preface
General Xu Shiyou spent his life fighting horses, conquering the north and south, and making outstanding military achievements. He had three wives in succession, the first wife was called Zhu Ximing, the second wife was named Lei Mingzhen, and the third wife was named Tian Minglan, who later changed his name to Tian Pu.
Xu Shiyou's marriage seems to be inseparable from "Ming", and some of his comrades-in-arms often ridicule him: You are not "Ming" and do not look for it.
Zhu Ximing, the wife of Tiefa, has not been heard from for more than 20 years, and she married someone else during the war years
Xu Shiyou was born in 1905 in Xujiawa, Xinxian County, Henan Province, and in the war-torn era, ordinary people often had to go hungry and devastated. Xu Shiyou's family is the same. Due to severe malnutrition, the young Xu Shiyou was almost sold to human traffickers, and at the crucial moment, it was his mother who snatched him from the traffickers.
Figure | Xu Shiyou
Later, he was sent to the Shaolin Temple to learn art and practiced a good kung fu, when the peasant movement was in full swing, and sympathetic to the toiling masses, he also participated in it, and threw himself into the revolution, serving as the captain of the peasant volunteer brigade and the captain of the artillery team in the six townships of Chengmagang.
At this point, Xu Shiyou began to run non-stop for the revolutionary cause, and the mother was very pleased to see her son making a revolution and seeking benefits for the people. But there was one thing that worried her, and that was her son's marriage. As the old saying goes, "a man should get married", the son has now reached the age of marrying a daughter-in-law, but he is not thinking about it all day, how can he marry a daughter-in-law?
Figure | Xu Shiyou's mother
So she said to her son: "You are not young, don't patronize the revolution, it's time to make a family!" Xu Shiyou didn't say anything but shyly resigned.
"You're not in a hurry, I want to rush to hug my grandson a day earlier!" His mother said, and she arranged a marriage for him.
After going from village to village and visiting relatives and friends, the mother chose a woman named Zhu Ximing from a neighboring village. Although she is four years older than Xu Shiyou, she was born handsome, kind-hearted, and loves to work, and she is also a member of the village women's association.
This Zhu Ximing is simply the best daughter-in-law in Xu Shiyou's mother's heart, and she loves it very much. Xu Shiyou saw the situation and agreed to the marriage.
Soon, the two were married. On the day of the wedding, his mother personally took care of the marriage, cleaned up the yard, and cleaned up, and the whole family also took action, there were pigs and sheep, and his mother also invited a sedan and a drummer.
Then the wedding of Xu Shiyou and Zhu Ximing began in a lively and lively way in the midst of the gong and drum tremor. However, a few days after the couple's sweet days, Xu Shiyou received the battle order and left his mother and wife.
Loyalty and filial piety have been difficult since ancient times, Xu Shiyou rushed to the forefront of the brave killing of the enemy with enthusiasm, but he could not take care of his wife and children at home. But only by keeping "everyone" can we make thousands of "little families" happy.
But he always felt guilty about his mother and wife, and when talking about his aftermath, Xu Shiyou once mentioned: "Be loyal to your life, fulfill your filial piety when you die, and bury your mother after death." " requirements.
In the whole party's proposal to advocate cremation after death, Xu Shiyou was the only one who did not sign, and after his death, he fulfilled his long-cherished wish and was buried next to his mother's grave. A piece of filial piety can be learned from the sun and the moon.
But he could not make up too much for his wife Zhu Ximing. In 1927, Xu Shiyou joined the Communist Party of China and took a big step in the revolutionary cause. But he had less time to go home, and his wife, Zhu Ximing, was occasionally able to reunite with him.
In 1928, the 11th Army of the Chinese Workers' and Peasants' Red Army was established, and Xu Shiyou successively served as a squad leader, platoon leader, battalion commander, and commander of the 34th Regiment of the 10th Division of the Red Fourth Front.
In October 1932, Xu Shiyou received an order from the troops to march west, which would be a long journey, most of the battlefields were fierce and auspicious, and this time the western expedition, he and his wife, mother, and children may be farewell forever.
Before leaving, he returned home and said goodbye to his wife and mother. Mother knew the righteousness, she said:
The mother will not stop you, you are a member of the party, you should listen to the party. But that gun is not long-sighted, you have to be alert!
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At this time, Zhu Ximing did not say anything, but just held their child "Black Ling" and cried into a tearful person.
After Xu Shiyou left, the reactionary vigilante group posted a notice to arrest Xu Shiyou, but they could not find Xu Shiyou's whereabouts and went to look for Zhu Ximing to question him. So Zhu Ximing and his family began a life of exile.
During the war years, there was smoke everywhere, and they were unarmed, so life was very difficult. Zhu Ximing often took advantage of the night to go to the mass graveyard to pick up the clothes of the dead, and then make them into shoes and sock soles to sell, or exchange these items for food, so that the family could survive.
In The absence of Xu Shiyou, Zhu Ximing became the "top pillar" of the family, shielding the family from the wind and rain. After that, the Kuomintang army relaxed the pursuit of the red army's family, and the family returned to their hometown.
However, Xu Shiyou has not returned for many years, there is no news, and his life and death are uncertain. Whenever Zhu Ximing thought about it, he was worried and washed his face with tears.
Xu Shiyou's father died in his 30s, and her mother did not want her daughter-in-law to remain widowed, so she proposed to let her remarry.
Figure | Xu Guang, son of Xu Shiyou
Zhu Ximing understood his mother's good intentions and left the "black man" to marry someone else.
In 1948, Xu Shiyou's mother finally found out the news that her son was still alive, so she sent the "black man" to find Xu Shiyou.
After many years, the child who could only cry in the swaddling has now grown into a tall, thin and thin young man, and Xu Shiyou burst into tears with excitement.
When he learned that his wife had remarried, he understood and felt guilty for not being able to take good care of his wife and children for so many years.
Second, the daughter of the King of the Mountain said to Xu Shiyou, "Do you agree to the marriage?" ”
Xu Shiyou also had a small episode before marrying his second wife. He almost "entered the house" and became the son-in-law of the King of The Mountain.
In October 1934, the Red Army failed in its fifth anti-"encirclement and suppression" campaign, forced to implement a strategic shift and embarked on the Long March. Xu Shiyou served as the commander of the cavalry division, responsible for attacking the enemy's cavalry, reconnoitring the roads, and collecting food. Since the areas inhabited by ethnic minorities along the way were not well understood in many places, Xu Shiyou handled his relations with them very carefully along the way. And also helped the people to solve many problems.
One day, Xu Shiyou's Li Miaoxue was caught in Yunwu Village during the process of exploring the way. The mountain king of Yunwu Village, Santambabu, was a local Tibetan, who fled to the mountains due to the compulsion of life and established himself as king. Because he broke one arm, everyone called him "the one-armed king.".
After Li Miaoxue was captured, he patiently told the "one-armed king" about what the Red Army had done and introduced xu Shiyou to him.
The "One-Armed King" had never heard of the name of the Red Army, was very interested, and admired Xu Shiyou's past experience, so he offered to meet Xu Shiyou.
He said, "I would love to meet your Master Xu and see his Shaolin Kung Fu." I set up a ring to see the high and low. If you can't break my ring, don't want to fly out, and if you can, I will treat you with courtesy and send you over the mountain, okay? ”
Figure | Xu Shiyou and the warriors draw sticks
After Xu Shiyou learned of this incident, he made a report to Xu Xiangqian, who deliberately stressed the need to do a good job in national unity. Xu Shiyou followed the instructions and selected thirty soldiers with better skills in the team and followed him to the Cloud And Mist Village.
The "one-armed king" has already set up the ring and is waiting here. The news of the Red Army and the King of the Mountains fighting the ring spread throughout the mountains and forests, and the villagers in the nearby villages came to see the liveliness.
The thirty warriors led by Xu Shiyou, who had experienced hundreds of battles and had rich combat experience, the Tibetans in the Cloud and Mist Village were also very strong in fighting under the training of the "one-armed king" on weekdays, and the two sides had competed for a long time. The villagers cheered and cheered from time to time.
In the end, it was the Red Army led by Xu Shiyou that won the victory.
The "one-armed king" was convinced, immediately released Li Miaoxue, and held a grand banquet for the Red Army that had entered the village. During the banquet, the "One-Armed King" raised a glass to Xu Shiyou and said:
"There are talents in the Red Army, and there are heroes in the Red Army!" I zhai wang gan bow downwind. He said to Xu Shiyou and asked for forgiveness for his previous reckless behavior.
Figure | Xu Shiyou punched
After that, he said to Xu Shiyou: "General Xu, there is a matter of request, I don't know if the general is willing to help?" ”
Xu Shiyou replied with a smile: "The Red Army and the Tibetans are one family, and as long as I can do it, I will certainly do my best to help." ”
It turned out that this "one-armed king" had taken a fancy to Xu Shiyou's talent, and was wise and divine, so he wanted to give him his daughter Xu, who had just turned eighteen. "If the general does not abandon you, he is willing to join the army with you, make a bed and fold a quilt for the general in the morning and evening, and usually lead the general to lead the horse to serve dishes, I don't know what the general intends?"
Xu Shiyou was already married at home, so he rejected the "one-armed king".
After the banquet, Xu Shiyou led the troops, followed by the Tibetan boy sent by the "One-Armed King", and prepared to leave the mountain. Suddenly the daughter of the One-Armed King came to him.
She pointed at Xu Shiyou and said, "Why don't you quit and leave?" Do you agree to the marriage? Xu Shiyou patiently explained everything to her, and gave her a pistol, promising her that after the victory of the Long March, he would take her to the base area and let her study and participate in revolutionary work.
The little girl readily agreed.
As a small episode on the Long March, this past period fully embodies the unity of the military and the people and the unity of the Chinese Communist Party, which has always been advocated.
Third, Xu Shiyou made a mistake, and the second Lei Mingzhen sent a cut sweater to break off the husband and wife relationship with him
After the Red First Army and the Red Fourth Army met in July 1935, the troops were temporarily rested, and many people in the army were still single, and even if they went to the battlefield all year round, these personal problems should be solved. As a result, some senior cadres of the party, government, and army can find their own revolutionary partners.
Political commissar Wang Jian'an said to Xu Shiyou: "Commander, you can get married!" And proposed, "You pick one of the literary troupes, right?" ”
Figure | Xu Shiyou's family took a group photo
Xu Shiyou shook his head and did not speak, "Then our military hospital is not OK?" Wang Jian'an made new suggestions. He and Xu Shiyou are comrades-in-arms for many years, and they have a deep friendship and hope that he can find a good partner. So he kept advising him.
Knowing that Xu Shiyou kept shaking his head, he just smiled and didn't speak. At this point, Wang Jian'an was anxious: "My military commander, do you want to marry Chang'e in heaven or Xi Shi on earth?" ”
Xu Shiyou then opened his mouth and spoke: "Political Commissar, you help me to ask someone, Lei Mingzhen." It turned out that Xu Shiyou had already taken a fancy to Lei Mingzhen, the female county magistrate of DaXian County.
Figure | Xu Shiyou's family
Lei Mingzhen is serious and meticulous in his work, dares to think and dare to do, and takes good care of him. Soon the two came together. At the wedding, Xu Shiyou gave his watch and blanket to Lei Mingzhen as a promise gift. Later, Lei Mingzhen collected wool everywhere, and rolled them into wool, woven them into a sweater, and gave them to Xu Shiyou.
The relationship between the two is very harmonious, but an incident that follows makes them break up as husband and wife.
At that time, Zhang Guotao was the chairman of the Northwest Revolutionary Military Commission, and he opposed the decision made by the central authorities to go north to establish a base area in the Sichuan-Shaanxi-Gansu-Suzhou region, and insisted on commanding the army to go south and establish a separate "central committee." An attempt was made to split the Red Army and the Party.
Xu Shiyou has been following Zhang Guotao since 1932, when he became the commander of the 34th Regiment of the 12th Division of the Red Fourth Army.
In October 1936, after the Red Army won the victory of the Huining Division at Liupanshan, the Party Central Committee decided to convene a congress to criticize Zhang Guotao.
Xu Shiyou attended the conference.
He also deeply resented Zhang Guotao's rebellious behavior, but he did not allow anyone to associate Zhang Guotao's mistakes with the four aspects of hong.
So at the meeting, when Xu Shiyou heard the relevant speech, he stood up angrily and refuted it.
Unexpectedly, Xu Shiyou's rebuttal caused many people to be dissatisfied, and everyone turned to criticism of him. Xu Shiyou, who had a straightforward personality, could bear it, and he came up with the idea of running to Sichuan to fight guerrillas. "Let them see if I'm revolutionary after all." Xu Shiyou said indignantly.
Figure | Wang Jian'an
The escape plan ended in the "betrayal" of Wang Jian'an, who realized at a critical moment that once the nature of the escape had changed, he reported the incident to the Red Army University Security Office.
Xu Shiyou and those who tried to escape were then imprisoned. However, at that time, Xu Shiyou was still angry, and he had a tough attitude toward interrogation, pointing out that he wanted to see Chairman Mao by name.
After that, the central government made the decision to shoot Xu Shiyou. At that time, Xu Shiyou's wife, Lei Mingzhen, was the minister of women's department in Yan'an County, and she was very sad to learn that her husband had made such a big mistake, and decided to break off the husband and wife relationship with Xu Shiyou at the moment.
She sent Xu Shiyou a letter and a package.
The letter read: "I will never love a counter-revolutionary!" In order to preserve the purity of the revolution, our affairs have been cut off twice, and I have insisted on a divorce, and I ask you to sign it after reading it. ”
The package contained the sweater that Lei Mingzhen had personally knitted for Xu Shiyou, but it had been cut into pieces.
Xu Shiyou was locked up in a cave, and his heart was indignant, he hoped to get his wife's comfort, but he did not expect such a result.
When he saw the letter and the cut sweater, he wrote the words "resolute divorce" on the letter and signed his name at the end of the payment.
Figure | Chairman Mao and Xu Shiyou
With regard to Xu Shiyou's "defection" incident, Chairman Mao has always been very sober that this matter was started by criticizing Zhang Guotao, and that his mistakes should be distinguished from the contributions and merits made by the Red Fourth Front.
Therefore, Chairman Mao rescued Xu Shiyou. Xu Shiyou also recognized his impulsive behavior. At that time, it was difficult to judge the specific situation, and Lei Mingzhen was also a straightforward and hot personality, which caused the inevitable tragedy in their marriage.
After that, Lei Mingzhen apologized to Xu Shiyou many times, but did not get Xu Shiyou's forgiveness.
Fourth, marry the third wife and finally get happiness, and give the warhead to show his heart
The first two marriages ended for various reasons, and in the seventh year after Xu Shiyou and Lei Mingzhen divorced, he met his third wife, Tian Pu, in Jiaodong. Coincidentally, Tian Pu's original name was Tian Minglan, and the name also had the word "Ming".
But this time, Xu Shiyou's marriage finally "kept the clouds open and saw the moon", and Tian Pu entered a happy married life.
Figure | Tian Pu
Tian Pu was born in a peasant family, but her family is very revolutionary, her mother has the title of "Jiaodong Anti-Japanese Heroine", and both younger brothers have fought as soldiers.
In 1941, Xu Shiyou led his troops into Jiaodong. Tian Pu first worked in the tannery in the base area, and then was transferred to the military district organs. With the onset of winter, the enemy intended to carry out a "great sweep" of Jiaodong.
Under the leadership of Xu Shiyou, the anti-Japanese soldiers and civilians in Jiaodong won a victory against the "sweeping". Tian Pu led a group of young girls to perform twisted songs at the Zhujie Conference to celebrate.
Xu Shiyou, who was watching from the sidelines at the time, was attracted by Tian Pu, and he asked Wu Kehua next to him: "You see that the leading girl danced well, and the person also looked outstanding." ”
Figure | Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu
So with the help of Wu Kehua, the "red lady", Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu were able to meet, and after a period of time together, the two fell in love.
Tian Pu made a pair of shoes for Xu Shiyou, and Xu Shiyou did not have any valuable items, so he gave a warhead to Tian Pu.
He said to Tian Pu, "I have nothing, only this little warhead as a souvenir for you." This was the time of the Wanyuan Defense War, when the enemy hit me in the shoulder, and I myself used a sharp knife to cut through the flesh and cut it out. I've been with me for so many years. ”
Although Xu Shiyou was born in the army and had a bold personality, he was thick and thin, and this small warhead was the medal he had been born into and died for many years and fought on the battlefield, which was called his most precious item.
Being able to give this warhead to Tian Pu shows the importance of Tian Pu to Xu Shiyou. Tian Pu has also always treasured it.
In 1943, Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu entered the palace of marriage. After that, Tian Pu served as Xu Shiyou's life secretary and took care of his daily life.
The two walked hand in hand for forty years until Xu Shiyou died.
In addition to Lei Mingzhen, Xu Shiyou's two wives gave birth to a total of seven children for him, Zhu Ximing gave birth to the "Black Man" and named Xu Guang, and the other six children were born to Tian Pu.
Xu Shiyou is very open to the education of his children, does not stipulate the direction of life, let them develop naturally, and of course will not let them use their father's position to seek private interests.
General Xu Shiyou's life was a legendary life, he poured his life's efforts into the revolutionary cause, and his marriage was closely related to the revolutionary cause.