In 1979, Xu Shiyou was transferred to Guangxi and was ordered to command the border self-defense counterattack. Because he had not returned home for a long time and missed his family, Xu Shiyou found a comrade-in-arms who had just come to the army from the central government and asked about some situations at home. As a result, the comrade-in-arms kept twisting and saying that there was no big deal, that is, the two children made some mistakes.
Xu Shiyou continued to ask about the cause,
After learning about it, he was instantly furious, and even threatened to go back to expel his daughter from the military and shoot his son
。 Everyone in the army knows that Xu Shiyou's temper is not good, but the tiger poison does not eat children, what did his daughter and son do? Let him be so cruel to his children?
Three marriages
Xu Shiyou was born into a poor family in Xujiawa, Xinxian County, Henan Province, and at the age of 8, Xu Shiyou was sent to the Shaolin Temple by his parents. At first, he was just a small miscellaneous servant in the temple, but later because he often secretly learned martial arts, he was favored by his master before he began to formally learn from his master. It is also that he has a good kung fu, known as "
Monk General
" reason. After studying martial arts here for 8 years, he returned to his hometown and later joined the peasant movement.
afterward
In the campaign against Xinji, Xu Shiyou became famous in one battle, and was promoted from battalion commander to regimental commander.
In 1924, Xu Shiyou led a pistol squad of 12 soldiers back to his hometown after a three-year absence.
At this time, her mother felt that Xu Shiyou had reached the grade of marriage, so she found a girl from a neighboring village for him, named Zhu Ximing, who was 4 years older than Xu Shiyou.
Born beautiful and hardworking, he is also a member of the women's rescue association in the village
。 Xu Shiyou's father died early, and he has always been very filial to his mother, so he obeyed his mother's orders and followed his mother.
In the spring of that year, Xu Shiyou married Zhu Ximing back home in a lively manner. But the happy times didn't last long,
Four days later, Xu Shiyou received the battle order, so he had to say goodbye to his mother and newlywed wife, leave home, and lead his troops into the battle, never to return
。 But Zhu Ximing was already pregnant.
After Xu Shiyou left home, his mother and Zhu Ximing worked at home to make military shoes and sometimes joined the laundry team to go to the front line to comfort them. After 10 months,
Zhu Ximing gave birth to a boy, but Xu Shiyou has been on a distant battlefield and has not been heard from.
On October 21, 1932, after the main force of the Red Fourth Front broke through to the west, it was followed by the burning and looting of the White Bandit Army, and all the dependents of the Red Army would be forced to remarry, otherwise they would be taken away.
Although Zhu Ximing vowed to die, under the persuasion of her mother-in-law, she eventually remarried someone else. Xu Guang is the root of the Xu family, and the mother-in-law left her to raise herself.
It was not until after the liberation of the whole country that Zhu Ximing read the newspaper and knew that Xu Shiyou was still alive. Xu Shiyou also misheard the rumors before, thinking that Zhu Ximing was dead, so he re-established a new family. When he was just liberated, Xu Shiyou took his mother to live in Jinan.
Mothers often tell their sons about how good and filial their daughter-in-law Ximing is, and Xu Shiyou often sighs when he hears it.
In the autumn of 1934, the headquarters of the Red Army issued a document allowing commanders of the Red Army at or above the rank of deputy to marry the local people, and his second marriage was established in October of that year.
After the end of the Long March, soon after Xu Shiyou arrived in Yan'an, he developed a good feeling for Lei Mingzhen, a hot-blooded young woman in Daxian County, Sichuan, who defected to Yan'an. Through the matchmaking, the two went from acquaintance to love, and soon held a wedding in Yan'an. After marriage, Lei Mingzhen was considerate of Xu Shiyou, and soon after she was assigned to Yan'an County to take charge of women's work. Xu Shiyou then entered the Kang Da with a large number of outstanding Red Army soldiers, and although the two were not together, their feelings had always been very deep.
However, the weather was unpredictable, and Xu Shiyou was imprisoned because of Zhang Guotao. In the cell, Xu Shiyou has been looking forward to seeing his wife Lei Mingzhen, but more than half a month has passed, he has not seen the other party's figure once, and finally ushered in a letter that surprised him:
Xu Shiyou I hate you! In order to preserve the purity of the revolution, we cut off our affairs in two, and I resolutely demand a divorce! Please sign.
Xu Shiyou was also furious when he saw the letter, and immediately wrote on the note:
Resolute divorce! Xu Shiyou
。 Later, under the personal intervention of Mao Zedong, Xu Shiyou survived and re-led his troops to fight.
At this time, Lei Mingzhen also regretted his impulsiveness at that time, confessed his mistake to Xu Shiyou many times, and hoped to remarry, but Xu Shiyou just refused to forgive her.
During this period, Chen Geng and others had locked the two of them in a room, hoping that they would have a good talk, but Xu Shiyou finally broke through the door and walked away.
Later, Xu Shiyou went to Shandong and ushered in his third marriage.
In the spring of 1941, Xu Shiyou led an independent regiment into Jiaodong. After the base area was restored, Xu Shiyou's name became a household name. At this time, he also welcomed his third lady. It was at the Zhujie conference, and a girl's dancing style attracted the attention of Xu Shiyou, who turned his face to Wu Kehua, who was sitting next to him, and said:
Old Wu, you see that the girl in the row twisted well, and the person was also excellent
。 ”
This girl was Tian Pu, whose name was Tian Minglan at that time. After Wu Kehua's matchmaking, the two quickly became acquainted. After two years of love,
Tian Minglan was completely attracted by Xu Shiyou's legendary revolutionary journey, and their feelings grew day by day
。 In the spring of 1943, Xu Shiyou and Tian Minglan held a wedding. During the Liberation War, Tian Minglan served as Xu Shiyou's life secretary. Since then, everyone has changed their name to Tian Minglan."
Secretary Tian
", we all know that she is The Wife of Commander Xu.
Subsequently, Xu Shiyou was transferred to Nanjing as the commander of the Nanjing Military Region, and Tian Pu also came to Nanjing.
Tian Pu and Xu Shiyou have been together for more than 40 years after marriage and have 6 children
The second son Xu Jianjun, the third son Xu Yuanchao, the eldest daughter Xu Li, the second daughter Xu Sangyuan, the third daughter Xu Huashan, and the fourth daughter Tian Xiaobing.
Xu Shiyou and his children
The six children born to Xu Shiyou and his wife Tian Pu all have their own names. The first daughter was born at the foot of Jingfu Mountain, when Xu Shiyou was fighting in the south of the mountain, while his wife gave birth to a little girl on the north side of the mountain. In the end, the battle was won, xu Shiyou hung a body of gun smoke down, afraid that his long beard would hurt his white and tender daughter, so he carefully pasted his daughter and said:
Let's call it Xu Jingfu, it's quite flavorful
。 When the eldest daughter joined the work, she felt that the name was inappropriate, so she changed it to Xu Li.
The second was the son, because the place of birth was surrounded by soldiers at that time, Xu Shiyou named him Xu Jianjun. The third elder was born in a place called Mulberry Garden; the fourth elder was also born in the war, when it was in a mountainous area called Mount Hua, and the battle was won, so he named xu Huashan.
It goes without saying that the old fifth Xu Aid Korea was born after Xu Shiyou returned from Korea, and the sixth elder was born during the period of large-scale economic construction, and Xu Shiyou said at that time:
To engage in economic construction, let's call it Xu Jingjian
！ But then he wanted his little daughter to join the army because of him
I was called by soldiers, and I hope that the children can also start from the lowest level
。 Therefore, the name of Xu Jingjian must also be changed again.
Tian Pu also said to Xu Shiyou:
Change your name, I gave birth to half a class for you, there should always be someone with my last name
？ So this youngest daughter was named Tian and called Tian Xiaobing.
The eldest son, Xu Guang, lived with his grandmother when he was a child, and he suffered all kinds of hardships and tasted almost everything. After the liberation of the whole country, Xu Shiyou took him from Dabie Mountain to live in a big city and let him enlist in the army as a navy.
In front of his comrades-in-arms, Xu Guang never said that he was Xu Shiyou's son.
Thanks to Xu Guang
Study diligently and achieve excellent results
He was promoted to the commander of the first batch of ships in the New Chinese Navy. Xu Guang joined the army in February 1950, but his position has always been low. In this regard, Xu Guang wanted to say it to his father several times, but he did not dare to say it.
Once, when he showed a little emotion, Xu Shiyou put his face on the board and criticized in a strong voice: "
How many times have you been a death squad? How many injuries have you been injured? What remarkable contribution has been made to the people? Study hard, work honestly, why not serve the people?
”
After that, Xu Guang no longer had the idea of promotion, and also set himself the "three noes" principle of going to the countryside: no
Smoke, do not drink alcohol, do not eat meat.
Xu Guang was raised by Xu Shiyou's mother and had a deep affection for his grandmother. In 1956, Xu Shiyou called Xu Guang back and had a long conversation. He said to his son,
Grandma is old, and I hope that he can return to his hometown to serve Grandma instead of him and do the way of filial piety
。 Xu Guangzhao resolutely transferred from the navy to the people's armed forces department of his hometown xinxian County, and later transferred to the local government as deputy director of the people's congress.
Xu Shiyou is a filial piety, And Xu Guang is also a filial piety, and he made the greatest sacrifice in order to fulfill his father's filial piety. At that time, if Xu Guang continued to stay in the army, he might already be a general. But Xu Guang had no complaints or regrets.
By the mid-1980s, Xu Guang had taken a back seat and worked in an idle position. And his home,
At that time, there was still no decent piece of furniture, and even if I broke my leg and was not hospitalized, I would always walk with a turn
。 Looking at Xu Guang standing in the wind and rain, everyone couldn't help but sigh in admiration:
Full of filial piety!
The children born to Tian Pu for Xu Shiyou are relatively happy, and they all grew up next to their father. However, Xu Shiyou has a different way of education from many parents, sometimes because he is too strict, and his wife educates his children.
Try not to be around, because it will be too painful to watch.
He taught his son to swim, never taught any movements,
Instead, they are thrown directly into the sea, leaving them to cry, choke, and toss and turn
。 The children climbed up to the shore with difficulty, and before they could catch a few breaths, they were picked up by Xu Shiyou and thrown into the sea. In this way, Xu Shiyou's children learned to swim one by one.
Xu Shiyou was famous for beating children when he was young, and once, the second daughter Xu Sangyuan and his sister Xu Huashan skipped school and ran out to play, but they were unexpectedly known by their father. As soon as they returned home, before the soil on the two sisters could be patted off, Xu Shiyou stood in front of them and scolded:
attention
！”
Xu Shiyou shot like lightning, and suddenly picked up Xu Huashan and hit her directly. Xu Huashan instinctively cried out, and his voice was particularly harsh and frightening. Sister Xu Sangyuan looked at her father timidly and cried:
Dad, haven't hit me yet...
As a result, Xu Shiyou slapped his hand and said, "
It was enough to hit one, she was a sister, so hit her
。 ”“
Dad, you are wrong, I am a sister, Huashan is a sister
。 Xu Sangyuan wiped his tears and said. When the general heard this, he sighed in frustration, and xu Huashan cried in chagrin and slapped him on the thigh.
Enraged, he wanted to expel his daughter from the military and shoot his son
As a veteran soldier who came from the war, Xu Shiyou has a special affection for the army.
He believed that the army was a big school for training and training people, so he sent all 7 of his children to join the army
。 Among the three sons, the second son, Xu Jianjun, was the one who worried him the most, made him sad the most, and made him most uneasy.
After Xu Jianjun joined the army, he repeatedly ignored military rules and discipline, and even violated party discipline and state law, and was finally arrested. A long time had passed since this incident, because the family and the troops knew Xu Shiyou's personality, so they never told him. As a result, when he took the initiative to inquire about some things in the family, after learning the news of his son, he roared angrily:
Shoot, be sure to shoot
Witnesses who were on the sidelines at the time later recalled Xu Shiyou's state at the time, saying:
That expression, that look, if his son was present, he would definitely pull out the gun
！ After a long time had passed, Xu Shiyou's mood had not been able to calm down, and in addition to being angry, he also wondered:
Didn't you say that Jianjun performed well? How did it get so fast?
He also blamed himself a little, if he cared more about building the army in peacetime, he would not have ended up in such a situation...
Xu Shiyou grew up to be a high-ranking general under the cultivation of the party, and his requirements for his children will be extremely strict, sometimes excessive.
Xu Shiyou's thinking belongs to the linear type, and he feels relieved to hand over his son to the organization, just like he handed everything over to the organization in the first place. Later, during the critical period of illness, Xu Shiyou sometimes opened his discolored eyes and laboriously turned around to look
Surrounded by familiar and unfamiliar faces, only the figure of his son Xu Jianjun was not seen. His heart was always calling for his son.
I haven't seen him for more than 3 years, and as my father's Xu Shiyou, I really want to see him again when I am dying. In the end, Xu Jianjun finally came from the wind and dust servants in Xining, Qinghai, and stood in front of his father. But at this time, he bowed, mourned, and repented, facing his father's body...
In 1979, Xu Shiyou was sent by the central government to take the Eastern Route Army to the border, and the 73-year-old Xu Shiyou was still not defeated on the battlefield. After a month, Hsu Shih Woo led his army to successfully repulse the Vietnamese army.
During this period, Xu Shiyou's third daughter, Xu Huashan, held a wedding with her crush. Xu Huashan was following his friend to participate in the air force physical examination, and when he arrived, the staff proposed to let her try, but the friend failed, but Xu Huashan fully met the criteria. When she got back, her father asked her, ".
Are you really willing to go
？”“
Of course
Xu Huashan answered affirmatively.
“
I hope you can go, but I will remind you that after that, you will have to suffer a lot, no matter when, you must remember to be honest and do things in a down-to-earth manner
。 In this way, Xu Huashan came to the air force unit and met his sweetheart here.
When his daughter got married, Xu Shiyou was still at the border, and he could only send blessings to his daughter in his heart. As a result, he later learned by chance that his daughter had not returned to the team because she had been on her honeymoon, which had exceeded the three months stipulated in the army. Everyone was in the way of Xu Shiyou's face and did not force her to return to the army.
Xu Shiyou was greatly angered by this incident and immediately dialed Xu Huashan's phone: "
Xu Huashan, I don't care where you are now, give you three days, fly back, and after three days, those who can't see you will immediately be expelled from the military
Xu Huashan, who received the call, was terrified, she knew that her father had always done what he said, so she did not dare to delay for a minute and immediately returned to the army.
Before the youngest daughter Tian Xiaobing was sent to Dabie Mountain to become a soldier, Xu Shiyou also solemnly instructed her,
It is not allowed to say that she is Xu Shiyou's daughter, for fear that she will engage in "privileges."
During the war years, in a newly liberated county town, the eldest daughter Xu Li, one day and Nie Fengzhi's son Guorong went to the street to play, saw delicious things, hungry, but there was no money on them, so they had a clever move, introduced each other to each other that this was someone's daughter, that is someone's son. In the end, out of respect for their parents and their love for the two clever children, the store sent them something to eat.
After xu Shiyou knew about this matter, he directly carried a pistol around the street looking for people, and kept scolding in his mouth:
This discipline-breaking bunny cub...
Xu Shiyou is so strict with his children, in fact he is to everyone. In the 1960s and 1970s, being a soldier was the greatest aspiration of many young people. Tian Pu's two nieces were at the age of becoming soldiers, so they deliberately ran from their hometown to Guangzhou, hoping to let their uncle find a way to let them join the army.
But Xu Shiyou rejected them at that time:"
It is good to be a soldier and defend the country, and I certainly agree with it. However, in order to meet the requirements and regulations of recruitment, it is necessary to be in good health and qualified in political examination, and it is not possible to take the back door of the trust relationship
Xu Daoyan, a distant cousin of Xu Shiyou, was a soldier in the army and once took advantage of the time off to visit his family to meet Xu Shiyou, wanting to ask him to help intercede and propose cadres to himself. As a result, Xu Shiyou not only did not help, but also reprimanded him to dispel this crooked thought as soon as possible and speak with his own true ability. As a result, Xu Daoyan was eventually demobilized and returned to his hometown.
Later years
Although he is usually very strict with the children, every time the children come, he will still ask the staff to cook a lot of delicious meals so that they can eat a good meal. As the children grew up, Xu Shiyou swept them out of the house one by one to prevent them from staying by his side.
Xu Li loved literature and art and entered the Nanjing Military Region's frontline drama troupe; Xu Sangyuan and Tian Xiaobing were sent to the sparsely populated Dabie Mountains to serve as soldiers; although Xu Yuanchao was a soldier in Nanjing, he was still driven out of his home. And Yes
Shiyou has not spoken or helped a child's promotion and transfer, nor has he allowed his children to carry his signboard for their own personal interests. In this regard, he has always adhered to his principles.
In his later years, Xu Shiyou especially liked children, especially the two young granddaughters, Xu Yue, the daughter of the second son, and Xu Hong, the daughter of the third son. Usually, the children live in their own homes and go to kindergarten, so they are rarely seen. So Xu Shiyou has a characteristic, he will remember all the festivals and Sundays, because only this time, the children come to The Eighth Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum.
Xu Shiyou's hearing deteriorated severely with age, and others spoke to him, sometimes repeating it two or three times aloud. But he was sitting alone in the bedroom upstairs.
But every time I could hear the crisp laughter of the children drilling out of the car, and I could hear the childish footsteps of the children as they rushed up the stairs
。 This has always made the staff around Xu Shiyou strange.
Before he met the children, Xu Shiyou was already excited. The children entered the room, and according to the house rules, they first had to stand up straight and shouted:
Grandpa good
！ At this time, Xu Shiyou would smile and pull them to his side, and then open the drawer, which contained the hardened fritters and twist flowers that he had deliberately kept.
He distributed these snacks that he was reluctant to eat to the children, and when he was divided, Xu Shiyou would always ask:
Is it tasty
delicious!
Hearing the children's answers, Xu Shiyou would smile happily.
Xu Shiyou does not have the concept of "door to door" on the issue of his children's marriage, he has always been "turnip greens, each has his own love", and he never interferes, never picks, never interferes, never interferes, as long as the children like it. Children sometimes joke with their fathers, "
Your criteria for choosing a guard are higher than those for a son-in-law
。 This is also one of the reasons why his children are very happy later in life.
On the eve of the Spring Festival in 1985, Xu Shiyou felt that his abdomen was always swollen and painful, but he kept gritting his teeth and enduring it, not taking it seriously, and did not let the staff and family around him know, worried that everyone thought that he was "not in good health". However, during a routine physical examination in March, the results of the examination made everyone feel very good, and he was diagnosed with liver cancer.
After reading Xu Shiyou's illness report, the leader of the party committee of the Nanjing Military Region decided to quickly let Xu Shiyou go to Beijing 301 Hospital for hospitalization. But Xu Shiyou directly and simply refused to say every time:
Don't go
！ They knew that Xu Shiyou was stubborn, but he was still not dead-hearted, and they were patient enough to continue to persuade him, but Xu Shiyou still had two words:
It was not until September 30, 1985, that Xu Shiyou's condition greatly worsened, and he was finally admitted to the hospital. Later, Xu Shiyou was always in a comatose state for a long time, and His wife Tian Pu and the children took turns to wait by his side. At 16:57 on the afternoon of October 22, the heart of the founding general Xu Shiyou stopped beating and he passed away. This year, he was just 80 years old.
Two sleeves of fresh air, a sense of integrity
This sentence is not exaggerated at all in Xu Shiyou. As a senior party cadre and a senior general in the army, Xu Shiyou never thought of buying any family property for himself or leaving any property for his children.