When the child was young, he scolded a "ghost is coming!" "Here comes the ghost!" is valid. However, some parents may worry that their children may have a negative impact because of fear. While referring to the positive and negative opinions, I also think about the impact of ghosts on children.
Discipline has pros and cons, "the ghost will come"
When a child is disobedient, the parent may say, "The devil will come!" Or "The ghost will come out!" ”。 Recently, it seems that there is a well-crafted app online that can mimic the demons that scold children over the phone.
Because of its efficacy, many parents are beginning to worry. In fact, this discipline can be called a "threat". Some parents may worry that if they use too much, it will have a bad impact on their children.
In fact, using demons and ghosts seems to have pros and cons.
◆ Agreed
◎ When I was young, even if I couldn't understand it, I understood that life needed a "terrible presence" to stop unwelcome behavior.
◎ No child really thinks that there will be demons when he becomes a schoolboy. Post-growth trauma hardly continues.
◎ Lies are very convenient.
◆ Objections
◎ I just heard some "lies" because I was afraid of ghosts, but I didn't understand the real reason why I was scolded.
◎ May cause nighttime crying due to severe fear.
◎ Lies are not good.
Relying too much on threat discipline is an "outdated" idea
Sometimes when language is not well understood, it may be inevitable to use some threatening methods to discourage unwelcome behavior. However, precisely because it has a great effect, it has become a reliable method. You will never understand the real reason for being scolded, and as you get older, you will get used to demons and ghosts, and the effect of discipline will become worse and worse. Even if you don't fully understand it, it's important to patiently explain reasons like "why you need to do this" and "why you shouldn't."
However, not only demons, there may be many cases of unconscious use of "threats" in parenting. So to say to a child who doesn't listen to what he says, "Santa Claus won't come!" Or scold a child who doesn't pick up "Bugs will come!" "It's all a threat.
Say to a disobedient child "I'll never pay any more attention to you!" It could be a threat, considering it contains messages like "If you don't do XX, you'll lose it forever."
There is no doubt that some of these words are likely to break the child's heart. Therefore, it is necessary to carefully judge whether those words released "for the sake of the child" have become "threats" to hurt the child.
If yes, stop!