preface
Xu Shiyou once said to a daughter: I hope that you will go to high school and college. But the current situation seems to be not allowed. When you get to the place, you will suffer, so join the army. I came from the bottom, and you have to start from the bottom. The road is out of your own, so do it yourself!
Xu Shiyou's Parenting Classic
As the commander of the Nanjing Military Region, Xu Shiyou has a lot of power. Seriously speaking, he can decide the fate of a military cadre, and even affect the promotion and transfer of a deputy cadre of a large military region.
Despite this, Xu Shiyou never abused it, and his relatives and friends around him could not get a little light. Even if all his children were soldiers, Xu Shiyou had never deliberately "cared" for them. In the words of Commander Xu
"Children who join the army are the people of the army, and the good or bad is managed by the troops, and they go by themselves."
That being said, that's how things are done.
Although from today's point of view, the general's children have neither "gone to the mountains and the countryside" nor been assigned to factories, there is a sense of "personal gain". But in that era, Commander Xu himself was also in a "predicament", and as a father, he could do so much for his children.
General Xu Shiyou had seven children, three sons, and four daughters. Except for the eldest son Xu Guang, who was born to his wife Zhu Ximing, the rest were born to Tian Pu.
The second son was born in the army, for which he was named Xu Jianjun, and the youngest son was born during the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, for which he was named Xu Aid Korea.
When the eldest daughter Xu Li was born, Xu Shiyou was fighting in Jingfu Mountain, so he named Xu Jingfu. After the daughter understood things, she felt that this name was not very good, and then changed her name to Xu Li; the third daughter was born in the place of Sangyuan Village, so she named Xu Sangyuan; the fourth daughter was born in Huashan, so she named Xu Huashan; when the younger daughter was born, the country was undergoing economic construction, so it was named Xu Jingjian. Later, for some reason, Xu Shiyou sent his young daughter to Dabie Mountain to serve as a soldier, and in order to prevent her from engaging in "privileges", he changed her name to Tian Xiaobing, following her mother's surname.
As a father, Xu Shiyou has his own unique way of education. For example, he taught his children to swim, never teaching them any movements, but instead threw them directly into the water and watched from the sidelines.
Let them choke and toss in the water, wait for the children to climb ashore, rest, and then throw them directly into the water.
In this way, Xu Shiyou's children all learned to swim. Can it be said that Xu Shiyou is not only teaching children how to swim, but also educating them how to "swim" in life.
Xu Shiyou did not want them to develop the habit of dependence, so when they grew up, Xu Shiyou threw them out one by one.
Xu Li liked literature and art, so she entered the Nanjing Military Region's frontline drama troupe; Xu Jianjun and Xu Huashan went to the air force; Xu Sangyuan and Tian Xiaobing went to the Dabie Mountains; Xu Yuanchao was still driven out although he was a soldier in Nanjing; xu Guang was a soldier in the navy.
Xu Shiyou said to them more than once:
"You're all grown up and it's time to live on your own!"
Eat by your ability, don't go through the back door
The eldest son, Xu Guang, experienced hardships from an early age, and it was not until after liberation that he was taken to Nanjing by Xu Shiyou and sent to school. For hard-won learning, Xu Guang cherishes it very much, and his academic performance is quite good. It was in this way that Xu Guang was promoted to the commander of the first batch of ships in the Navy.
Xu Guang joined the army in the early 1950s, but by the 1980s his position was still "deputy regimental level". Compared with those who enlisted in the army at the same time, the position is obviously a bit low.
Someone suggested that you could tell your father that the matter would not be resolved. Xu Guang shook his head after hearing this, and then remembered the original incident.
In a conversation with my father, I revealed a little complaint. And he was questioned by his father all the time,
"You've been a death squad a few times, you've been injured a few times, what have you done to the people?"
In this way, when Xu Guang left the team, he was still a cadre below the regimental level. He listened to his father and returned to his hometown to take care of his grandmother, serving as deputy director of the armed forces department in the new county. On January 6, 2013, he died of illness at the age of 84.
Xu Jianjun became a deputy regimental cadre of the Air Force by virtue of his own ability in the army. However, because he violated party discipline and state law, he was sent to a military court.
After Xu Shiyou learned about it, he jumped like a thunderbolt and said bluntly: "Hurry, shoot him for me." ”
After Xu Shiyou died of illness, Xu Jianjun came from Qinghai to see his father for the last time.
Xu Yuanchao, after joining the army at the age of 16, has been a soldier in the Nanjing Military Region.
In the army, he grew up step by step, and finally was awarded the rank of major general in 2000
He served as a member of the Standing Committee of the Anhui Provincial Party Committee and the commander of the Jiangsu Provincial Military Region, and retired at the right age in 2011.
Xu Li remained in the Nanjing Military Region's Frontline Drama Troupe until his retirement; Xu Sangyuan served in Nanjing's air administration and later engaged in the directing profession; Xu Huashan, who did not like military life, later went to the sea to do business; Tian Xiaobing, after retiring from the army, engaged in literary work, and is now the secretary general of the Nanjing Higher Education Research Association.
Judging from the growth experience of General Xu Shiyou's children, Xu Shiyou really did not use his power to gain benefits for his children.
Xu Shiyou and grandchildren
Xu Shiyou is very fond of children, especially the two little granddaughters, Xu Yue, the daughter of the second son, and Xu Hong, the daughter of the third son. Usually, the children attend kindergarten and can only be seen on Sundays. For this reason, General Xu Shiyou was very excited on Sunday.
After the children saw Xu Shiyou, they would shout happily, "Hello Grandpa!" At this time, he smiled and pulled the child to his side.
Distribute your reluctant fritters and twists to your children and ask if they are delicious? The children deliberately dragged out the tone of their voices and replied in unison: "Delicious!" ”
It seems that Xu Shiyou in his later years is very fond of his grandchildren, but in fact, it is not, once he wants to seek personal gain, Xu Shiyou will be furious. Xu Shiyou's eldest grandson, Xu Daokun, after retiring from the army, wanted his grandfather to assign him a good job. As a result, after Xu Shiyou listened, he was a criticism:
"Do whatever you can, don't expect me!"
Although Xu Shiyou is very strict with the children, every time they come, Xu Shiyou always personally explains the kitchen and lets the children eat a good meal.
Although Xu Shiyou is a "big old man", he can stick to his heart and not seek benefits for future generations, which is worthy of people's admiration.