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Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

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Have you ever heard of a saying that sometimes, the fate of the actor himself will be in line with the fate of the play.

For example, a group of actors in the 87 version of the Red Chamber, with the roles they play, or red face and thin life, or depressed death, or alone...

For example, Wu Mou, like a certain role he has played, is imprisoned.

In the 1980s, there was an actor known as the "Queen of Tragedy" - Pan Hong.

She has played the young girl whose lover was arrested and imprisoned, the Qinglou woman who fell into the dust, the middle-aged woman who overdrawn her life in the family and career, and the last queen who had been miserable and displaced all her life...

Outside the play, she is an illegitimate daughter who was not expected to be born, who was white-eyed because of her special status, died at the age of 10, divorced at the age of 32, and is now alone, accompanied by the Green Lantern Ancient Buddha.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Birth is not expected

In the early 1950s, with the establishment of the "one-sided" diplomatic policy toward the Soviet Union, Sino-Soviet relations entered a honeymoon period, and the Soviet Union launched large-scale assistance to China's political and economic construction.

It can be said that every step taken at that time had some Soviet overtones.

Pan Hong's biological father is a Chinese aid expert at a hospital in Shanghai, and her mother is the accountant of this hospital.

Soon, the Chinese girl and the Soviet man fell in love.

As katyusha sings: she is singing about her beloved, she is hiding her lover's letters...

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

But in that era, exotic love hovered on the edge of taboo, and in the cold eyes of outsiders and the opposition of their families, the pair of lovers were separated.

Soon after, the Soviet man returned to his country, and the two would be indefinite.

Later, the girl found out that she was pregnant.

Pregnant before marriage, the child's biological father is still white, and the neighbors look at her with disdain.

In order to avoid gossip, under the arrangement of her family, she married a cadre surnamed Liu who went south.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1954, the girl gave birth to a baby girl, and this child is today's protagonist Pan Hong.

Perhaps it was her cry that reminded her mother of that unbearable past, and not long after she was born, she was sent to her grandmother's house in the country.

During that time, the mother and the stepfather gave birth to two more daughters.

It was not until she was 7 years old that Pan Hong was taken back by her mother.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

"Mom" is both familiar and strange to 7-year-old Pan Hong.

Once, Pan Hong put his hand into the sewer for greed, and his finger was broken.

In the first time after the incident, Pan Hong did not cry and look for her mother like other children, but wrapped her fingers in a sloppy way with clothes, and ran to the hospital alone, even for medical expenses, but also asked the neighbor's aunt to borrow it.

When she returned home, Pan Hong's hands were wrapped in white gauze, but her sleeves were stained red with blood.

When the mother saw this scene, the two looked at each other without words.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Fortunately, the mother's husband is not a vicious stepfather, and the stepfather does not mind his mother's past, and treats Pan Hong as if he were his own.

In the eyes of her stepfather, Pan Hong is her eldest daughter and has high expectations for her, so there are many disciplines and scoldings, but they are all out of sincerity.

In addition to being harsh, the stepfather is very kind to Pan Hong, and Pan Hong also greedily enjoys family affection.

Grew up overnight

However, Pan Hong's childhood seemed to be a disaster, and it wasn't long before Heaven took back her stepfather's love.

In the cold of spring, the stepfather cut off his life on his own.

What forced his stepfather to a dead end was the unspeakable catastrophe of the 60s, in the day-to-day insults and insults, his psychological defense line was eroded little by little, and finally broke the embankment in an instant, choosing a hundred.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

That night, my mother did not return for a long time, and did not return home until eleven o'clock, her clothes were already wet with cold rain, and the expression on her face was not abnormal.

But the moment I saw her, tears still came out of my eyes.

She said that she had gone to the crematorium to give her husband one last ride, but after a long time in the rain, the people never let her in, and only told him to draw a line.

Then, she turned her head, her eyes seemed to be begging, and said to Pan Hong in an incomparably weak voice: "Tomorrow you can send me to send your father on my behalf?" ”

Pan Hong calmly replied, "Well, don't you cry."

At this time, mom was more like a child than she was.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

The next morning, when the sky was dark, Pan Hong, who was only 10 years old, took a car to the crematorium alone.

At the door there, there were many children about her age, and not a single adult.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

The old man who was watching over the crematorium waved at her and told her to come over.

Pan Hong stepped forward, and the old man asked her, "Who are you coming to see?" ”

She didn't make a sound, just handed over her father's death notice.

The old man took the notice and turned around and went in, and came out a long time later, asking if she had brought socks for her father, saying that he was barefoot.

Pan Hong said stunned.

The old man asked again, "Spitting up the front of the chest is a mess, taking medicine to die?" ”

Pan Hong nodded.

The old man paused, his eyes flashed for a moment of hesitation, and then said to her: "Go back and don't tell your mother, one of your father's ears has been ripped off and hung on his face." ”

Pan Hong's pupils contracted slightly, her eyelashes trembled, she did not react, and after half a moment, she handed the cremated money to the old man.

The old man patted her head and told her to go back and be obedient.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In fact, even if the old man did not advise, Pan Hong had already regarded herself as an adult overnight, and she made up her mind to listen to her mother's words and reduce the burden for her.

The year after her father's death, her mother remarried, and Pan Hong was once again sent to her grandmother's house in the countryside of Suzhou.

In the blink of an eye, Pan Hong reached the age of middle school, her grades were very good, she applied for a key school in Shanghai, but because of her stepfather's relationship, she was not admitted in the end.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1972, Pan Hong, who had just graduated from high school, went to the countryside to Chongming Island.

She is quite hard-working, and the work arranged for her can be completed quickly and well.

Unexpectedly, it was this experience that introduced a glimmer of light into the life of this bitter person.

At that time, most of the universities only recruited workers and peasants, and according to Pan Hong's identity, they were originally not eligible to study at the university.

But as a young man with outstanding performance in the countryside, she had the opportunity to apply for a university.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1973, the Shanghai Theater Academy came to Chongming Island to enroll, and Pan Hong also went to take the exam.

When you look at Pan Hong's face, there is both the beauty of the Western-style high nose and deep eyes, hitting the eyeballs directly, and the subtle and timeless beauty of the Chinese style.

Those eyes have both a lingering sense of pity and a sense of alienation.

The examiner saw Pan Hong's first glance and identified her as a piece of material for being an actor.

The 19-year-old Pan Hong entered the theater and studied acting.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Love career dilemma

In 1976, not long after graduation, Pan Hong starred in the movie "Slave's Daughter" produced by Eying Film Studio.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

This was her first time starring, and it was also because of this play that she found her later husband, Mijiashan.

Mi Jiashan is 8 years older than Pan Hong, came out of a high-cadre family, and worked as an artist in the crew.

Although he is not proud of his appearance, his personality is gentle and considerate, which makes people feel like a spring breeze, and some small actions can always make Pan Hong feel warm.

In the past and back, the relationship between the two has escalated from colleagues to lovers.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1978, two years after falling in love, Mi Jiashan and Pan Hong registered their marriage.

Marrying the person he loves to go home, and the love is agreed, Mijiayama should have been ecstatic, but he vaguely felt that he was in love with a wild horse.

Therefore, MiJiashan asked Pan Hong what she wanted to do in the future.

Pan Hong's eyes were firm: "I want to succeed." ”

Pan Hong did not hide her ambition, she loves acting, she wants to make achievements in this industry, let people admire the five bodies.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Mijiashan didn't plan to say much, he loved her and respected her.

In order for the two to have more common topics, Mi Jiashan resolutely gave up the art work at hand and went to Beijing to study directing for two years.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

With the support of Mijiashan, Pan Hong pursues her dreams unrestrainedly.

But in the year of marriage, Pan Hong encountered a tricky thing, testing MiJiashan's trust in her.

In 1978, Pan Hong starred in the film "Distressed Laughter", which was exhibited in Europe, and she also followed her to Cannes, with which she became famous.

However, it was also this work that made her deeply involved in gossip, and was labeled as "fox essence", "little three", "no face" and so on.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

It was the film's director Yang Yanjin who brought her these troubles.

Yang Yanjin is a man full of talent and full of flowers and intestines.

Even if there is a wife in the family, Yang Yanjin still covets Pan Hong's beauty, and during the filming process, he occasionally flirts with words several times, and over time, there is a scandal between the two.

The news reached the ears of Yang Yanjin's wife, Hong Rong, and she immediately became angry and made a big fuss on the set.

To this end, the leaders of the film studio called Pan Hong to the office, and no matter what the truth of the matter, she had to apologize to Hong Rong.

Pan Hong did not want to lose her job and had no choice but to do so.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

This farce is undoubtedly a huge challenge for newlyweds.

But to Pan Hong's surprise, MiJiashan not only did not accuse her, but also gave enough trust, believing that she was definitely not a person of thin affection.

"Are you okay?" This is the first sentence that Mijiashan blurted out.

"It's okay." Pan Hong replied, not wanting to say more, there was a moment in her heart that she was worried.

"That's fine, sooner or later a man's life will have to fall on his head, and the sooner the better," he said in a calm and gentle tone.

A large stone in Pan Hong's heart landed on the ground, and a wave of emotion surged up, she knew that in front of Mijiashan, she did not need to open her mouth to complain about grievances.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

But this is not over, Mi Jiashan still can't bear to export evil qi for Pan Hong, and led a group of people to smash Yang Yanjin's home.

The leaders of the Shangying Film Factory were very angry when they heard about this, and squeezed Yang Yanjin and Pan Hong over, and Pan Hong also went to the Eying Film Factory because of this.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Since then, Pan Hong has still pursued her dreams without restraint with the support of Mijiashan.

In 1981, a "Du Shi Niang" earned her a nomination for best actress at the Hundred Flowers Award.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1983, "Man to Middle Age" won her the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress.

In the same year, "Cold Night" gave her another encounter at the Cannes Film Festival.

In 1984, a "Fire Dragon" was awarded to the Academy Awards.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

At the same time, Yonekayama's career as a director was also getting better, and in 1983, the TV series he directed was sent to Tokyo, Japan.

In 1985, MiJiashan returned to Eying Studio, when he was nearly 40 years old, his mother was anxious to hold her grandson, and she also wanted a son and a half daughter.

However, when he and Pan Hong appealed, Pan Hong refused without thinking.

She was eight years younger than him, she was still very young, she was at the peak of her career, and it was too expensive to have children.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Concepts are not compatible, gathering less and leaving more, unilaterally providing emotional value... All these things have become mountains that stand between Pan Hong and Mijia Mountain.

In 1986, the two parted ways.

Pan Hong was neatly divided and had nothing to worry about, but many years later, when she looked back on this relationship again, what came to her heart was a faint remorse.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In 1989, Pan Hong starred in the comedy "Stubborn Lord", which made Zhang Guoguo and Ge You enter the public eye, and the director of this film was the late Mi Jiashan.

At that time, Mijiashan was no longer the small artist of the past, but a well-received director in the industry, standing next to Pan Hong, who won countless film queen laurels, and they were right.

However, at this time, Mijiashan's heart has gone far and no longer belongs to Pan Hong, and beside him is his 21-year-old girlfriend, Wang Xiaoya.

What was the taste in Pan Hong's heart at that time?

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Five years later, Pan Hong told the truth in her autobiography.

She wrote that she and Mijiashan still maintain contact, and every Mid-Autumn Festival, they will exchange telegraph greetings.

Hearing MiJiashan's voice on the phone again, she will feel very satisfied, but at this time, it is no longer love that comes to her heart, but friendship and affection.

The year was 1994, and Pan Hong was also 40 years old, and she was alone at home, writing her autobiography.

The firecrackers and firecrackers outside the house kept ringing, and the ghosts made the gods worse, just like the Mijia Mountain in those days, she also wanted to have a complete home, with a son and a half daughter.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

A few years later, on a show, Pan Hong was asked by the host: "Is the failure of your marriage related to the success of your career?" ”

The question was somewhat offensive, but she didn't hide it, answering "yes" with almost no pause.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

When her father died when she was ten years old, Pan Hong felt that she no longer had a broad mind to shield her from the wind and rain.

So she grew up overnight, trying to make herself tenacious, learning to take care of herself, and even being an umbrella for her family.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Later, she met Mijiashan again, with shoulders to lean on, and a roof to hide from the wind and rain, but no one told her that the giving of security was a two-way street.

Love career dilemma, when young, Pan Hong firmly chose a career.

When filming outside, Mijiashan is a harbor that Pan Hong can dock at any time, but for Mijiashan, Pan Hong is always a light boat that he can't hold back.

Later, Pan Hong became an internationally renowned movie star, but Mijiashan was no longer willing to wait.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

In fact, no one can complain, no one is wrong, but there is always no way to be perfect in life, if Pan Hong chose a family, today may not be regretted by failing to live up to her acting career.

But some people, accompanied by this journey, can no longer continue to send, even if they do not give up, they should wave their hands and say goodbye.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Become an "evil mother-in-law"

In 1987, the first year after the divorce, Pan Hong's acting career was still in full swing, and with the movie "Well", Pan Hong took the Best Actress trophy of the Tao milner Film Festival home.

The following year, she became the cover character of Time Magazine with a film called "The Last Nobleman", and in that era, which actress in China could compare with it?

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

But after that, Pan Hong's career fell into a small low, and since then, she has had a mediocre response to two consecutive plays.

Finally, in 1992, Pan Hong starred in "Stock Madness", which was co-produced by Hong Kong and the mainland, and it was also the first of the stock-themed films.

The results achieved by the film are expected to be good, so that Pan Hong won the Golden Rooster Award, the Hundred Flowers Award, the Huabiao Award and other film festivals for best actress in one fell swoop, which can be described as a unique scenery.

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

Two years later, Pan Hong ushered in the 40 mark of actress, after which her resources plummeted, and for her at that time, the position of female number one was not inevitable.

Later, she became a professional "evil mother-in-law".

In 2007, after starring in "Double Sided Tape", Pan Hong took root in a series of family dramas, either a mean mother-in-law or a strong mother.

Today, she is still active on the screen, but every time she sees it, the audience always has a little regret.

Once she was, she can be said to be a woman in the show business circle, and her appearance can be called a magnificent generation, even if she is old, wrinkles climb the corners of the eyes and eyebrows, it is still so elegant.

Can such an actress really only be imprisoned in the facialized middle-aged and elderly female roles?

Pan Hong: Divorced for 35 years, regret giving up feelings for the sake of career, and now having no children has become a regret

If you were to ask Pan Hong this question, maybe she would glance at you like a dragonfly, turn the Bead in her hand, and tell you, "I don't care." ”

"After becoming a layman, I usually don't have any interest struggles, my mentality is good, and my mental state is naturally good."

Once she regarded acting as life, now she still loves acting, she only cares about whether she can play a good role, so that the role is brilliant and pleasing, and what is the so-called, it has never been the role that makes her, but she achieves the role.

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