What does the ceiling look like?
Outside of the phone, he is the perfect husband who is considerate and thoughtful.
On his phone, he is the king of neptunes who interact with 400 girls.
He is the ex-husband of millions of beauty blogger Zhou Xiaobang.
01 Zhou Xiao bump and ex-husband love and hate
Running for 6 years and getting married for three months, Zhou Xiaobang and her husband are notoriously affectionate, and friends around her are envious of her having a thoughtful and perfect husband.
It all ended in a photo, a photo of her husband that Zhou Xiaoxiao's friend had swiped on the dating app on the Internet.
The funny thing is that this literary and artistic photo was taken by Zhou Xiaobang himself for her husband.
It is said that no woman can get out of her other half's phone.
But what Zhou Xiaobang saw was really beyond her imagination...
On his phone, she found records of his conversations with more than 400 people and was even able to bring home girls with children.
Of course, not all girls will choose to divorce their husbands as soon as they find out.
In the face of Zhou Xiaobang's questioning, her husband admitted it all, he cried and begged for forgiveness, and blocked all 400 women, vowing never to do it again.
Zhou Xiaobang's heart has softened, they have been together for 6 years, in addition to love and affection, she is reluctant to do so.
But Oscar owes her husband a little gold man.
He pulled back more than 400 girls who had been deleted one by one.
Even after vowing not to commit another crime, he will still take advantage of the gap between Zhou Xiaoqiao's business trips, how to make an appointment, as before, without any change.
Countless times, on the night of the divorce, Zhou Xiaobang was still reluctant.
Until she was packing her things, she found a whole pile of other girls' underwear in the closet, and she put it in the closet like that.
Finally, she got divorced.
More than a year later, Zhou Xiaobang talked about that past, or cried as he spoke.
And many people in the barrage in addition to the heartache of her suffering, there are more people questioning whether she is a love brain? In the face of such acts, repeatedly forgive compound?
Shouldn't normal people cut off in two and die without contact?
02 Why does Zhou Xiaoqiao not leave directly and save it
Most of the girls will not leave at the first time, a large part of the reason is economic problems, Zhou Xiaobang obviously has no concerns in this regard, so why doesn't she leave?
The biggest reason was that she expected him to correct and get better.
Zhou Xiaobang has been with him for 6 years, and there are many very sweet pasts between them.
When he was in love, he wrote a love letter to Zhou Xiaobang every day, and for 100 consecutive days, he wrote a hundred love letters to her.
There are 2387 "thinking of you" and 1875 "love you" in their WeChat records.
If it weren't for that, he would be a perfect lover.
Not to mention Zhou Xiao bump, none of us can refuse such a perfect lover.
03 How to get out of the shadow of being hurt
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Believe in yourself, what you can't bear is not his person, and that person brings you feelings.
We all long to be loved, knowing that the other party is a scumbag and can't do without each other, often not because of love for him.
And when you are together, the other party brings you too many strong feelings and emotions, and a lot of stimulation will be understood as love, and you will mistakenly think that you can't put it down.
In fact, what you really can't put down is the pleasure and stimulation he brings you, not him as a person.
So "using a new relationship to heal the pain of a lost relationship" makes sense, but don't try it lightly. Because you are in a hurry to enter another relationship, it is very likely to harvest another scumbag and then repeat the same mistakes.
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Don't try to save him
Girls all seem to have a rescue plot, and often have an illusion:
"I can make him change his mind, he can turn back for my prodigal son, as long as I work hard enough and love him enough." 」
You thought you would be his last harbor, but every one of his predecessors thought so.
Whether a man chooses to stay or not depends a lot on whether he wants to settle down or not, not how much you love him.
The girls who want to change the scumbag will only be deceived by the scumbag again in the end.
Instead of wasting time and energy on a scumbag who has already been identified, it is better to use this energy to discover better people around you, people who can share your interests, and start a healthy new relationship.
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Divert your attention and be your own ferryman
When you first separate from the scumbag, you will be angry, upset, afraid, sad, trapped in your own world.
Such loss and sadness, perhaps we have all experienced.
After all, people who could have been in constant contact and intimate suddenly withdrawn from life, and we can fully understand the feeling of "not getting used to it" and even the whole person being "emptied".
Just like the old smoking guns who can't leave their hands to quit smoking, they are always unaccustomed at first, because they have become accustomed to this kind of dependence.
The process of leaving a scumbag is actually the same as quitting smoking, the process of kicking him out of your world completely.
In fact, many girls still can't leave each other after recognizing that the people around them are scumbags, not because of how bad he is. It is the countless bad deeds of the scumbag, and the little "good" that occasionally comes out.
But you have to understand that the ones he can give you, the "good" that comes out occasionally, you can give yourself.
After all, now that girls are even self-sufficient, you can't pour yourself a glass of water and take yourself to a good meal?
When one day, you try for the first time, do for yourself what the scumbag once did for you, maybe you will realize that that person really means nothing to you.
Write at the end
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When love is absent, learn to live your own life. To live your own life is to fall in love with yourself, to treat yourself as your lover, and to spoil yourself.
Although Zhou Xiaobang is still single, she will still cry when she talks about this past, but when she chooses to say this past, it means that this matter has turned the page in her heart, and she has passed herself.
Finally, I borrowed Zhou Xiaobang's words to send to everyone: "I still believe in love, but I look forward to a better self than looking forward to more perfect love." ”
Love first, then love others, and only then is it perfect.