Nowadays, many young people have abandoned the idea of son preference, especially in the case of increasing social pressure, even if the country has liberalized the two-child policy, there are still many families who will choose to have only one child.
But this can sometimes clash with the thinking of the older generation, and even lead to a series of contradictions.
Xiao Wang and her husband are college classmates, five years after graduation into marriage, the two reached a consensus at the beginning, no matter whether they give birth to boys or girls, they will only have one, not a second child.
Soon their love crystal was born, a healthy and lovely baby girl, the family was overjoyed, and Xiao Wang and her husband were even more fond of this daughter
When the daughter is two years old, every time the mother-in-law visits her granddaughter at home, she will consciously or unconsciously give birth to a second child.
At first, Xiao Wang did not care too much, but he could not stand his mother-in-law's repeated words, so he took an opportunity to clearly express to his mother-in-law his decision not to have a second child with his husband.
After the persuasion was ineffective, the mother-in-law cried everyone, saying that she had six suites in Shanghai and only wanted to hold her grandson.
Since the son and daughter-in-law did not give birth, they would give birth to themselves, and Xiao Wang's mother-in-law suddenly made this amazing decision.
Unexpectedly, the 56-year-old mother-in-law was really pregnant and gave birth to a healthy boy.
After the Xiao Wang family knew about it, they almost broke off relations with their mother-in-law, and from the time the mother-in-law became pregnant until the child was born, they never went to see it once.
So the responsibility of taking care of the baby all fell on the old couple who were nearly sixty years old, which made them feel stressed and often felt inadequate.
Thinking about the future of the child, he has not grown up, he is already old, which often makes the old couple anxious and regret the decisions made under the impulse.
Why do some people have to desperately give birth to boys?
1. Patriarchal thinking
Although the idea of son preference has diminished on our lives today, we must also acknowledge it.
It is obviously unrealistic to want to eliminate it for a while, especially in the minds of some elderly people.
2. Vanity is the curse
In some areas, especially in some rural areas, not being able to have a son is ridiculed.
This seems to have become a tacit truth.
Therefore, in order to be able to raise their heads in front of their families, in order to not be inferior in front of the people around them, having a son has become the goal of many women.
3. Raise children and prevent aging
There are many forms of old-age care in society now, including home-based old-age care, social old-age care and so on.
But in the minds of the vast majority of people, raising children is the best choice to prevent aging, and such responsibilities often fall on men.
After all, the daughter who marries out spills out the water, and only by giving birth to a boy will she have hope for her retirement.
What do advanced maternal mothers need to pay attention to when giving birth to a child?
1. Physical condition
Women's body is actually going downhill from the age of 25, after the age of 35, but in many ways it is not as good as before, so it is generally recommended to have a child before the age of 35, otherwise it will be called an advanced maternal age.
At this time, if pregnant, the elderly mother must pay attention to her own physical condition and understand the development of the fetus in the abdomen through regular obstetric examinations.
At the same time, it can also learn about their physical condition from the doctor's mouth in time to minimize the occurrence of pregnancy syndrome.
2. Economic conditions
When people are forty or fifty years old, basically economic development has been fixed.
After all, the career selectivity at this time will be reduced, and the career development space will also be weakened, so it is difficult to have a big breakthrough.
That is to say, if there is not enough economic foundation at this time, then do not rush to choose to have children.
After all, the cost of raising children is very high now, and they don't have many ways to make money, and in the end they will only make themselves suffer and let their children suffer.
In short, giving birth to a child at an advanced age is a matter that needs to be carefully considered, and if it is only for the purpose of giving birth to a boy, then it is best not to try it hastily.
After all, no one can guarantee the gender of the child, and the ultimate regret must be himself.