After the founding of New China in 1949, the whole country was full of joy.
A rural woman in Henan passed by a newsstand when she was returning home, accidentally found a face on the newspaper a little familiar, immediately picked up the newspaper and carefully observed it, when she recognized the identity of the person in the newspaper, quickly bought the newspaper, and then ran to an old lady's home, crying and shouting: "Mother, Shiyou is still alive, he is now a commander!" ”
The commander in the newspaper was the famous founding general Xu Shiyou.
This rural woman was Xu Shiyou's first wife: Zhu Ximing.
At this time, she was already married to a farmer.
The story of Xu Shiyou and Zhu Ximing should also start from before Xu Shiyou participated in the revolution.
Founding General Xu Shiyou's military uniform
"Monk Marrying"
Xu Shiyou was born in 1905 to a peasant family during the social upheaval of the late Qing Dynasty, and his hometown of Xinxian County, Henan Province, was plagued by hunger and banditry.
When Xu Shiyou was 8 years old, his family was cut off from food, and when Xu Shiyou heard that the Shaolin Temple did not need money to eat, he immediately followed a boxer named Lin Zijin to the Songshan Shaolin Temple as a monk for 8 years and practiced a good martial art.
In 1921, shortly after Xu Shiyou returned from the Shaolin Temple, he joined the Boy Scout Army under the warlord Wu Peifu, and made a living by being a soldier and eating food.
At that time, the atmosphere of the warlord army was very bad, and there were often officers in the army who beat and scolded the soldiers at will, and the veterans wantonly bullied the recruits, and the soldiers acted arbitrarily, and Xu Shiyou, as the egg of the recruits, soon became the target of the oppression of the veterans.
Wu Peifu
Once, a veteran who had joined the army early in the army went out to hang out after explaining to Xu Shiyou to help him pour a spittoon and fold a quilt.
When the veteran came back, he saw that Xu Shiyou had not yet helped himself, so he slapped Xu Shiyou 5 times, and Xu Shiyou, who had suffered from this grievance, kicked the veteran to death.
Xu Shiyou's foot can stab the honeycomb, the commander of the army is about to shoot him immediately, fortunately, someone helped to intercede, Xu Shiyou escaped the disaster, and he also developed a dislike for the old army.
When Xu Shiyou went home to visit his relatives, he told his mother about this matter as a joke, and as a result, his mother was startled, worried that Xu Shiyou might make some trouble in this way, and gradually came up with the idea of finding a daughter-in-law for Xu Shiyou to manage him, so he found a large number of relatives and friends to help Zhang Luo in this matter.
In the winter of 1923, a relative introduced Zhu Ximing from a neighboring village to Xu Shiyou's mother, although Zhu Ximing was 22 years old in this year, 4 years older than the 18-year-old Xu Shiyou, but Zhu Ximing was a member of the Women's Self-Help Association in the next village, had culture and courage, and Xu Shiyou's mother was very satisfied with her, so when Xu Shiyou returned home, he arranged for Xu Shiyou and Zhu Ximing to meet.
Xu Shiyou
Although Xu Shiyou had been a monk for eight years, he belonged to the lay disciples in the temple, and since he beat the Shaolin Temple, he had nothing to do with the Shaolin Temple, so he could marry a wife.
And Xu Shiyou is also a well-known filial piety, since his mother has already taken a fancy to Zhu Ximing, he did not raise objections, so in the spring of 1924, Xu Shiyou was "ordered" to marry Zhu Ximing.
After Xu Shiyou and Zhu Ximing lived happily for only three days after their marriage, they received combat orders and followed the troops to the front line to fight, after which the couple often lived a life of gathering less and leaving more.
After Xu Shiyou joined the Red Army in 1928, Zhu Ximing and Xu Shiyou's mother made military shoes at home to support the front line, and in order to reunite with her husband, Zhu Ximing also joined the laundry team and risked his life to go to the front line, just to meet her husband for a short time.
During this period, Zhu Ximing gave birth to three sons for Xu Shiyou, all named "Hei Ling", unfortunately the eldest and second eldest died prematurely, and only the third son born on April 7, 1929 survived.
Zhu Ximing originally wanted to wait for Xu Shiyou to return and then give his son a big name, but because of the frequent wars, Xu Shiyou has not been able to see Zhu Ximing again.
In 1932, Xu Shiyou led his troops to evacuate the Eyu-Anhui base area with the Red Fourth Front, and after embarking on the road of the Long March, Zhu Ximing did not even know whether her husband was alive or not.
After the Red Army left the Eyu-Anhui base area, the Kuomintang reactionaries immediately launched a counterattack against the Soviet area and wantonly committed a large number of atrocities that are difficult to describe.
Oil painting of the Long March of the Red Army
On the Long March, Xu Shiyou learned the sad news that during the Kuomintang reactionaries' counterattack on the Soviet area, his mother and sister disappeared while fleeing, and his wife Zhu Ximing and son Hei Ling were all brutally killed by the enemy.
Because of the traffic blockage and frequent wars, Xu Shiyou did not have the ability to verify the authenticity of the news, and could only silently cry and miss his family when no one was around.
A tragic second marriage
In 1935, after Xu Shiyou's Fourth Front Army and the Central Red Army met in Sichuan Maogong Victory Division, they found that the Central Red Army did not pursue asceticism like the Red Fourth Front, but had many revolutionary partners fighting side by side, so they changed their strict ascetic style and issued a document allowing cadres at or above the deputy military level of the Red Army to marry.
Therefore, when the Red Fourth Front army arrived in Yan'an after the end of the Long March, Xu Shiyou and a young woman from Daxian County, Sichuan, held a wedding, Xu Shiyou's second wife was called Lei Mingzhen, a hot-blooded young woman who ran from Sichuan to Yan'an to join the revolution for the sake of revolutionary ideals, and Zhang Guotao, Chen Haochang, Xu Xiangqian and other leaders and comrades-in-arms attended their wedding.
Xu Xiangqian
When the Red Army arrived in northern Shaanxi after a 25,000-mile long march, there were only more than 30,000 troops left, and the cadres in the army suffered serious losses, so in order to cultivate anti-Japanese military and political cadres and improve the strategic and technical level of the Red Army troops, the CPC Central Committee and the "Chinese People's Anti-Japanese Red Army University" (officially renamed "Chinese People's Anti-Japanese Military and Political University" in Wayao Fort, Anding County, Northern Shaanxi Province on June 1, 1936 (after the school was moved to Yan'an in 1937, it was officially renamed "Chinese People's Anti-Japanese Military and Political University"), as one of the outstanding commanders and fighters of the Red Army, Xu Shiyou, one of the outstanding commanders and fighters in the Red Army, As one of the first trainees, lei mingzhen was assigned to Yan'an County by the Organization Department to work for women.
On March 15, 1937, the Central Military Commission received a telegram from the Working Committee of the Western Route Army (the leading organ of the Red Army army that crossed the Yellow River to the west after the end of the Long March), and learned of the failure of the Western Route Army's western expedition.
This incident also quickly became the fuse of the "Approval of Zhang (Guotao) Movement"; as the "Approval of Zhang" movement gradually expanded, some people linked Zhang Guotao's mistakes with the Red Fourth Front, and Xu Shiyou, as one of the main cadres of the Red Fourth Front, felt greatly aggrieved, and gradually developed the dangerous idea of leading the team back to Sichuan to fight guerrillas, and confided in several of his old comrades-in-arms.
When Wang Jian'an, director of the "Kang Da" Security Department, learned of this incident, he quickly made a report to the Party Central Committee, which directly led to the imprisonment of Xu Shiyou and a dozen senior generals of the Red Fourth Front.
Soldiers killed in the Western Route Army
Soon after, the party organization interrogated Xu Shiyou and investigated the source of his dangerous ideas.
By the end of the interrogation, it was more than 10 p.m., and while Xu Shiyou was being taken back to his imprisoned residence, he met Xiao Zhang, a "Kang Da" classmate who had sent him luggage, so he hurriedly said: "Xiao Zhang Xiao Zhang, please go to my house for a trip, tell my wife Lei Mingzhen about my current situation, and let her come to see me." Oh yes, it was a little cold, so let her bring the sweater that helped me when she came. ”
However, after a full half a month, Xu Shiyou did not wait for the arrival of his beloved wife, but waited for "Xiao Zhang" who helped him pass on the message.
After Xiao Zhang came to Xu Shiyou's prison cell, he took out a cigarette and handed it to Xu Shiyou and said, "Oh, Captain Chen Geng asked me to carry it for you." ”
Xu Shiyou asked strangely, "How come you are alone?" What about Lei Mingzhen? ”
Xiao Zhang lowered his head and sighed, and said: "Lei Mingzhen is now the women's minister of Yan'an County, when she came to me yesterday, she gave me a package and a letter. ”
Xiao Zhang's strange reaction made Xu Shiyou feel a little wrong, he hurriedly took the letter handed by Xiao Zhang, opened it, and his face immediately changed, only to see Lei Mingzhen write in the letter: "Xu Shiyou I hate you!" I will never fall in love with a counter-revolutionary, and in order to guarantee the purity of the revolution, I will divorce you! Loyal fighter of the party: Lei Mingzhen".
Chen Geng
After reading the letter, Xu Shiyou opened the package with a trembling hand and found that inside the package was a pile of "sweaters" that had been cut into pieces.
Xu Shiyou was silent for a long time, drew a cigarette from the cigarette that Chen Geng gave him, lit it, took a sip, and then asked Xiao Zhang for a pen and wrote on the back of the note: "Resolutely divorce!" Xu Shiyou".
After the end of the "Approval Zhang" campaign, Xu Shiyou was soon released and reinstated in the military.
After Lei Mingzhen learned of this, she began to regret her previous actions, so she found Xu Shiyou and confessed to him and expressed her hope to remarry him.
However, Xu Shiyou, who was heartbroken, resolutely refused to forgive Lei Mingzhen, and usually did not meet with Lei Mingzhen as much as possible, when someone interceded for Lei Mingzhen, Xu Shiyou said firmly: "I will never forgive her, she is not only unsympathetic when her husband is wronged, but also kicks off, and also throws stones on her husband's head!" How could I continue to live with someone like her, no matter who advised me, it would not work! ”
After the outbreak of the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, the Kuomintang and the Communists began their second cooperation, and Xu Shiyou followed Zhu De to the Taihang Mountains in December 1938 to open up a revolutionary base area in southern Hebei.
After Lei Mingzhen learned of this matter, he quickly reported to the organization and took the initiative to ask to go to the Taihang Mountain, and the organization considered that Xu Shiyou and Lei Mingzhen also had a husband and wife relationship for many years after all, so they agreed to her request.
Jude
However, after Lei Mingzhen arrived at the Taihang Mountain, Xu Shiyou was still reluctant to meet her.
In order to help the two of them reunite, Xu Shiyou's comrades-in-arms Chen Geng and Chen Xilian specially locked Lei Mingzhen and Xu Shiyou in a room, hoping that the two of them would communicate.
As a result, Xu Shiyou did not appreciate it, and with one slap he smashed the door panel and walked out, yelling at Chen Geng: "Bondage is not a husband and wife, I am your soldier, I will listen to you in other things, just this matter, it will not be done!" ”
Then he flew away, and he didn't look at Lei Mingzhen from the beginning to the end.
Commander and Secretary
In the spring of 1941, Xu Shiyou was ordered to lead the independent regiment of the Qinghe Military Region to advance towards the Jiaodong Peninsula, which was also the first time in his life that he stepped into the land of Jiaodong.
Because Xu Shiyou had been obsessed with leading soldiers to fight after arriving in Jiaodong, but there was no one to take care of him in life, The logistics minister Gao Dashan was very anxious about this, so he took it upon himself to find a group of girls with good character in the tannery in the base area for Xu Shiyou's "reference."
After everything was ready, Gao Dashan found Xu Shiyou and mentioned the matter to him, Xu Shiyou neither nodded nor shook his head, but said to the guard: "Lead the horse!" ”
After the two arrived at the tannery, Xu Shiyou looked down at the gesture of the tall mountain and saw a beautiful girl full of youthful atmosphere, standing there concentrating on her work.
Xu Shiyou nodded and said to Gao Dashan, "That's her!" Then he turned around and rode away, and from this day on, Xu Shiyou remembered this girl named Tian Minglan.
Tian Minglan (Tian Pu)
Tian Minglan was born in 1924 to an honest peasant father and an intellectual mother.
Tian Minglan was the eldest in the family, and when she was 7 years old, her father died, and she began to rely on her mother for her life, and when she was nine years old, she was given to someone else's family by her mother as a child bride.
In 1939, when the fifth detachment of the Eighth Route Army came to Tian Minglan's hometown of Laiyang County, Shandong Province, Tian Minglan, who was only 15 years old, resolutely joined the revolution.
She first worked as a worker in the logistics factory of the 5th detachment, and then was transferred to the propaganda team to do performance publicity, and soon after she was transferred to the base tannery by Gao Dashan, and she had her first encounter with Xu Shiyou.
In 1943, after the 38-year-old Xu Shiyou commanded the troops to win the Wandi Victory, he and 19-year-old Tian Minglan held a wedding.
Their wedding ceremony was very simple, although there was no blessing from relatives and friends, but there was a group of comrades-in-arms, which still made Xu Shiyou and Tian Minglan very satisfied.
Because of the limited conditions, the couple cleaned up a dilapidated house and used it as a new house, and then held a tea party with their comrades as a wedding banquet.
Enemy command in the Battle of Vandy
After the "wedding banquet", Xu Shiyou came to be interested, performed a set of Shaolin boxing techniques on the spot, and then took out the shell gun and walked to Tian Minglan's side and said, "Come, be my assistant."
Then he asked his wife and comrades to follow him outside the house, drew out three flowers sent by relatives and friends, placed them on his shoulders and the top of his head, and whispered to her: "Don't be afraid, let's help the guests." ”
Only to see Xu Shiyou walk quickly to a few meters away, pick up the shell gun and shoot three shots at his wife, only to listen to "Ding! trumpet! trumpet! Three gunshots rang out, and the three flowers on Tian Minglan's body all landed on the ground, and before Tian Minglan could react to what was going on, the performance was over.
A few days after Xu Shiyou and Tian Minglan got married, someone from Tian Minglan's hometown came to tian minglan's hometown, saying that Tian Minglan's mother was seriously ill and asking her to go back to meet.
As a result, Tian Minglan was caught by the traitor Zhao Baoyuan's men on the way home, and wanted to take it to ask for merit and reward, when Xu Shiyou sent someone to rescue her, Tian Minglan fell into the sequelae of concussion.
A month after Xu Shiyou and his third wife were married, they received orders to go to the front line to fight.
Before leaving, he decided to arrange a new job for his wife, who had changed her name to "Tian Pu", and personally wrote a letter to Nie Fengzhi, president of the Jiaodong Party School: "I hope that your school will arrange comrade Tian Pu's study and work." ”
After receiving a letter from the old chief, Nie Fengzhi did not dare to be sloppy and quickly arranged a formal job for Tian Pu.
Soon after, the organization sent Tian Pu to Xu Shiyou's side to serve as his "life secretary", and Commander Xu's matter of letting his wife go to the front line also became a beautiful talk in the army.
Wife
After the founding of New China in 1949, the whole country was full of jubilation, although there were still some areas that did not usher in liberation, but the people of the whole country believed that under the leadership of the Communist Party, the day of national liberation would soon come.
On this day, a woman in Henan Passed a newsstand when she returned home, and accidentally found that the face of a person in the newspaper was very familiar, and when she bought the newspaper, she immediately shed tears after careful observation.
She wiped her tears and ran all the way to the house of a white-haired old lady and shouted, "Mother, Shiyou is still alive, he is now the commander!" "This rural woman is Xu Shiyou's wife, Zhu Ximing.
Founding Ceremony
It turned out that after Xu Shiyou led his troops to start the Long March with the Red Fourth Front, Xu Shiyou's family was indeed subjected to frenzied retaliation by the Kuomintang reactionaries and the Kuomintang reactionary forces, but Zhu Ximing and Xu Shiyou's family received news in advance.
At that time, the strong Zhu Ximing was not knocked down by life, for her husband whose life and death were unknown, she relied on picking up garbage to support her mother-in-law and son, and survived the most difficult period.
Xu Shiyou's mother watched her grandson grow bigger and bigger, but her son still had no news, and could not bear to see her daughter-in-law living and widowed, so she had the idea of finding another husband for Zhu Ximing, although Zhu Ximing strongly opposed this matter, but still did not resist Xu Shiyou's mother's repeated persuasion.
So Xu Shiyou's mother took it upon herself to marry her daughter-in-law Zhu Ximing to a farmer named Xia Changwen, and lived with her grandson Xu Heiling.
Although Zhu Ximing remarried someone else, she still treated Xu Shiyou's mother as her own mother,000, and she did not give birth to a child for Xia Changwen, but often returned to Xu Shiyou's mother to chat with her and help her with housework.
Xu Guang (Xu Heiling)
Therefore, after Zhu Ximing saw Xu Shiyou's news in the newspaper, he rushed back to Xu Shiyou's mother's home to announce the good news at the first time, and unexpectedly found that Xu Shiyou's mother did not seem surprised by this.
It turned out that as early as 1938, when Xu Shiyou led the troops to rest in the Xujiawa area, he went back to his home to see his mother.
Unfortunately, it was too late, although Xu Shiyou had divorced Lei Mingzhen by this time, Zhu Ximing was already married to the farmer Xia Changwen.
Because the remarriage of the daughter-in-law was handled by Xu Shiyou's mother, the real purpose was also for Zhu Ximing's good, and she did not want Zhu Ximing's good youth to be wasted on Xu Shiyou, whose life and death were unknown.
But when Xu Shiyou's mother learned the news that her son was still alive, she felt guilt and remorse in her heart, so she never mentioned this matter to Zhu Ximing.
After Zhu Ximing knew about this, she couldn't help but feel a little sad, although she was very happy that Xu Shiyou was still alive, but she had already remarried into someone else's wife, and Xu Shiyou had already married a new wife, although she had a thousand words in her heart, at this time she could only turn into a sigh.
Soon after, Xu Shiyou took his mother and son Xu Guang (after liberation, Xu Heiling was renamed Xu Guang by Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu) to live in Jinan, and after the mother and son got together, Xu Shiyou's mother would always mention to Xu Shiyou the former daughter-in-law Zhu Ximing, saying that she was very filial to herself and was a rare good daughter-in-law, and Xu Shiyou was also emotional about it.
Xu Shiyou's family
Lifelong partner
After the outbreak of the Korean War in 1951, Chairman Mao personally ordered Xu Shiyou to go to Korea to fight, and Xu Shiyou had to leave his wife who was about to be in the basin and go to Korea.
Tian Pu did not complain about this, but said to Xu Shiyou on the occasion of parting: "Before leaving, give us a name for the child who is about to be born." ”
Xu Shiyou smiled and said, "Well, if you have a daughter, call her 'Xu Kangmei', and if you have a son, call him 'Xu Yuanchao'." ”
By the time Xu Shiyou returned from the front, Xu Yuanchao was already three years old.
Tian Pu successively gave birth to two sons and four daughters for Xu Shiyou, and when the younger daughter was born during the period of economic construction, Xu Shiyou named his younger daughter "Xu Jingjian".
In 1966, after a special movement that swept the country began, Xu Shiyou said to his young daughter: "I don't want to build an economy this year, you still call it 'little soldier'." ”
Tian Pu quickly said to Xu Shiyou: "It is okay to change your name, but I have given birth to half a class for you, and there should always be one with my surname, right?" ”
In this way, Xu Shiyou's youngest daughter was renamed "Tian Xiaobing".
Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu have been together for more than 40 years and have spent a full life, Xu Shiyou once said with emotion before his death: "Tian Pu is my faithful partner in life, if there is an afterlife, I will also be a partner with her." ”
Tian Pu has also always regarded Xu Shiyou as his life's role model and regarded Xu Shiyou as his strict teacher and friend.
Looking at Xu Shiyou's three marriages, it can be said that they are full of the characteristics of the times.
His marriage to Zhu Ximing is a typical arranged marriage, although he and Zhu Ximing do not know each other, but they still married this strong woman "at the behest of their mother", but unfortunately, things are uncertain, and they have to be separated in the end.
His marriage with Lei Mingzhen began with free love, but he was separated by differences in the perception of "revolution", and it was precisely because of his separation from Lei Mingzhen that he was able to know Tian Pu, who was worth accompanying him for a lifetime, and his fate was uncertain.
In 1977, Xu Shiyou and his eldest granddaughter took a group photo in Guangzhou
Xu Shiyou's wife Zhu Ximing died
In 1965, Xu Shiyou's wife, Zhu Ximing, came to the end of her life at the age of 64.
When Zhu Ximing was dying, he called his son Xu Guang to him and said to his son: "I Zhu Ximing have only admitted that I am the daughter-in-law of the Xu family in this life, and after I am gone, I must be buried on the xu family grave!" Zhu Ximing, who already knew that he would soon die, still couldn't let go of Xu Shiyou in his heart.
After Zhu Ximing's death, Xu Guang buried Zhu Ximing on the Xu family grave in accordance with his mother's last wishes, and erected a monument for Zhu Ximing to commemorate his mother, when Xu Shiyou learned the news of his wife's death, his heart was full of grief, and suddenly there were tears between his eyes, and he said to his son Xu Guang: "You must often go to your mother's tomb to visit her!" ”