People often say, "A hundred years of cultivation can be crossed by the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can sleep together." "I think it's very pithy and aesthetic, not exaggerated. It perfectly explains the kind of fate that makes people so heartwarming and wonderful, how encounterable and unattainable! In the same time and space, in the vast sea of people, a completely strange man and a woman can meet and meet, acquaintance, it is very difficult, the probability is extremely low. They can fall in love with each other and enter the temple of marriage. What a blessing that would be! Maybe it is that special fate, which has long been predestined, I seem to be in the dark, waiting for your arrival... Just for that amazing glimpse, a glimpse of ten thousand years?!
And I can't escape the fate of this love. There have been seemingly beautiful love affairs, why have they all ended without results!? Now I finally understand that I have been waiting for her to appear! So when I first met the girl in the picture, I firmly believed that she would definitely become my bride, my wife.
Sometimes, it is strange to meditate, once in a kaleidoscope of flowers, why don't the leaves stick to the body? Is it that the flowers are gradually confusing your eyes and overwhelmed? Or are you struggling to find the one that has been waiting for you for a long time? Later, after walking around, I finally picked your thorny rose! It also makes me both afraid and loving, painful and happy! Maybe it was the fate that was destined to be inextricably linked to your thousand-year-old cultivation? Or is it painted on your century-old ship? In short, since then, the fate of the two people has been tied to the same boat, in the rough and long journey of life, together in the same boat, crossing the disaster and traveling...
I didn't have any romantic encounters with her, because I knew that such a low probability of luck might only happen once in your short life, or it would never happen. Don't expect it to come again! But I was not reconciled, as if I wanted to find the fate that belonged to me, waiting for her arrival. Finally, by chance. Through the introduction, through blind dates, I got to know her. Although I hate this traditional and backward blind date. But I never imagined that a deviant, wild and free-seeking, wild horse-like me would be tamed at the first sight of her. Love at first sight or 10,000 years at a glance. I identified her! It seems that I have finally waited for the marriage that has long been predestined, belated! So, roaring, in a month's time, we naturally flashed marriage. She became my bride, my wife.
Some people compare marriage to a besieged city, and people outside the city want to enter it; people inside the city want to escape from it! Man is always a contradiction. The relationship between men and women is even more vividly reflected in the siege of marriage. The so-called long time will be divided, and the long time will be divided... At first, both men and women went to the city with a beautiful expectation and longing to give their love a final destination. But hope will always lose to reality; time will always fade the beautiful whitewash, exposing the background of human nature! At that time, some people chose to hold firm, constantly strengthen the siege, resist all erosion, and stand firm; some people chose to flee, let it fall into disrepair, the wind and rain, and eventually became a ruined abandoned city! Looking back, I helplessly found that marriage is the graveyard of love! Once the wind and snow moon, the deep meaning of the deep meaning... In the suffering of real life, under the grinding of the years, everything is disillusioned and finally buried! It's hard to imagine why two people who once loved each other so much, once they entered the siege, how could they look at each other with disgust? In the midst of all kinds of dog-blooded betrayals, trivial quarrels... Gradually, love grew from hate. Finally caught in an endless war of forced force, ended up with a physically and mentally exhausted shot and two scattered, endless sad hastily ended. No wonder, today's young people are afraid of marriage, or even not married, preferring to slowly end up alone...
Could it be that two people meet because of their wonderful fate, and with fantastic expectations and yearnings, they enter the siege of marriage. Is it to put an end to disillusioned love? Is it a huge irony that in the cold reality, marriage is to prove that once the sea vowed to the mountain alliance, the love that lasted for a long time, once the shelf life period has passed, it will become rotten and deteriorated, and thus it will be chaotic and abandoned? Since marriage cannot stand the test of time, as time passes, it will always expose the animal instinct hidden in the depths of human nature and engraved in the bones. Is it just to pass on the generations and continue the genes? But at the end of the day, I still can't escape the nature of liking the new and hating the old. Then, we choose to get married, work hard for love and build a nest called home, under the baptism of wind and rain, it is so fragile and unbearable! But why do we go to the front and the next, moths to the fire, for that ancient and sacred ritual and choose to marry?
That being the case, I, like all people, fell into contemplation and began to question why this ancient institution of marriage has always existed. From so many years, from my own experience of marriage, I have gradually understood that the greatest significance of marriage lies in the responsibility and maintenance of the home I created with my own hands. Adhere to and cherish the great love that is only once in a lifetime!
Travel back in time... Time is as fast as the wind, and it has mercilessly blown away the most intoxicating years of my life! Perhaps the sweetness and lingering of the newlywed Yan'er is the most unforgettable good time in life! It will make two young beings like glue, only to hate each other for a moment! The breath of youth and the smell of love are intertwined, like the fragrance of blooming flowers, so moving. Unfortunately, the more beautiful things are, the easier it is to pass away. You haven't tasted its sweetness yet, and the flowers are withering! Only complain that the flowering period is too short! Despite the infinite nostalgia, it still drifts in the red dust and is gone forever...
Time doesn't leave room for your regrets. At the beginning, I chose flash marriage, and I first tasted the sweetness and freshness of marital love. Glad I found the right person. What is annoying is that the burden of life and the reality of chai rice oil and salt have come one after another, crushing the dreams of still immersed in the honeymoon period! Gradually, trivial and boring lives also expose each other's shortcomings and temperament! If I find that I and her are not perfect in each other's imagination, it turns out that I and she are not on the same channel? Is it really a feeling that the preservation period of love is so short, and the residual temperature of passion is thus extinguished by reality? We also seem to inevitably enter the dead loop of this siege. And contradictions and crises also quietly, as promised!
Time soon entered the run-in period of marriage. How two people who were once full of love for each other and full of eyes were full of each other. But because of the difference and collision of personalities, coupled with many troubles and unhappiness under the pressure of life... How did it turn into a mutual dislike? Is it really impossible to escape the curse of the poor couple Pepsi Lament? As a result, noisy and noisy are used to it, and the tip of the needle against Mai Mang has become the norm of life. Our marriage seems to be a chicken feather. When love becomes torment, there may only be one change between husband and wife, and the birds of the same forest who have built their nests in the besieged city will fly away! Fate always brings redemption and surprise when you are most helpless: we have the crystallization of love, and the birth of a child not only saves our marriage, but also gives it a new meaning: a selfish and fickle little love between a man and a woman, transforming into the great love of a complete family! When I saw my wife, after a difficult October pregnancy, gave birth to our son, tears of relief flowed from the corners of my eyes, the pain and guilt in my heart began to make me cherish the woman in front of me, my wife. And all this makes me feel that a man as a husband, but also a father's responsibility and responsibility.
In fact, every man has a simple life goal hidden in the depths of his heart, that is, a home with a wife and children. And for this family, carved in the bones of the desire to protect and wholeheartedly adhere to. It's just that some people can do it; some people can't do it.
Hurried time can smooth out all the edges and corners. When our marriage is smooth and smooth by the years, and it fits each other perfectly. Forbearance and understanding will make both sides tacitly agree with each other. At that time, there were fewer quarrels, contradictions disappeared, and life was as calm as water, and the waves were not alarmed. But another, more dangerous moment has crept in, testing us! It is often said that no matter how happy and happy a marriage is, it will not escape the erosion of the seven-year itch! Yeah, when life falls into a pool of stagnant water, there are no waves. It will become bland and tasteless. When you know each other too well, you will become blind to each other and ignore each other's sense of existence. At this moment, the curiosity in people's bones and the nature of liking the new and hating the old hidden in the depths of human nature will take advantage of the void. Unconsciously, the infidelity and betrayal it unleashes will ruin the marriage we have painstakingly managed for many years.
Maybe my marriage can't escape this crisis of the heart, when the psychedelic fantasy of the same bed and different dreams makes me want to move, so that she is also anxious. At the critical moment, it was still the insistence on the great love based on home that awakened the dream and saved the siege of marriage! When I woke up from the dream, when I opened my eyes, the first person I saw sleeping next to my pillow felt so real, there was a temperature, and my heart was incomparably solid! And that unattainable dream made me feel ashamed and remorseful. Finally understand that those who enter the besieged city can never escape the moral constraints of the invisible bottom line in the secular world. The unwavering chastity of his spouse is also the last line of defense, the insurmountable thunder pool! It made me start to rediscover my old love for this woman who was with me, called my wife! And that little love synthesized based on aphrodisiac chemicals such as hormones and dopamine, in the face of this deep love condensed through home, how humble and frivolous, obscene and small; how worthless!
In the blink of an eye, eighteen years of spring and autumn, half a life of floating clouds! She and I finally turned each other into a real husband and wife! We have worked together, how many ups and downs have passed! How many ditches and bumps have been walked... From starting from scratch with nothing, to now having both children, cars and houses, and creating together
Build a decent home! All the way to the wind and dust, accompanied by each other, from the former fenghua Zhengmao and cardamom years to the current greasy uncle, half-old Xu Niang. When time has robbed us of our young faces, it has allowed us to build a happy home that can carry a great love. Finally, I became not relatives with her but better than relatives!
If "holding the hand of the son, carrying the old man with the son" has become a distant legend in today's impetuous society! But I want to continue this legend and turn it into a legend that belongs to me and my wife. Because this is the persistence of the home I created with her, the cherishing and persistence of this great love! ...
Conclusion: Finally, someone has to ask me why I chose her? I will tell you that this is a miracle! Because life is a miracle, it is even more a miracle to be able to live in a limited life. And when you were still alive, you met her, from a young couple to an aging partner. That's a miracle within a miracle! For the rest of my life... In the long journey of life, there is always a person who has been accompanying you without abandonment and will not make you feel lonely. Not for the sake of the same life, but for the sake of death! What a miracle that must have been! ...