of family education. In terms of children's education, the father of nearly half of the families is "absent". (December 23, People's Daily News)

On the mainland, it seems natural that raising children is a matter of motherhood, and about half of fathers have a serious "absence" in the upbringing of their children. Surveys have shown that dads have been working outside for a long time, and the number of children with problems has multiplied compared with normal families. The proportion of children who are divorced and raised by the woman is also very significant. What the father loses is the healthy growth of the child, and even the beautiful future of the family, which is indeed more than worth the loss.

The healthy growth of children is inseparable from the love of parents. Mother's love is like water, and the mother has a great influence on the child's moral etiquette and character temperament; father's love is like a mountain, the father has a great influence on the child's directional guidance and rational behavior, and the competent father must be the child's guide and the founder of the thought.

Long-term lack of paternal love may cause children's cognitive, personality, emotional, and physical obstacles and defects. A 12-year study by Yale University showed that children raised by men have high IQs, they tend to do better in school, and they are more likely to succeed in society. Only because: in terms of educational content, the father's knowledge is generally broader than that of the mother; in terms of living habits, the father teaches the child to be independent, decisive, brave and adventurous; in the way of education, the father encourages the child to use his own brain to do things, while the mother prefers to help the child do what they can; the father's unreasonable demands on the child are generally more tough, and the mother is often soft.)

In terms of fathers' educational responsibilities, US President Barack Obama taught us a lesson. Oba President Ma extremely busy work, but he never missed his daughter's parent-teacher conference, and he read seven books in the Harry Potter series with his eldest daughter Maria. Chinese-American politician Gary Locke twice "gave up his career" for his children's education, not only stepping down as ambassador to China, but also giving up his bid for re-election as governor in 2003. In Locke's eyes, a good father is not only the economic and spiritual pillar of the family, but also a model for the growth of children. In the mainland, many fathers neglect to communicate with their children on the grounds that they are busy with their work, often replacing their children with material giving, and believe that as long as they create a good material living environment for their children, they will fulfill their responsibilities, and the parent-child relationship will evolve into a utilitarian money relationship.

Psychologists' research shows that father-child interaction is indispensable in the psychological development of children and has an irreplaceable role. First of all, the father is more of a play partner, is the object of attachment, and has a promoting effect on the formation of the child's good character. Second, fathers play a very important role in the normal development of their children's gender roles. Third, fathers play a very important role in stimulating their children's imagination, exploring spirit, and cultivating the ability to use their brains. In addition, the father's companionship with the child will even affect the child's physiological development.

One of the important reasons why the ratings of Hunan Satellite TV's parent-child program "Where Did Daddy Go" are so high is that it has resonated with many people: the significance of fathers to the growth of children cannot be ignored.

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