01.
The love of the father's generation is always very simple, and when two people are suitable, they identify each other for a lifetime.
Today's love always hides a truth, that is:
When you have it, you don't know how to cherish it, and you can't regret it after you lose it.
In their feelings, people always can't see each other's kindness to them.
He thinks that the other person's good is deserved, and thinks that others except him are just as good to him.
In particular, many men have worked hard to pursue women, but after falling in love, they have left women aside and ignored them.
Such an approach is indeed regrettable.
To put it bluntly, there is no way to eat a man, which shows that he still despises you in his feelings and despises this love.
02.
The more you treat a man, the more you will find that he doesn't know how to cherish.
It seems that in his world, your love for him and your kindness to him are all deserved.
In fact, there is a saying that is very true: people are always hurting the people closest to them.
The more obedient a woman is to men, the more she cannot eat them.
In fact, if you want a man to be fascinated by you, you have to understand the "cat abandonment effect" in psychology.
The cat abandonment effect tells such a small story.
A cat is very cruel and willful in the owner's home, both disobedient and often rebellious.
Later, the owner really couldn't stand the cat and chose to abandon it.
The cat that has been wandering outside for a while has suffered a lot and misses its former owner more and more.
Later, it was adopted by others, and in the new home, it became very docile, and sometimes even pleased its owner.
This story shows that you can't be too good to a person, otherwise he will have to make inches.
In the relationship, let the other party respect you and love you;
Let him understand that your kindness to him is not for no reason, and you are not just following him casually.
Make good use of the "cat abandonment effect" to let men feel your value and attitude, so that he knows how to cherish.
03.
As a woman, the last thing you should do in your feelings is to seek perfection.
If every time two people quarrel, it is you who comfort him and apologize to him, then in this relationship, you will only become more and more humble.
It's not that feelings have to tell who's right and who's wrong, but there are problems, and both sides have problems.
If you are always willing to accommodate him, he will only become more serious.
Not long ago, I read a story on the Internet that men and women quarreled again, and the men turned around and left.
The woman calmed down for a moment and then ran out to look for him.
Not far away, I found the man on the phone, and said to the other end:
"If you quarrel, you quarrel, and she will take the initiative to apologize anyway." A word awakens the dreamer.
Perhaps the feelings that women care about very much are not worth mentioning in the eyes of the other party.
Therefore, in the face of this situation, we must be brave to break up.
You think, if you don't let go decisively now, then you will still repeat the same mistakes and seek perfection again.
If you let go now, the good result is that the other person can wake up and come back to keep you.
The bad result is nothing more than separation, which is a relief for you.
Therefore, when this situation occurs, women must know how to use the "cat abandonment effect".
When a man is abandoned or put on hold for a while, he slowly reflects on his problems.
At that time, he will also slowly think of your goodness, eat him, and it will no longer be a difficult thing.
04.
Choosing the "cat abandonment effect" does not mean directly mentioning the breakup.
Directly mentioning a breakup is like not leaving a way back for the relationship, and smart women often choose to break off the connection.
That is to say, choose not to ignore him for a period of time, let him himself be calm and reflect well.
During the disconnection, women must be patient with their own temperament, rather than asking:
Why doesn't the other party contact me? How come there is no news?
Don't think about it, all you have to do is wait in silence.
Believe that a man who still has feelings for you will feel a sense of emptiness when he loses you.
At that time, his heart was full of thoughts about you.
In fact, the disconnection is to remind the other half to cherish you.
Put him in a world without you, and when he can't stand it, nature will come to you.
Girlfriend Wenwen and her husband have recently had some conflicts.
At the beginning, Wenwen's husband always said that Wenwen didn't like to dress up now, and there was no femininity.
Later, he began to dislike that the two people did not have a common language.
Until an accident, Wenwen found that her husband and another female colleague were very close.
After knowing this, Wenwen did not make a big fuss, but directly packed his bags and returned to his mother's house.
In the first few days, Wenwen's husband did not have much reaction, but after a few days, he couldn't stop calling Wenwen.
After refusing to accept it, I went to many friends' homes, and relatives found Wenwen.
This time, he solemnly apologized and reconciled with Wenwen.
You see, eating a man is as simple as that.
As long as you let him lose, he naturally knows how to cherish. After all, "having" is always better than "not having.".
Use the "cat abandonment effect" well to make him have a psychological gap.
In this case, the fate of feelings is naturally in your hands.
All in all, to be a smart woman, don't bend over backwards in your feelings, but live a dashing and comfortable life.