Customs and customs, there is faith, and there is no belief.
Living in the city, everyone is used to living as comfortable as they want, and they don't care about customs and festivals. However, in rural areas, especially the older generation, customs are still highly valued.
If you don't follow customs, you will be regarded as unlucky by them.
In Linyi, Shandong, a newly married bride encountered an interesting thing.
Because her husband was working in a foreign country, on the third day of marriage, he left home to go to work. In order not to let the bride "stay alone in the empty room", the mother-in-law found an object and let it replace her son to sleep with the bride.
The moral is good, just a little funny.
The incident happened in the home of a resident in Linyi, Shandong Province, and on the third day after the woman and her husband finished the banquet, the husband had to go to a foreign country because of work reasons.
According to the local customs of Linyi, when a newlywed marries, the bride cannot stay alone in an empty room and sleep alone in a bed. The two have to sleep together for a month before they can sleep separately.
If the groom is not at home, he has to replace it with something else and let the bride sleep in her arms.
Sure enough, on the day the groom left, the mother-in-law found "something" to press under the bride's quilt.
Bian Dan: I thought about it for a long time and couldn't understand, how could I do it?
What the mother-in-law finds is a common tool in the countryside, and it is the "flat burden" that rural people use to pick things.
The woman thought it was funny, so she asked what was the special significance of sleeping with "flat shoulders".
The mother-in-law explained that the flat shoulder represents the groom's responsibility, which means very good.
Hearing this, the woman couldn't help but laugh out loud, and Bian Dan probably didn't know that she still had this role.
However, following the customs of the countryside, the woman gladly accepted the mother-in-law's practice and slept with a flat shoulder at night.
Having said that, some people feel that the mother-in-law is disrespecting the bride.
Many girls have a fetish for cleanliness and prefer to be clean. What is the flat shoulder used for? Everybody knows it.
Some flat shoulders are used to pick up pig dung and hold it to sleep, which always feels a little disgusting.
If the flat burden is new, it is acceptable, if it is old, how can it be put on the bed?
The bride marries into an unfamiliar environment, and in the few days after marriage, she actually needs someone to accompany her.
Knowing that the husband is going to leave home to work, the intimate mother-in-law should call the person on this side of the family, stay down, accompany the bride, until she adapts to life here.
Putting a flat shoulder cannot give the bride a sense of security, nor can it replace the company of relatives.
Respect the so-called customs, it is better to care more about the bride, take care of her like a daughter, and let her feel at home.
It is worth mentioning that after the wedding, one of the spouses is not at home, and there are many examples of the bride "alone in the empty room".
If you are superstitious, you will put a broom on the bed and the groom's shoes to sleep with the bride. It is not superstitious to ignore customs at all, and it is not impossible for the bride to sleep by herself.
Some netizens mentioned that this custom is very similar to "husband and wife cannot sleep together in women".
In rural areas, daughters take their husbands back to their mother's homes, often sleeping separately. According to rural customs, two people sleep in the same room, which is unlucky.
In the city, there are not so many rooms, and regardless of customs, couples should sleep in one room, whether in the woman's house or in the man's house.
We are all well aware that marriage needs to be managed. Both men and women need to contribute to the family, and understand each other and trust each other, and the marriage will be happy.
As the saying goes: husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken.
A loving couple, even if they do not follow customs, the family is happy.
Someone explained that in ancient times, the groom was not at home, and the bride slept with a flat shoulder, but it was actually for self-defense.
Nowadays, there is no such worry, but the custom has changed its taste and become "meaningful".
What everyone wants to know is that if the bride is not at home within a month after marriage, what will the groom sleep with?