Tu Shu Tian Pu and Xu Shiyou
preface
Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu met at first sight, they fell in love with each other for two years, and then they fell in love with each other for a lifetime, but from two people, eventually became a family, a person's personality has a profound impact on family relations.
A model couple who love for a lifetime
Before knowing Tian Pu, Xu Shiyou had two marriages, especially the second one, and his marriage with Lei Mingzhen left Xu Shiyou with some hatred and pain.
In 1941, Xu Shiyou led the Independent Regiment of the Qinghe Military Region to Jiaodong, and he was 36 years old that year. Lead soldiers to fight all day, no one to take care of them, life is getting more and more sloppy, even eating, eating when you think of it, not eating when you can't think of it, wearing dirty clothes all day, and there is no time to wash and change.
People around him are very concerned about Xu Shiyou's state, logistics minister Gao Dashan saw that his life was becoming more and more casual, and he consulted with people, whether to give him a few girls, look at each other, maybe there is something that can be achieved.
The girls that Gao Dashan looked for for Xu Shiyou were in a tannery in the base area, and they were all beautiful, capable, virtuous and kind women.
Xu Shiyou rode a big horse to the tannery, followed the direction of the tall mountain finger, and saw a girl who was making shoes with her head down, handsome and focused.
Xu Shiyou turned to Gao Dashan and said, "That's her."
, both like an inquiry and like a certainty, after saying that, turned around and left.
Figure 丨 Tian Pu
Xu Shiyou can be said to have fallen in love with Tian Pu at first sight. After returning home, Gao Dashan took out a new pair of cloth shoes from his satchel and handed them to Xu Shiyou, "You try, this is made by Tian Pu." Xu Shiyou took the shoes and put them on his feet,
"The craftsmanship is good, but these eight characters have not been skimmed, how can I receive other people's things?"
Gao Dashan laughed and said, "This is called 'army shoes.'" ”
Xu Shiyou nodded, "Then I accepted it." ”
Gao Dashan was also ready to introduce the remaining blind dates to Xu Shiyou again, and Xu Shiyou immediately said,
"No, you just talk about her situation, by the way, have you told anyone about my situation?"
Gao Dashan laughed,
"Do you still need to say something about your situation?" Quan Jiaodong, you have long been a household name. ”
Xu Shiyou did not agree with this statement, "I am talking about age, people are still little girls, I am all big masters." ”
Tall Mountain asked rhetorically,
"What if the girl is willing?" Don't you often say that marriage is autonomous? ”
Pictured xu Shiyou and Tian Pu
Under the matchmaking of Gao Dashan, Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu fell in love, and Tian Pu gave Xu Shiyou a pair of shoes, but this time it was not as simple as supporting the army
Xu Shiyou gave Tian Pu a bullet
，
"I have nothing, this bullet is given to you as a souvenir, this is the time of the Wanyuan Defense War, the enemy hit me in the shoulder, I dug it out with the tip of the knife, so many years, has been around."
Tian Pu listened to such a story, and he was heartbroken and moved, which is the most precious promise of love.
Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu fell in love for two years, in these two years, Tian Pu became more and more attracted to Xu Shiyou, this man who did not seem to be tall, but he was martial arts, upright and brave, he participated in the death squad, he killed countless enemies, he became a general step by step from a peasant child, relying on his will and efforts.
In 1943, the two men and women were married, this year, Xu Shiyou was 38 years old, and Tian Pu was 19 years old.
The wedding did not have too many fancy things, only a bag of happy candy, a cup of tea, and a group of comrades in arms who lived and died together, but the wedding of Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu still left a lot of legends.
Picture 丨 Xu Shiyou performs Shaolin boxing
Xu Shiyou was born in the Shaolin Temple, kung fu is good, it is better to hear than to see, and on the day of the big day, everyone will coax Xu Shiyou to "play two".
Xu Shiyou did not twist either, and happily performed a positive Shaolin Kung Fu to everyone, winning applause.
At this time, Xu Shiyou rose up, and he decided to show everyone his stunt marksmanship.
Xu Shiyou walked over to Tian Pu, smiled, and said, "Oda, can you be my assistant?" Then, he pulled Tian Pu and came to the outdoor floor.
He put the flowers on top of Tian Pu's head and two shoulders and told her, "Don't be afraid, don't move, let's open your eyes to everyone." ”
Tian Pu nodded, she knew her husband well, she knew that Xu Shiyou could do it.
Xu Shiyou took five or six steps to the distance, suddenly turned around, pulled out the shell gun and shot, after three gunshots, the flowers on his head and shoulders fell down.
Everyone present was stunned, and after a brief silence, there was spontaneous applause and exclamation.
Xu Shiyou smiled triumphantly, "The performance is not good, more advice", and then tucked the gun back into his waist, this wedding, has been talked about since then, after all, at the wedding scene, there are not many people who point guns at the bride.
On the first day after the marriage, Xu Shiyou said to Tian Pu,
"You are now my wife, and you are an ordinary warrior, we must be more strict with ourselves, you will change your name to Tian Pu in the future." This will remind you all the time that you are just an ordinary warrior and do not have privileged thoughts. ”
It turned out that Tian Pu's real name was not Tian Pu, her original name was Tian Minglan
But since then, the name Tian Pu has accompanied her for a longer time.
And this general's wife, looking at the scenery, actually has a lot to bear, whether it is Xu Shiyou or Tian Pu know this.
Not long after getting married, someone brought a message,
Tian Pu's mother was seriously ill
Tian Pu hurriedly packed his bags and prepared to rush home, and before leaving, Xu Shiyou handed Tian Pu a pistol and asked her to pay attention to safety.
Unexpectedly, there was really a problem in the middle of the road,
Tian Pu was kidnapped
When Xu Shiyou heard this, he slapped a palm on the table, "It's the other way around!" ”
After Zhao Baoyuan's original troops were severely injured by Xu Shiyou, a group of scattered soldiers and brave soldiers hated Xu Shiyou to the bone, thinking that it was because of Xu Shiyou that they were so unsatisfactory, they kidnapped Tian Pu and prepared to take her back to ask for merit and reward.
Xu Shiyou immediately sent a guard platoon to rescue him, and in the end, Tian Pu was rescued, but he also left the sequelae of the concussion.
Picture 丨 Xu Shiyou
Both were revolutionary fighters, especially Xu Shiyou, who was too busy to run around the country, and separation was a common thing. Tian Pu is very understanding of this, and she is also studying hard to catch up with her husband.com. During the six months that Xu Shiyou went to study at the Party School of the Military Region, Tian Pu wrote the first handwritten letter to Xu Shiyou:
"Shiyou, I have turned my thoughts of you into a kind of strength, replaced the gun with a pen, I have finished learning the literacy textbook, I tried to write this letter, I wish you peace, protect your body." 」
Although the number of words is not much, Xu Shiyou is still very happy after seeing it, and he is also happy for Tian Pu's progress, and at the same time, Tian Pu's spirit of perseverance is also what Xu Shiyou likes and admires.
He replied to Tian Pu with a letter:
After three days of looking at each other, it is rare for my wife to write a letter.
Twisted words are all love, turning into a flame of love to burn the enemy stubbornly.
In 1953,
Xu Shiyou was going to North Korea, and before he left, Tian Pu was pregnant and was about to give birth
。 As a soldier's wife and a Communist Party member, Tian Pu didn't complain, she just looked at Xu Shiyou and asked Xu Shiyou to give a name to her unborn child.
Xu Shiyou said proudly,
"Girls are called 'ResistING US Aggression,' and boys are called 'Aid Korea.'"
That night, in order to send off his husband, Tian Pu added four more dishes, as well as a pot of Moutai wine, and when he saw the wine, Xu Shiyou smiled, which was a tacit understanding of getting along for many years.
Figure 丨 Xu Aid Korea
By the time Xu Shiyou returned from the Korean battlefield, his son Xu Yuanchao was already three years old.
Even in the special period, Tian Pu also followed Xu Shiyou's hardships and hardships, and together with Xu Shiyou, she took unknown risks and gave her husband great encouragement and companionship.
Xu Shiyou once sighed,
"Tian Pu is the most loyal partner of my life, and we will be husband and wife in the next life."
After the death of Xu Shiyou, Tian Pu also wrote an article reminiscing:
In the smoke of the anti-Japanese war, we met, I remember the first time I met you in the Jiaodong battlefield, there was still some awe, later, your so many legendary heroic deeds attracted me, in the decades since, you have been my strict teacher and friend.
Xu Shiyou, who never let his wife get wet
Although Xu Shiyou and Tian Pu are truly in love with each other, Xu Shiyou will not be without principles when facing Tian Pu.
He himself is extremely principled, and does not like others to use his own banner to make a profit
It is more strict for one's own family, especially one's wife.
Picture 丨 Xu Shiyou's family
When Xu Shiyou was the commander of the Nanjing Military Region, Tian Pu was the deputy director of the Cadre Department of the Nanjing Military Region, and after Xu Shiyou was transferred to Guangzhou, Tian Pu also came to Guangzhou.
When arranging Tian Pu's work, the leaders of the Political Department of the Military Region at that time discussed going to Guangzhou and still letting Tian Pu continue to serve as the deputy director of the Cadre Department.
But Xu Shiyou did not agree, he said,
The cadre department is an important department, and it is not appropriate to let your wife go
。 Later, the Political Department of the Military Region arranged for her to serve as deputy political commissar at a scientific research institute of the Beijing Engineering Corps, which can also be regarded as a flat post.
For this matter, Xu Shiyou has repeatedly stressed that it must be handled strictly in accordance with the regulations of the organs, and there can be no laziness or privilege.
Xu Shiyou has never been willing to let Tian Pu have a little "happiness" in public affairs. Xu Shiyou usually took two Beijing-brand jeeps, and Tian Pu was dispatched by the headquarters automobile team.
At that time, there were not many cars in the convoy, and the grade was not high, and there were only a few imported cars used to receive foreign guests or the head of the headquarters.
For other people's cars, different levels have different standards.
Tian Pu is not picky about this matter, but the army looks at her seniority, occasionally takes care of it, and sends out a slightly better car, Tian Pu is what others send and what she sits.
Once,
Tian Pu has a more important activity, so he told the team that he hoped to send a better car, which Xu Shiyou saw, he directly returned the car that had been sent over, and criticized Tian Pu for not being special in this way.
Later, he instructed his secretary, Sun Hongxian, to call the authority and the motorcade in his name and ask them to strictly enforce the rules and not to take any care of his family.
In addition to the distinction between public and private in big things, the same is true for small things. Once, Tian Pu saw that the flowers planted by a certain hotel flower worker were very beautiful, and she admired them while praising them one after another.
The hotel leaders saw that Tian Pu liked it so much, so he let people choose two pots and put them on Tian Pu's car
。 After Xu Shiyou returned to Guangzhou under his troops, he saw these two pots of flowers and learned that Tian Pu had taken them back from the hotel, and was greatly annoyed, criticizing Tian Pu for being greedy for the cheapness of the public house, and telling her to return them immediately.
Tian Pu was also very aggrieved in her heart, she felt that Xu Shiyou was making a big fuss, so she said that it was not what she wanted, but was sent by others, why should she make such a big fire at herself.
When Xu Shiyou heard Tian Pu say this, he became even more angry and scolded her loudly.
"You've turned over and forgotten Ben!"
Picture 丨 Sun Hongxian
Xu Shiyou rushed into Sun Hongxian's office,
"I suggest that you hold a party group meeting immediately, let Tian Pu attend, criticize and educate her well, and help her realize her mistakes!"
Sun Hongxian was a little embarrassed, "Comrade Tian Pu is a leading cadre, and we are not good at criticizing it." ”
"If there is anything bad to criticize, you can criticize it, don't be merciful, I will support you!"
Sun Hongxian understood why Xu Shiyou was so angry, after all, they had been together for too long, and they also knew his character of just and righteous, but Tian Pu and himself were not a party group, how could they hold a meeting to criticize her, besides, two pots of flowers were indeed not a big problem.
Fortunately, Xu Shiyou did not mention this matter again later, probably because he was too busy, he did not continue to pursue, otherwise the only person who was embarrassed was probably Sun Hongxian.
Strict education of children
In addition to his wife, Xu Shiyou is also strict with his children, he has a total of 7 children, three men and four women, except for the eldest son Xu Guang, who was born to the original Zhu Ximing, the rest of the children are born to him and Tian Pu, but no matter who the child's birth mother is, Xu Shiyou has "never been merciless" in their education.
During his term of office, Xu Shiyou did not use his power for personal gain for any of his children.
Until his death, all seven of his children were in the military, but they were all cadres below the regiment or professional technicians.
Figure 丨 Xu Guang
The experience of the eldest son Xu Guang can be said to be a typical,
Because Xu Shiyou not only did not use his power for personal gain, but also let this eldest son, who should have a bright future, return to the local work.
Xu Guang studied at the Fifth Aviation School and the Dalian Naval Academy.
It is the first batch of captains with bachelor degrees in China
。 In addition to his high education, his work experience is also very good, he has served as the captain of the North Sea Fleet's Fenhe Ship, Yichuan Ship and other ships, if Xu Guang can stay in the Navy all the time, the future is unlimited.
Once, Xu Guang came to Nanjing to visit his father Xu Shiyou, and then his life was completely changed.
Xu Shiyou asked him to return to his hometown to work, one is out of selfishness, because his mother is old, and he has not fulfilled filial piety, so he wants Xu Guang, who was brought up by his grandmother since childhood, to perform filial piety for himself.
The second is in the public mind, in those years, the development of his hometown was too slow, he hoped that Xu Guang could return to his hometown to support construction.
Xu Guang expressed understanding and agreement with his father's thoughts and feelings, he agreed to Xu Shiyou, and quickly completed the formalities and returned to his hometown armed forces department to participate in the work.
After his grandmother's death, Xu Guang felt more and more that the major he studied,
There was no place to play in his hometown, and he wanted to return to the Navy to participate in construction.
Picture Xu Guang and Xu Shiyou
Therefore, he found his father Xu Shiyou and gently expressed his thoughts and intentions, hoping that Xu Shiyou could help him.
In fact, with Xu Shiyou's rights, making such a decision is an easy task, as long as a word, his son's future can be bright and worry-free.
But Xu Shiyou did not want to,
He turned his face and seriously criticized Xu Guang, xu Guang did not dare to continue, he returned to his hometown.
Later, people who knew about this matter felt that Xu Shiyou was a bit ruthless, Xu Guang's profession itself was more suitable for the Navy, and it was more difficult to make achievements in an inappropriate position, if it was in the Navy, maybe there would be a better future and greater contributions.
Picture 丨 Xu Huashan
The same is true for other children. Daughter Xu Huashan joined the army was an accident, she accompanied her girlfriend to participate in the air force physical examination, the other party because of the eye examination failed to pass, very sad.
Xu Huashan was comforting his girlfriend, and the dean just happened to come in and ask the physical examination director about today's situation. The medical examiner sighed, "Alas, not a single one. ”
The dean was also very disappointed, "How come there is no one, that is, the task has not been completed." ”
Turning his head, the dean saw Xu Huashan and his girlfriend who were preparing to leave, "Are they also here to choose to fly?" ”
"Yeah, a physical indicator is not up to par," the director replied.
"What about the other one?"
Xu Huashan, who heard the conversation, quickly said, "I came with my friend." ”
The dean looked at Xu Huashan and said
"I see that your physical condition is good, do you want to check it by the way, if you can become a female pilot, how glorious!"
The girlfriend pushed Xu Huashan forward on the side, "Check, let's check." ”
Picture 丨 Xu Shiyou and Xu Huashan
Wanwan did not expect that after a pass inspection, Xu Huashan was actually qualified, and the dean led Xu Huashan to the office, asked Xu Huashan's information one by one, and when asking his parents, Xu Huashan said, "Xu Shiyou."
The dean's pen froze,
"Which Xu Shiyou is Xu Shiyou of the Nanjing Military Region?"
Xu Huashan nodded, "Commander Xu made you come?" ”
Xu Huashan explained to the dean, "I came with my friend, and my father didn't know about today's events. ”
The dean closed the notebook of the record and sighed,
"Alas, I can't do this Lord, go home quickly, go back and let your father make a decision."
After returning home, Xu Huashan told Xu Shiyou about today's events, and Xu Shiyou thought about it and made a decision directly.
"Anyway, now the schools are all suspended, you go to the army to exercise, education is a good thing, you go, be prepared to endure hardships."
Therefore, Xu Huashan joined the army, and in the process of becoming a soldier, she was indeed very hard, and she wrote a letter to Xu Shiyou.
He said that he could not continue, worried that he would not live to the day of graduation.
Xu Shiyou's reply to her was written like this,
"Since you've gone to military school, hold on, and if you feel you can't live, then be prepared to die, stick to it!"
Xu Huashan persevered, and she received her graduation certificate.