When I brushed the WeChat address book before, there were thousands of avatars, and I felt that I had a lot of friends.
Until one weekend I had acute gastroenteritis, the pain was so bad that I couldn't walk, I took out my mobile phone, and sent messages to several friends who had played better recently, wanting to trouble them to accompany me to the hospital.
But the response was, "Ah, I was shopping with my friends...", or there was no response.
At that moment, I found that there were very few reliable friends, almost none.
The last person to accompany me to the hospital was my hair small, even if she had an appointment outside at that time, but as soon as she heard that I had something, she rushed to my side as soon as possible.
Since then, I have stopped managing useless relationships and left only a few important people.
I recommend that you don't make friends and pay attention to quality.
If you meet the following types of friends, don't miss the opportunity to make deep friends with them.
They do things steadily, well-thought-out, and in the process of getting along, they can always make people feel very at ease, no matter what happens, the first reaction is to ask them for help.
But if you think it's too hard to meet such a friend, let's try to turn ourselves into better and more popular people.
1. When you go to visit the newly born second-child family, you will buy a larger gift for the boss.
2. Every time you share a knowledge point, you will say: "Is there anything that you don't understand?" Instead of "Is there anything you don't understand?" ”
3. Throw a tantrum at friends and family, and apologize afterwards and say, "Just thank you for your patience." ”
Instead of saying, "I'm sorry, I didn't control my emotions just now." ”
4, others have given help, will give timely feedback.
For example, a colleague who helped fix the computer will say thank you in time.
5. When AA transfers money, 11.33 will be transferred to 11.4 to others, rather than directly to 11.3.
6, can not remember the name of the other party, will use "little fairy" and "little handsome guy" instead. Instead of just shouting "who's who's who." ”
7. Every time the roommate wants to say "but", he will use a pause instead.
You can choose plan A, (stop for 1.2 seconds) plan B will not be better.
Indicates a twist, but it is not offensive.
8. When sitting in the back seat of a small electric motorcycle of a colleague of the opposite sex, he automatically and consciously separates it with a bag.
9, the umbrella is messily lent out, the borrower will fold it one by one, and then return it.
10, friends come to the house as guests, even if they do not mention, will pour them a glass of water to drink.
11. When a friend gives me WeChat to others, he will ask me if I agree.
12. Watching videos in public places such as dormitories and subways will wear headphones.
13, friends spit bitter water at the sisters, saying how strange and strange their roommates are, and how bad they are and how uncomfortable they are.
General emotional intelligence (than the tragic reply method): You are not miserable, my roommate is even more bizarre than yours.
High emotional intelligence (comfort and encouragement): Roommate relationship to meet a take care of it, there is nothing to run to other places.
Than the tragic reply method, so that the person who complains has no desire to continue to complain, generally do not want to talk about it.
With the method of comfort and encouragement, the other party will have a desire to talk to you more.
14, when friends praise people, they will directly exaggerate the details, rather than the whole in general.
For example: "You're so pretty, you're so good-looking." "Listening a lot, it seems polite.
If you boast, "You have so much hair, your fingers are so slender." "It makes it feel like you really have a focus on him."
15, a group of roommates gathered around and said, "The boy in the next class is also too handsome." ”
Roommate B said stupidly, "Where the hell is he handsome?" ”
When everyone was a little embarrassed, I said, "Hahaha then there will be one less competitor, the sisters continue."
16, at the dinner table, others will put down the mobile phone when they speak.
17, girls give you a look, you can read the girl's likes for you.
A girl who is shy when you look at you, you have a high probability of catching her.
Boys can't understand each other's hints, and they miss the girls who are interesting to you.
18, when others do not listen to their own advice to do things, will not say: "Forget it, feel free to do it." “
Instead, it will say, "Maybe this approach/choice will be more appropriate for you." “
19, if there is something very complicated to say, will call directly instead of sending a 60-second voice.
20, when taking a selfie with a friend, I will take the initiative to stand in front of the mobile phone.
21. When your roommate asks you how your new hairstyle is:
Low emotional intelligence: It's too ugly, not as good as before.
High emotional intelligence: New hairstyles are another temperament.
22. When shopping with elementary school friends, when I meet other friends, I will introduce them to each other.
Instead of chatting with other friends as soon as they meet, they are embarrassed to let their elementary school friends sit on the sidelines.
23. When a group of people walk together, they will pay attention to waiting for the colleagues who tie their shoelaces.
24, go to other people's homes as a guest, prefer to be late to 10 minutes, and will not pinch the point.
Because the friend's house may not be ready, or there is no urgent matter.
So it's best to go about 10 minutes late, neither making friends wait nor encountering embarrassing situations.
25. When you have dinner, you will ask the other party what kind of restaurant you want to eat.
26, when others have something inferior to you, talk to them will be half an inch shorter.
A chubby friend said, "You're so skinny." ”
I replied, "The stomach is not good, and I can't absorb anything." ”
27, let friends return home, especially girl friends, you must talk to yourself on WeChat.
28, will not lose their temper in the circle of friends, and send four or five dynamic screens at every turn.
29. After washing your hands, you will shake your hands at the sink and then go, and you will not walk while shaking your hands.
30, in the toilet saw a person dressed in rags, not very good at using the sensor faucet, next to the classmate silently walked to the side to wash his hands.
The whole process is very natural, there is no direct past reminder, embarrassing anyone.
Finally, I would like to say:
People who are really worth interacting with are not talking smoothly, will pat themselves on the back, nor will they be for the benefit of others, but will be on their own and wronged themselves.
Instead, it is honest and sincere not to hurt people, humorous and funny not kitsch, to follow the kindness of their hearts to do things, so that others feel comfortable.
If you agree with these points, remember to click "Watching" and become a better person together.
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