She was unmarried all her life, childless, but she "turned over in adversity" again and again, and lived a more wonderful life than the movie.
She begged with her mother on the street for 10 years, but at the age of 22, she became the queen of the first Academy Awards.
From the aristocrats of the late Qing Dynasty, to the beggars on the street, to the film and television superstars, her life was full of ups and downs, which once made Dong Qing choke up, and Zhang Ziyi shouted the goddess.
This woman is Hui Yinghong.
Some people say: the richer a woman's experience, the more wrinkles on her face.
Hui Yinghong's wrinkles are not many, but the ups and downs she has experienced are enough to be amazing:
Why did she never marry in her life, bitter and other first love?
And how did you go from beggar to shadow?
What kind of courage and tenacity does a woman have to turn a bad hand into a good card?
What did she go through after her transformation from beggar to shadow?
Hui Yinghong was born in Hong Kong on 2 February 1960.
His parents were originally wealthy families in Shandong, descendants of the Manchu Zhenghuangqi Empress Dowager Cixi, whose original surname was "Yehenara", and because the family was liquidated, they moved from Shandong to Hong Kong.
My father carried a few boxes of gold bars, and when he arrived in Hong Kong, he bought a few streets of property with a big wave.
However, the family that was once well-dressed and accustomed to food and did not know at all:
There is no bottom line to the sinister nature of society.
Overnight, the family property was deceived, and a family of 8 people crowded into the hut, picking up leftovers that others did not want.
The roof leaked during the overnight rain, and a typhoon blew the hut down, and even the eaves that covered the rain were gone.
The family fell to sleep on the street, and the parents were fierce, sending their 4 children to learn martial arts, leaving only 3-year-old Hui Yinghong and the infant little sister.
Later, the father was unexpectedly disabled, the mother begged all day, in order to make ends meet, the young Hui Yinghong also begged for food.
In order to ask for more money, she hugged the other party's thigh and did not let go, so she was insulted and vicious, punched and kicked.
One day she sold out her gum early and wanted to take a break, but her mother thought she was lazy and beat her up.
Hui Yinghong is very aggrieved, but she does not blame her mother, only blame herself for living in the red light district of Wan Chai, where people's hearts are covered with dirty ashes.
In order to sweep away the "ash" on herself and her family's heart, Hui Yinghong is eager to climb up.
After living at the bottom for 10 years, 13-year-old Hui Yinghong became a dancer and earned more. Unwilling to be ordinary, she went to the audition, and the director looked at her with a bright eye: like Mu Nianci in "The Legend of the Eagle Hero".
As a result, Hui Yinghong's acting career began.
At the same time, there is also her "beating women" career.
In the 80s, the fight scenes were all real knives and real guns, and Hui Yinghong had no martial arts foundation and soon fell injured.
Bruised, broken knees, broken nose bridge... At that time, the staff always saw her enter the set with vigor and limped off the set.
In this regard, Hui Yinghong did not complain a word. She had been suffering at the bottom for too long, and no matter how small the chance could be a life-saving straw, she did not dare to miss it.
There is a scene where you have to jump down from the 4th floor, and you don't even dare to jump instead.
Hui Yinghong gritted her teeth: Jump!
Due to her weight, she fell off the safety cushion, resulting in a tragic fracture of her legs and only a layer of skin attached to her knees and soles.
But the scene had to continue filming, and she couldn't cast a plaster cast, she could only ride on the shoulders of the staff. With each blow, the fracture is torn at the location.
"That hurts, I'm scared when I think about it now."
After many years, talking about the taste, Hui Yinghong still wiped her tears with palpitations.
After 6 years of fighting like this, Hui Yinghong starred in the movie "The Elders", with which she won the first Hong Kong Academy Awards.
For a time, Hui Yinghong's posters were posted all over the major photo studios, and she was red.
Adversity turned over, the willows were dark and the flowers were bright, and Hui Yinghong lived into the most desired appearance.
The tenacity of never accepting defeat has made her a success
When at the bottom, Hui Yinghong has a strong idea of "getting better".
On the one hand, this is due to the good education of the "Yehenara" family; on the other hand, thanks to the first love to bring a light into the dark days.
During Hye Young-hong's life, a mixed-race American sailor always quietly watched her on a street corner. And buy all her gum.
One day, the sailor asked her, "What do you say in Cantonese?" ”
Hui Yinghong taught word by word, the sailor read word by word, the four eyes were facing each other, and the tenderness in his eyes made her face red.
On that day, the sailors gave all the money to Hui Yinghong, and he was going to fight in Vietnam, and this farewell was a farewell.
At that time, Hui Yinghong did not understand what "love" was, she only felt:
Life was only bitter, and the sailor gave a little sweetness, so her whole youth was sweet.
After the sailors left, she was no longer content to beg, and looking at the movie pictorials on the street, she decided: I want to be a movie star.
To outsiders, this "begging girl" who wants to become a movie star seems to be having a big dream that is difficult to ascend to the sky, but she has proved that she can use her strength.
Psychology believes that the "will" is the rope that ascends to heaven.
By consciously establishing purpose, regulating, and dominating actions, one can really overcome several thousand meters above sea level and climb to the desired peak.
However, this requires two major premises: "conscious" and "purposeful".
The sailors light up Hye Young-hong's consciousness and make her desire to "get better"; and the star poster clarifies her purpose.
Because of this will, Hui Yinghong always remembers: the dirty side of human nature, I absolutely can not touch, I touched, this life will be over.
So, she's resilient. Jumping from the 16th floor to the glass slag, her first reaction was not to cry out in pain, but to ask the director: Is the posture beautiful? Not pretty I'll do it again.
In fact, the most difficult thing to insist on is not the consciousness and purpose, but the action, and every setback may become a reason to "give up halfway".
Even if she is called "the fiercest beaten woman" and has been injured for a long time, Hui Yinghong has a time to shrink back in fear. Whenever this happened, she would remember a sentence from her father before he died.
"Do what you want, Dad supports you."
But she did not expect that the 20-year "playing woman" career would end with a "film queen" award. Not long after winning the award, literary and art films arose, and Hui Yinghong had no drama to shoot.
She said:
"No matter how much you earn, the salary status is always lower than that of other literary and art films, and it is useless to climb." I knew I was going to transform, but I couldn't. ”
Watching herself fall from the clouds, she was distraught and took large-scale photos out of her own pocket, but this did not bring her more opportunities for cooperation, but made her boyfriend at the time propose to break up.
Lost love and unemployment, Hui Yinghong collapsed. She committed suicide by taking a lot of sleeping pills, but fortunately her family found her in time to save her life.
When she woke up and looked at her family's face, she was relieved: Since God didn't accept me, then I would think that my past self was dead and start over.
Just like after the release of "The Legend of the Eagle Shooter", Hui Yinghong put the movie ticket in front of her father's grave and promised with tears: No matter what happens in the future, I will stick to it.
The huge trauma makes people afraid, many people "die" on the road of giving up halfway, but Hui Yinghong "lives" over.
She re-planned her will, purpose and actions: with the love of her family as the source of strength, she returned to the film world, even if she played even the smallest role.
After recovering, she contributed textbook acting skills, won the best actress at the age of 50, and won double gold at the age of 57.
After the end of the thousand sails, she sighed:
"After experiencing the prosperity of 20 years old, the downfall and displacement of 30 years old, and the success of 50 years old, all of this is the best arrangement in heaven."
Ronda Bain said:
"The reason why a person is tenacious is not because of how much love he gets, but because he has people and things he loves, and this love attracts more love to her." 」
For Hui Yinghong, everything can be persevered, not by "desire", but by "love".
Love first love, love family, love career, love the world.
Even if life starts out in hell mode.
Continuous love, giving love, little by little strength into the will, constitutes perseverance.
In the end, it turned her life around and let her live like her dream again.
How to practice the ability to play bad cards well?
People love to say:
Failure is the mother of success. But for many people, failure is failure.
Hui Yinghong grew up in the worst environment, if she wants to give up on herself and be willing to degenerate, I am afraid that no one will blame her.
However, she has become a magnet, constantly emitting a positive magnetic field, attracting positive people and things.
From a small beggar, counterattack into an insurmountable shadow queen, inseparable from the tenacious life mode.
Behind this resilience, we can see this woman's unique attitude towards life -
1. When facing pain, do not compete with it
Every time she was injured, she became more focused. Equate pain with growth, and remind yourself every time you get injured: Next you have to run faster.
But on the other hand, many of us actually spend our life energy in the confrontation with pain, and after being hit by life, it is difficult to get out of the prison of confrontation and continue to stare at the abyss that makes us miserable.
Socrates said, "The secret of change is to put all your energy into building something new, not fighting the past."
When we are not staring at the pain, we actually give ourselves more creative space, which allows life to continue to move forward, and it is also the deep psychological motivation that Hui Yinghong can climb up in the dark countless times.
It was this power of awakening in pain that pulled her out of the darkness and made herself.
2. Accept the arrangement of fate and draw strength from it
The reason why Hui Yinghong is as tough as a bamboo is because she figured it out early on:
Luck is given by God, but happiness is won by oneself. Whether standing at the peak or the bottom of the valley, we must look at the long term, pave the way for the future, and do not give up because of a small stone under our feet.
When a person knows how to accept the various arrangements of fate, it means that she can jump out of the perspective of binary opposition to see the problem and lengthen the timeline.
The bad thing that happened today may be a happy seed from the future, but its wrapping paper is slightly ugly.
We can see the essence through the phenomenon: anything that happens in life is an invitation to our growth.
When we take away the limited knowledge of "good and evil, beauty and ugliness, black and white, good and bad," life becomes incomparably vast, and only when we fully accept the suffering in life will beauty follow.
As Zhou Guoping wrote:
A good life must have tenacity, and suffering can be pulled apart, but it is constantly pulled.
Even if you know that you will fall down and splash a body of mud, you must dare to fall, dare to fall more beautifully than the last time.
In the end, the head broke and the blood flowed and laughed and applauded, which is toughness.
"Will" is the source of resilience, it can make the fragile life pattern thick, let the beggar become the queen, but also let you and me from unhappy to happy.
So, be brave to chase dreams and be brave to make mistakes.
Every struggle you insist on will eventually become a beautiful feast of your life.
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