Parent-child role swap experiment: walking blindfolded, holding hands to lead, touching the positive power of children

It is nonsense that the truth is correct, and many times it is not that the reason is wrong, but that the person is satisfied with listening to the reason and not practicing, and it is useless to say that the reason is useless.

There is a saying in family education that is the truth: relationship precedes and is greater than education! This sentence is known to everyone, I believe and recognize, but it is not easy to do, often it is right to hear it, and it is wrong to do it.

How important is the relationship? I suddenly remembered the story of a parent-child role swap experience.

The summer vacation when the children graduated from elementary school, they went to the southern city together to participate in an education summer camp. At the closing meeting, the organizers arranged a behavior experiment in which parents put on blindfolds, led by their children holding hands, walked up and down the stairs, through 1 floor, and then back to the conference room auditorium.

I don't know how other parents feel, I just remember that I instinctively didn't dare to step forward at the beginning, and the child grabbed my hand and encouraged me not to be afraid, rest assured, very safe. When going up and down the stairs, also remind to be careful, even side by side to help walk, when encountering obstacles under the feet, remind careful to step on the feet, but also help steady landing, can be described as a full range of intimate services.

Back in the auditorium, take off the blindfold, many parents are blinded by tears, moved to a mess, the organizer seems to have expected, there are many paper towels on the seat, the child handed it to the parents to wipe their tears, and even comforted not to cry, not to cry.

This role-playing activity, only experienced in person, can have real feelings, my description is only the truth, it is best to practice many times, especially when you are impatient with children and lack patience.

More precisely, this is a role swapping experiment, and the parent-child relationship role is interchangeable. Parents who were originally commanding and commanding have become weak and incompetent and need their children's care, and children have become leaders and caregivers, playing the role of parents.

One yin and one yang is the way, behind the strong is fragility, good and bad, big and small, complementary feelings overflowing into words.

Usually parents educate children, many people are used to "bullying the small with the big", in fact, it is not as good as the dog, in fact, it is bullying, through role swapping, personally experience the help that children bring to themselves, and only then do they have the impact of the soul.

This activity is designed very well, a small twist design, so that those parents who pretend to be strict, immediately exposed the original form, exposing vulnerability.

Of course, whether or not you can fundamentally change the parents' cognition is not something that can be done in one experiment, but it is certain to trigger thinking.

If you extend it a little further, the psychological knowledge of this role swap experiment includes the importance of touch for people, and hand in hand is touch, which is the source of secure attachment. The second is the importance of the support system, blindfolded walking needs children to protect, and support is resources. The third is the importance of strengthening and fading, active encouragement, timely affirmation, blindfold walking fear will also be forgiven.

On paper, I finally feel shallow, I know that this matter must be done, the power of language is superficial, and active participation in the experience of action is profound.