Chatting with children is a very interesting thing. Once, my girlfriend brought her son to a party with us. During the dinner, my girlfriend told us that her son's class had a particularly powerful child, only eight years old, he could fly abroad to find his father in the summer, and he could speak English and French.
The girlfriend's son heard his mother praising others, and seemed not to be in a very good mood, he muttered a small mouth, and said to his mother: "That's because there is a father who can speak for six Chinese and still works in foreign offices." "If the child is jealous, it makes us laugh." But, on second thought, isn't that what it is?
Children study in the same school, the grades will be high and low, hands-on ability, language skills, interpersonal skills, each of which is a big gap.
Family education is the starting line for children, and school has never been. A good dad is better than a hundred good teachers. A good mother is a harbor for the healthy growth of children's bodies and minds.
The pattern of the father determines the height of the child
The famous CCTV host Dong Qing is a talented woman, to tell the truth, Dong Qing's appearance is not very beautiful, but there are poems and books in the belly, and it is Dong Qing's full belly that has impressed thousands of viewers. Dong Qing mentioned her childhood, she was full of tears, saying that when she was a child, her father was very strict with her.
Her father never allowed her to pay attention to dress, or even to look in the mirror, asking her to spend all her time learning about culture. Dong Qing's father said: "No matter how beautiful the potato, it is only a potato." ”
Dad's foresight shows the child the way forward
Dong Qing's father is a visionary person, he knows that now is not the time for his daughter to enjoy life, a person's charm has connotations, rather than wearing a brand-name dress and carrying a luxury bag.
For the sake of his daughter's future plans, he would rather let her suffer now. Therefore, children have the correct three views, take the right path, and make the right choices, which is inseparable from the pattern of the father.
The famous psychologist Spencer once said: "The father is the guide of the child to the outside world." ”
A good father is not able to spend how long with his children, nor does he need to take care of his children meticulously, but he should give them a positive impact, point out the direction for his children's lives, and then spur him to work hard to achieve his ideals.
Dads are role models for children and give them many excellent qualities
Fathers give their children a lot of things that mothers can't do, and if dads are strong and brave, children can bravely face difficulties and setbacks. Dad has the temperament of a hundred rivers, the child can also be tolerant and generous to people, the father is jealous and hateful, and the child can also distinguish between right and wrong. Dad is the best role model, standing behind the child, using the power of his own example to guide the child to the direction of success.
From the time the child is born, the mother is the person who accompanies him the most. If the father is the mountain behind the child, then the mother is the hot spring that gives the child infinite moisture.
In the arms of the mother, the child grows up comfortably, at ease and happily. The mother is a small river, the child is a small fish swimming in the river, and the mother's emotions also determine the child's living state.
An emotionally stable mother who gives her child good tutoring and cultivation.
Some children are always polite to people and are extremely cultivated in every move. Some children, the slightest unhappiness, are eager to turn white, and their hearts are like a time bomb forever. A child's tutoring and cultivation is his lifelong business card, and the child's tutoring and cultivation are learned from the family. The influence of the mother on the child is crucial.
If a mother is emotionally stable and kind to others, the child will also be subtly affected and be a person with a degree of progress. If the mother is a grumpy person, the child may become a non-committal person, or it may also be moody. Words and deeds, people and things, and mothers have the greatest influence on children.
The mother's emotions are stable, and the child is confident and secure.
Mom's mood is not good, and the whole family is not safe. When mom and dad quarrel, the child feels that his survival is threatened. The mother always has an outburst of emotion towards the child, and the child will feel that no one in this world loves him.
The mother's embrace is the environment in which the child lives, and when a mother is unhappy, even a child who cannot speak can feel that danger is about to occur.
And those emotionally stable mothers, they give their children a feeling of spring breeze, no matter what the material life is, the child's mind is comfortable. No matter what, the mother is there, and the child's heart is safe. A child with a sense of security, he radiates a confident glow.
Father and mother give children a warm home, we must first be excellent parents, in order to cultivate outstanding children.