The blind date is suspected of concealing his identity as a "Tencent outsourced employee", and the director of the goose factory is outsourced?

Red Lady friends shared a blind date dispute in her company, I can tell you that it was zhen ai network / century Jiayuan / lily network one of the offline stores that happened, in Shenzhen.

The man, 32 years old, looks 3 to 4 points (worse than the male passerby), about 165, thin, the family is a county town in J Province, said that he had just jumped from Beijing to shenzhen Tencent to work, and provided Tencent work card and business card to verify identity, the above title is displayed as "XXX Business Department XX Director", but because of the company's regulations + personal wishes to say that the salary is confidential. The woman is required to be younger than him, good-looking, gentle and considerate, no more than 2 times in love, no burden on the family, work in a decent large enterprise or teacher, civil servant, etc., and is willing to develop in depth for a long time.

The woman, 30 years old, looks 4 points (after light makeup is the face of the passerby), about 158, slightly fat, the family situation is also another county in J Province, has settled in Shenzhen, said that she worked in a large private company to engage in secretarial work, the annual salary and tax before 180,000, the mother and fetus solo has never been in love. The requirement object is preferred for Tencent high-level employees, height 170 can be relaxed, appearance is not required, age acceptance is within 15 years of age, parents must be non-rural household registration, have pension insurance. In addition, it is best to have a house in Shenzhen, and you can also work hard to buy without a house.

Because the conditions of both men and women are basically matched and they are fellow villagers in a province, so the red bride arranged an offline blind date, the two people looked at each other at once, quickly entered the state of cohabitation, and the progress was very smooth, the woman often praised the man on the side of the red bride "generous and considerate, bought a lot of gifts for her." Work also hard, said to earn money to buy a house together", the man also said that the woman is "gentle and sensible, cooking delicious, especially concerned about him, life details are love", because both sides are not young, the red bride is also anxious to complete the performance so secretly promoted, and finally they talked for half a year to get the certificate, the red bride was happy to send blessings after learning, and also planned to package them as successful cases for preaching.

But shortly after the marriage, the red lady suddenly received a WeChat call from the woman at night, the tone was very angry, it turned out that the man was just an outsourced employee of Tencent, the annual salary was only more than 200,000 before tax and there was no stock, and a formal director's annual salary was at least one million, and the difference was too much! She thought that the marriage agency was opened by a large company and had been tested, but it did not. Moreover, the man's deposit is less than 200,000, and he does not have the ability to buy a house in Shenzhen in the short term.

"If he wasn't the director of Tencent, how could I possibly look up to him?" The woman said that now her life is ruined, even if she divorces and remarries, she will lose the price, crying bitterly when she says it, saying that she is afraid of appearing too utilitarian, so she does not have the good sense to ask for salary directly, but there is a deliberate heart to send him to work, watching him swipe the card into the gate to be assured to go, the result can actually be so out... The Red Lady didn't know how to answer either.

But the man's statement is:

1. Tencent stipulates that salary data must not be disclosed to the public, and he is cautious when he first joins.

2. He himself pays attention to privacy and does not want to say salary everywhere, which is also known in advance.

3. The woman seems to be more indifferent, not like a person who cares about money, because receiving a small gift is a light in her eyes. And the woman never asked him about his salary and savings before marriage, and he never asked the woman how much money she earned, because she felt that the unit was good, and the difference was not bad, thinking that the woman also thought so.

4. He promised to work hard to earn money to buy a house together, and indeed worked hard to do it, "but there is no commitment period", the woman mistakenly thinks that he can buy in one or two years, but the woman's unilateral fantasy and no communication, and the woman's savings are basically 0, "the so-called effort to buy a house together" is also a deception to him.

Supplement the man's feedback: the man swears that he has no motivation to deceive, because "the woman's conditions are also general, the real conditions of the two are matched, so it is not worth the trouble to deceive, to cheat should also deceive the conditions are better to be reasonable, and the whole love and marriage period has always been he spent money to take care of her, cheating her what? She is indeed generous and considerate, on the contrary, the woman's gentleness and understanding have always been pretended, and the real personality and gentleness after the outbreak are completely unrelated" - In terms of the real hard condition matching, the red lady believes that there is no mistake, and even the man has a slight advantage, because the remaining women in the membership are more than twice as many as the remaining men, and the woman's appearance / age / 0 Deposit is relatively inferior

Supplement the woman's feedback: the woman believes that the generous and considerate that the man flaunts to himself is all to make her mistakenly think that "the other party is a high-paid director" and create an illusion, which is a deliberately designed trap that confuses her and makes her step by step into the trap of cheating marriage, resulting in the fact that it is not now away, nor is it leaving. In the whole process of love, the two went out to eat and entertain many times, the woman also pulled her friends, but never met the man's colleagues: the man said that He had just jumped ship in Beijing, and no friends in Shenzhen could understand, but a colleague and friend could not make friends for almost a year? So it's obvious that I'm afraid of meeting and debunking. —— The man's feedback to the red lady is that he is more introverted, and "the woman's appearance is not too much to take out", this sentence makes the red lady a little angry, but it seems to be in line with the ideas of some straight men

Because the woman threatened to sue, the docking red lady was frightened to verify the man's information, the result was that the business card was real, and the work card was also true (originally the informal employee rope color was different, but the card sleeve and the rope were bought by the man himself, which is a very common behavior), he is indeed an outsourced director post, and these things will not be written on the words "outsourced employee". Note that this "director" is not the director in Tencent's rank chain, but just an external title, the recruitment requirements are also written in the director, and the external business card is also, but the rank and the real director are not linked.

Red Lady and the company feel that they are just a platform, and they have not fully verified the ability and obligation of information, and they cannot confirm whether the man deliberately conceals it, because he is telling the truth, he does work at Tencent, and also provides real information.

But the red lady still intuitively felt that this man had deliberately concealed it, not too rude. What do you think?

Author: Polkas

Well, there was once a roommate who went to a liberal arts lesson on what marriage relationships were and told me the most important knowledge.

"Fraudulent marriage for the purpose of marriage is not against the law."

Of course, I can't use this knowledge point, I don't know, this has not been changed recently, it is also the knowledge of old antiques.

But this knowledge point left a deep shock at that time.

This topic is suddenly more interesting, can ordinary people cheat for the purpose of marriage?

I have the impression that there is only one person who conceals a major illness, which may dissolve the marriage, and the rest is not clear.

Of course, this is not necessarily the man cheating on the woman, it may also be the woman cheating on the man.

And more critically, the information expressed by the man may only be vague and not necessarily wrong. It was the woman who misunderstood.

However, when going on a blind date, it will not be too blunt or too detailed.

For example, real estate, it is impossible to tell you whose name they are registered, what is the actual area of the property, and how much the decoration is.

For example, the company, it is impossible to say the revenue, how much the total debt, how much debt, how much liquidity, so that the blind date is also tired, there is no interest.

Combined with some life experience, I suddenly understood the origin of this law.

Because deception is universal.

Right is universal, and everyone is cheating. It is nothing more than the difference in the level of deception.

All students, please be sure to take a serious background check.

If you like to look at the face, you must look at the plain face.

If you like to look at money, find relevant problems to confirm.

You don't do the investigation yourself, and the law doesn't protect you.

The law says that it can be deceived.

And now the asset structure, first-tier cities to get married, are similar to corporate asset restructuring, please pay attention to it, take out the momentum of asset restructuring to do background research.

Got it?

I am a kind little angel, day by day violent, I am afraid. ay.