The other day I saw a netizen put forward such a question: the colleague's baby began to be sent to the early education center at 2 months, just say, your baby is 6 months old, you can also send it to the early education center! But the heart is always not steady!
Today, let's talk about whether it is appropriate for monthly children to send to the early education center!
There is a famous experiment in psychology: Harlow's Monkey Experiment, which goes like this:
The newborn baby was given two doll mothers, one was a cold but milky wire mother, and the other was a furry warm flannel mother!
Experiment 1: Monkeys only run to Mother Wire when they are hungry, and spend most of the rest with Mother Flannel!
Similarly, if we throw a small baby into an early education center, the warmth we bring to this child can make this child feel our warmth is very small!
There is a follow-up to this monkey experiment!
Later, the experimenter used a terrible monster to scare the experimental monkey, and the little monkey would pounce on the mother of the flannel at the first time, and could get comfort, and then have the courage to drive the monster in turn!
Then the monkey was placed in a completely unfamiliar toy room, and when there was a wire mother, the monkey curled up and did not move! And when there is a flannel mother, the monkeys will run to the flannel mother from time to time, and then go to explore the new environment!
What does this mean? Humans are actually very similar! When a child wants to grow up healthy, he needs a stable and reliable safe harbor of love, so that he can have more courage to explore the world and better adapt to this environment!
And when the child is still young, when he is learning to sit, learn to climb, learn to walk, learn to talk, etc., his main caregiver is unstable, one will take care of this person, one will take care of that person, during the day in the early education center, go home at night, which will make the child unable to form a safe and reliable attachment, he can not feel safe! And it will make the child continue to feel a kind of pressure, and this continuous pressure will have a great impact on the child's life!
When we are stressed, our body's adrenaline, lowering epinephrine will come out to work, regulate, this is a coping mechanism for stress, when we are young, when the brain development is not perfect, inappropriate pressure will change our stress response system!
In the book "Ladder to Heaven", the author once did such an experiment, two groups of the same mouse learn to walk the maze: group A, group B, in a calm state, AB two groups can complete the maze very well; and when a little pressure is applied to these rats, the rats in group A will scatter and flee, making a mess! And Group B can still complete the maze walk!
The only difference between the two groups of mice is that the A group of mice is often active in the early development of the brain, adrenaline and epinephrine!
To list so much, it is not that early education is not good, but we need to carefully consider our relationship with children, whether we can bring stable and reliable safe attachment to children, so that children have a safe harbor, so that children do not have to bear unnecessary pressure!
For children of the same age, if the early education center is only for children, you can completely let go, and you really need to think twice! A better early education center must be for parents, not for parents! For example: teach parents how to talk to the baby, how to massage the baby, how to observe the child is tired, hungry, irritable, how to guide the child's emotions, how to better understand, accept the child and so on
For larger children, whether it is suitable for early education, it is also necessary to think twice! After all, for children when they are young, the emotional connection with children, safe harbors, parent-child relationships, etc. are the cornerstones of children's exploration of the world! Specific early education, there is no one-size-fits-all that 2 years old can definitely go to early education, but you need to observe your own children, understand your children, and then put it for an hour, or half a day, so slowly observe the child's reaction, understand his feelings, and gradually let go! Every child is different, every family is different, so every parent-child relationship is also different
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