On the twenty-fifth day of the month, mom and dad took Xiaobei back to grandpa's house, but within a day, Xiaobei was clamoring to leave. Mom and Dad were also very confused but they couldn't help XiaoBei, so they had to stay at Grandpa's house for a day and then leave.
The original plan to stay at my grandfather's house for the New Year was thus broken. Xiao Bei's parents are also wondering why the children do not want to stay in their grandparents' house.
This year's New Year to take Xiaobei home, Grandpa took Xiaobei to buy a lot of delicious fun, Xiaobei also had a lot of fun, but in the evening Xiaobei will go home noisily, noisily looking for grandparents, Grandpa brought delicious fun how to coax useless, Xiaobei cried and made noise, clamoring to find grandparents.
The next morning, Xiaobei's parents had to send Xiaobei to the grandparents' house, Xiaobei came and happily hugged his grandfather, Xiaobei's parents could not understand, why did Xiaobei not want to stay in her grandfather's house?
In fact, staying at Grandpa's house or Grandpa's house for the New Year, the children have a number in their hearts.
(1) The child may stay with the elder of one party for a long time and cultivate deeper feelings
Children in the childhood and one of the elders of the contact for a long time, know more about each other, just like Xiaobei and Grandpa, it is certain that Grandpa and Xiaobei are more familiar with Xiaobei than Grandpa and Xiaobei, more contact, the deeper the feelings, so Xiaobei is more willing to go to Grandpa. The child has no other thoughts, only knows whoever kisses him and who is with whom.
(2) The outside world instills different concepts in children
For grandpa, it is a relative of the mother's side, in the concept since ancient times, it is natural that the grandfather on the father's side is more intimate, with such a concept, it will naturally have an impact on the child's cognition. Of course, this is part of the outside world's view, some ideas think that since ancient times, children should be related to their grandfathers, so different ideas indoctrinated by the outside world will also have an impact on children.
(3) The child's own inner feelings determine which party the elder is closer to, and only then will he be grateful to the elder of which party
Whether it is grandpa or grandfather, who is good to the child, the child remembers in his heart, he will also be grateful to the elders of which party, and naturally he is more willing to go to the home of the elders of which party for the New Year. Whichever elder is not so close to the child, the child is naturally reluctant to go to his house for the New Year. If the elders are sincere and sincere to the children, the children will certainly treat the elders with a grateful heart.
As a parent of a child, naturally I do not want to see the phenomenon of my child kissing on the side. Children should balance the elders on both sides and treat both elders equally. After all, blood relations are here, and the elders all hurt their children. At this time, as a parent, you should play your best role.
First, teach children that the care of their elders is equal, and there should be no comparison
Parents should instill the correct ideas and concepts in their children, the elders on both sides love the children very much, but the various behaviors are different, and the children should be educated to learn to understand the way the elders of both sides express love. At the same time, while accepting the love of the elders, do not forget to be grateful to the elders, always have a grateful heart, so that the elders of both sides can also feel the love of the child, so that the child can get a good and stable relationship with the elders of both sides.
As an elder, you should also make efforts to maintain a good and stable relationship with your children. For children, it is necessary to treat them as equals, and not to be affected by the concept of equality between men and women. Elders should also treat children sincerely, so that the two hearts of children and elders can get closer and closer.
As a parent, you should often take your children to contact the elders, as small as calling every New Year's Day, to often walking around to greet, family affection should be more intimate because of contact.
Second, parents should treat their elders equally, so that children know that both elders are the closest people to their children
Parents should face up to the relationship between their children and their elders and teach their children to treat their elders equally. Don't compare the elders of both sides in front of your children. Let the child know the good of the elders, so that there is no such thing as the child wants to stay in one elder's house and does not want to stay in the other.
As a parent, in fact, in the New Year, you can bring both elders to the home, so that there is no problem of going to whose home and not whose home, and at the same time, the elders of both sides can also meet and contact together, why not enjoy it? The road to education is still very long, parents should slowly grope with their children, it does not matter if they encounter a little wind and rain, they must believe that after the wind and rain, it must be a rainbow.