In the student era, students' enthusiasm for learning fluctuates and often needs encouragement from parents, not only verbal encouragement, but sometimes substantive encouragement from parents.
For students, learning is a thing that runs through their childhood, from the beginning of the tooth and tooth language, students begin to contact learning, and when they go to school, they begin to contact systematic learning.
From the very beginning of the number, the vowel rhyme, as well as A, B, C, D, etc., these are the things that students have to contact after school, and then accumulate little by little, and slowly grow up.
In school, in order to encourage students and increase their interest in learning, teachers will also award certificates to students who have performed well.
For example, students who study well, the top few in the class, students who perform well in class discipline in the class, students who maintain class honors, etc., the school will award these students with awards.
And the students will take the award home, parents will be very happy after seeing it, think that the child in school is not nothing to learn, how to make a good meal for the child, some parents will also give some small rewards.
Just like this parent, he knows that his daughter is already very good, but in order to motivate his daughter, he still promises that if his daughter gets back a certificate, he will give a reward of 10 yuan, with no upper limit.
The daughter was also very happy, and when she returned to the room, she took out her own award certificate and asked her father to fulfill his promise.
But after the award certificate was taken out, the father was stunned, and the daughter took out not only a few awards, but a large stack of awards, and if it was spread out, it could cover the entire bed.
And the father also began to fulfill his promise, counting the number of awards his daughter took out, there were as many as thirty, and for each award, the father gave his daughter 10 yuan.
The daughter is happy to collect money, the father counts the awards, the number is also very happy, after one or two, the father's private money is almost gone, but the father is also willing, seeing that the daughter has won so many awards in school, the father must be happy in his heart.
When dad posted this video online, netizens expressed envy, and even said that if my children were so good, they could take out all my private money for awards.
In fact, for parents and children now, motivational education is not impossible, parents to a certain extent to the child to some rewards, or encouragement, for children, is also a certain motivation.
In the process of children's growth, it is necessary to grow up in an inclusive and loving environment, and children who grow up in such an environment will be very confident and excellent.
However, motivational education is a double-edged sword for children and parents, and if parents use the wrong method, it is not good for children, but will harm children.
So, how can parents do a good job of "incentive education"?
Appropriate encouragement, there is a degree of degree
Children do need praise and rewards, but the praise and encouragement of parents need a certain environment and timing, and excessive praise and encouragement will become the pressure of children.
Parents should know how to prescribe the right medicine, to know what kind of personality the child is, to know what kind of praise the child likes the parents, introverted children, parents should guide them to self-confidence, children with more sensitive personalities, parents should pay attention to their attitudes.
Only in such an environment can children's self-confidence be built and they will be full of trust in their parents, because children need their parents' approval, and rewards are not very important.
Recognize the effort, do not easily deny
I believe that in the heart of every child, they are very eager to get the efforts and approval of their parents, but every child cannot be a perfect child, and there must be shortcomings in the child.
If parents can clearly see that their children are trying to get better and their grades have improved to a certain extent, is it not the first thing to do?
The first place will not always be the first place, and the last place will not always be in the last place, as long as there is progress, that is a good start.
Many times, the child has obviously worked hard, but the parents can not see, only value the results, turn a blind eye to the child's efforts, which is a kind of harm to the child.
Rewards can, don't always change
Some children are really angry, and after the parents promised to give rewards, they did meet the expectations of the parents and also met the requirements of the parents, which is a good thing.
However, parents should abide by their own bottom line and do not easily change their rewards, such as 10 yuan for good exams, 100 yuan for good final exams, and so on.
This will make the child's efforts become purposeful, and even talk to the parents in disguise about the conditions, which is not conducive to the growth of the child, parents should pay more attention.
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