From a girl to a mother, many people can not quickly carry out the role of the change, the heart is not prepared, and even some brothers and sisters, in the education of children are more cautious, too strong children can not withstand, let loose children may grow and deviate. This makes many mothers headaches, so as a mother, a just right love can not only make you feel at ease, but also allow your child to grow up healthy and happy. Today we will talk about this topic.
Just the right amount of maternal love is what you look like happily
Many mothers say, "Ever since I became a mom, I've forgotten who I am." "Indeed, with children, the person who is most affected and the most changed is the mother. It's not just the change in character identity, but also the invisible inner change. Life has also changed dramatically. We often expect what our children will look like. But they will also worry about what kind of mother they have become, will they hurt their children because of their ignorance and mistakes? In fact, the "just right" maternal love is what you look like happily.
A happy home, first of all, needs to have a happy mother
The mother's expression is a barometer of the child's mood. And emotions are contagious. In the face of a mother with a sad face, the child's heart will not be calm and peaceful. You will find that the more you care about people, the more you can affect your emotions. Therefore, the impact of the mother's emotions on the child can be imagined.
Scientist Stephen Glenn recalls his mother and mentions an incident from his childhood. One day, he took a bottle of milk from the refrigerator, and before he could take a few steps, he dropped the bottle on the ground, and the kitchen was in a mess. His mother heard the noise, but she was neither angry nor preachy, nor punished him, but said very calmly: "Oh, I have never seen so much milk spilled on the ground, how interesting!" Well, it's already spilled on the floor anyway, do you want to play for a while before we clean up? I think it might be fun to play with milk. "
Glenn really played with milk. After a few minutes, his mother said, "You spilled the milk on the ground, and it's up to you to clean it up." I have sponges and rags and mops here, what do you want to use?" He chose the sponge. Then clean up the ground under the guidance of my mother. This experience gave him a very deep memory. It was then, he recalled, that he understood that there was no need to be afraid to make mistakes, which were often the beginning of learning something new.
Seeing this story, really kudos to Glenn's mother. A just right mom will be tolerant and patient with children who make mistakes. And it's not just about hitting the child and scolding the child for being clumsy.
Don't tie yourself completely to your child
Excessive love will only make each other feel suffocated. When the child is already independent, the parents must learn to let go. Of course, when the child is still in infancy, we should give the child intimate skin contact and hug. However, when the child grows to about 2 years old, the first step of independence begins. From this point on, parents should consciously create an appropriate space for him to be independent. For example, let them play alone for a while, don't bother. Learn to leave them alone with other relatives for a while. These require the support of parents, especially the mother should put her mind at ease and not revolve around the child all the time.
By the age of 3-5, children will increasingly reveal their personality. Their emotions develop rapidly, and their temper will grow larger. Mothers should not suppress their children too much, but should understand their emotions more and learn to accept. Otherwise, it may hinder his inner self-development and destroy his character development. Of course, when the mother withdraws, the father can play an important transitional role, allowing the child to have a relatively independent and safe space, feel his mother at a distance, and get used to this feeling of separation. When separated, the child is still full of security in his heart, and he will not be so clingy to his mother.
Just the right mother knows how to love herself
Love yourself and be a delicate mom. Many mothers feel that they have become mothers and can wear them casually. Even wearing pajamas to pick up and drop off children, and attending parent-teacher conferences without freshening up. Although it is not necessary to dress fashionably and expensively, I still hope that I can show a clean and decent image. So before going out, change out of your home clothes, then wash your face, tidy up and then go. Dressing appropriately is also a good example for children. Mom's delicacy is more important than dads. Because of the sensitivity and intelligence of the children, they will also focus more on the beautiful mother. Children don't earn so-called "face," but they know it looks good or not. In the hearts of children, their own mothers are the most beautiful, just like in the hearts of mothers, their children are the most lovely.
Cultivating children's aesthetics from an early age should also be an important aspect of our family education, dressing appropriately is a kind of upbringing, making people feel comfortable. So even if they are entangled in housework and are tied up by trivialities, they still have to dress up well, not only for their children, but also for themselves.
【Source: Shanxi Women's Network_Parent-child Education】
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