46-year-old mother to help her child do homework to be given first aid, how to accompany the child to write homework efficiently?
There is a saying circulating among parents: do not write homework, motherly and filial piety, a homework chicken flying dog jump.
It is enough to see the tense parent-child relationship between parents and children during the tutoring of children's homework. Recently, a 46-year-old parent in Nanjing, when tutoring his child's homework, was angry to the brain infarction and entered the hospital. Such news, we have not seen the first time, some netizens left a message: "Children who write seriously are children of other people's families." "Got a lot of netizens likes. How can children develop the habit of writing their homework carefully?
First of all, reasonable homework and targeted review are the key.
Children's homework is a review and consolidation of the knowledge they have learned. It is not surprising that simply copying can produce boredom. Different children's memory and comprehension are different, and the teacher's homework is often arranged according to the average level of most children in the class, which is destined to cause some children to write very hard, and some children to write very easily.
And children who are too hard in learning will often have a "fear of difficulties" mood, the more they write, the more procrastination; and children who write homework too easily, often in the eyes of parents, a short time to complete, and their own estimated homework time is shorter, will it be "writing homework is not serious?" ”
It is worth mentioning that no matter which one, it seems that it is easy to intensify the contradiction between parents and children. The author thinks that on the basis of the homework assigned by the school teacher, communicate with the teacher, reasonably adjust the homework suitable for the child, and help the child review and consolidation in a targeted manner, which is far better than the mechanical review.
Second, balancing writing and playing is a difficult point.
"Good and bad work" is a part of human nature, and adults still have to fight such emotions in real time, and children are naturally no exception. Compared to the boring and tedious of writing homework, the outside world is more exciting and more attractive to children. Although parents understand this, they are troubled by how to let their children know and accept the reality that they cannot play all the time.
This requires parents to help their children balance the two.
Attention span is often different for different children. Children in terms of attention, children of different ages have different standards, using the appropriate length of time to write homework, you can agree with the child when the mind is relaxed, a time of play and relaxation, the combination of work and leisure, both to meet the child's desire to play, but also to improve the quality of homework.
Finally, scientific training is the focus.
Homework is related to the child's academic performance, grades are related to the future of further education, and further education determines the future of the career... As a parent who is responsible for his children, how can he not care about this? Some parents prefer to give up some of their own activities and accompany their children to write homework every day, hoping to cultivate their children's good habits of loving learning. But it often backfires.
In the end, most of them are to cultivate children to "passively" write homework, and parents are in and out of two states.
Tutoring children to write homework requires scientific training, this training, should be two-sided, on the one hand, training children to be responsible for their homework, on the other hand, training parents to withdraw and occupy an auxiliary position. There are many parents in life often in the process of tutoring homework, unconsciously put themselves in the main position, supervision, inspection, and even forced, do not know, the more such operation, the more difficult it is for children to realize that they are the main body of writing homework, often feel that it is "written to parents", parents ask for how to do.
In the long run, when it comes to writing homework, children have no goals and no motivation, just like "marionettes".
However, parents face the "marionette" and it is easy to control emotions, and the vicious circle is prone to the ending at the beginning of the article. The author believes that it is far easier to train children to be responsible for their own homework than to train parents to withdraw in time. Parents and friends should still adjust their position and stabilize their emotions, so that children have the opportunity to become conscious.
In short, to help children write homework, parents should also understand their children first, according to the characteristics of children, using appropriate methods and length of time. Perhaps only in this way can the tense parent-child relationship in the tutoring homework be alleviated as much as possible.
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