On the cover of the book "State of Mind" is written a sentence: The state of mind determines the situation, and the pattern of the heart determines the state of life. Teacher He Quanfeng himself is a professional doctor, this book is more like a prescription for people to ask for advice, list one by one, one symptom after another, and list all kinds of emotional and emotional problems we encounter in life one by one, and analyze them one by one.
Not being a slave to emotions, being bound by unstable emotions and past memories is the most painful. Time will tell you that all bad emotions are meaningless in the end, so why focus on these things? There is also an emotion, that is, to freeze other people's stories on yourself, to be trapped in them, and to be unable to extricate yourself.
In the 87 version of the Dream of the Red Chamber crew, how many actors played by the actors in the play, outside the play are trapped by the people in the play, can not get out. Ma Guangru, whether in the play or outside the play, regarded himself as Jia Baoyu, lived a life of debauchery and was infected with alcoholism, and died young. In reality, the real renunciation playing Miao Yu, Dai Yu died of illness, and Bao Chao still could not find his own Jia Bao Yu after all. People's life is very short, you must have your own pursuits. After observing for so many years, the best ending is also Zhang Mingming, who played You Erjie, went overseas to study after acting in "Dream of the Red Chamber", majoring in computers, becoming a senior software engineer, and becoming an IT elite abroad. Knowledge changes destiny, no matter at what stage of life do not give up on yourself early, to believe that your destiny is in your own hands.
What should we do when we encounter unstable mood troubles?
In the ancient Wang family training on the mainland, there is: words are slow, and the heart is also good. Most people who can restrain their hearts and words and deeds are quite calm in ability and pattern. But for us ordinary people, it is often more difficult to do, the most written in the book is also for the correction and cure of the method, a bit of Buddhist flavor, but also really see Teacher He's good intentions, if I can see this book earlier, maybe I will take a lot of detours.
The book talks about trusting God's arrangement. Tell you a story of a friend around me, a few years ago, he and a friend with a big brother who was older than the two of them to do business together, that was the first year, the business was doing very well, they all trusted the big brother, the result of the end of the year to settle the account, not only did not make money, but lost more than one hundred thousand, the two of them usually did not leave a record on the daily quarrel with him to pay the bill. The eldest brother, in a bad mood, went home and quarreled and beat his daughter-in-law, the child was small, and he cried and made trouble when he saw it. Later, the daughter-in-law left, Xiao San saw that he had no money and left, the child did not go to school every day and suffered from depression, always committing suicide, his greedy million soon disappeared, and a good home was broken up. What about the results of the other two? Because the two of them have good ability, they are optimistic about the people in the next company, let them two join the gang to work together, who knows that the second year earned more than the first year, and then made money every year, the profit is more, everyone is working together more and more, the cooperation is also very good. Man is not like heaven, everything has been arranged in the dark. But do good deeds, don't ask about the future, have good thoughts, God will naturally have arrangements.
How do you make yourself happier? Teach an easy way. Then pretend to be nice, be happy, and live with a rich mindset. Li Ka-shing has a habit of imitating the life of a character in a TV series, thinking that he will not imitate sweeping the street, right? There is no discriminatory occupation here, it is to imitate the things that make you happy, live well with a good attitude, although life is not easy, but do not affect the mood, a day is so short, you have to believe that a good mood will bring more good luck.
If you are still worried and can't put it down, write down the things you have in mind, put it for three days to see it, put it for half a month and then look at it, and put it a year to see it again. You will find that it was so funny at the beginning, how could you care about this?
Life is a practice, and only by having good thoughts, saying good words, and doing good deeds can the soul be filled with happiness and happiness, and can it attract a better life. Only by loving life can we be healed by life. Thanks to the encounter with this book, my heart suddenly opened up, and I hope that it can help and heal more beautiful and kind people.