Affection is thin, the heart is cold and self-help

When I was writing on my phone, the message on the top of the phone prompted, "I dreamed of you last night, and in my dream you helped me pluck the leaves, what a big and beautiful leaf." "It was sent by my sister-in-law (his husband and my husband's colleague when they were young, and then our two families had a relationship with each other for more than 20 years), girlfriends, and good sisters who were like sisters.

I am the most similar to her kind of person, the two of us in the precipitation of the years, more and more intimate, three views of the same frequency. She became the only closest friend, sister, intimate relationship I met in my life than friendship girlfriend, more like a relative.

I hurriedly closed the unfinished Q&A, opened the WeChat conversation, and sent her a voice.

"Sister-in-law, do you miss me?" Haha..."

"Yes, I dreamed of you last night, we were both in a beautiful green forest, and you took a soft branch that resembled a willow and helped me pluck the leaves, and the leaves were so big, so wide, and beautiful." The sister-in-law said happily.

"Haha, good dreams, a light mood, dreams are beautiful." I responded happily.

"Such a good weather, the sun is booming, you come down, let's go out for a walk, bask in the sun, you are not short of calcium."

"Did you have lunch?" I haven't had lunch yet, sister-in-law. ”

"I'm not hungry, I don't eat breakfast until after 9 o'clock, and now I'm not hungry, so I come back from a walk."

"Well, you wait for me, I'll change my clothes and come to you." (Our two families live in the front and back rows, the distance is 20 or 30 meters)

At this time it was almost 12 o'clock, my son came down from the upper floor, called me with his father, ready to go downstairs for lunch, as soon as he heard that I wanted not to eat, he went out for a walk, both of them were anxious, not allowed, let me eat and then go out.

I grabbed my coat, hurried to eat some food, and came to my sister-in-law's house, where I had already made her wait for ten minutes.

The sister-in-law said it was okay, and she played with the puppy in the yard. The little white dog is only over a month old, cute and cute.

The two of us walked back and forth here countless times in order to bask in the warm winter sun in order to bask in the warm winter sun, reviewing the various sweet and sour and bittersweet aspects of life together.

The sister-in-law is pure and kind, there are three sisters in the family, as the eldest, after graduating from college and joining the work, she has taken on the burden of the original family, replacing her parents, raising her younger brother who has just entered junior high school, and providing for her sister who has not yet graduated to go to school.

The first half of her sister-in-law's life has also been dedicated to these three families (her own small family, mother-in-law's family and mother's family), she is kind, hardworking, enthusiastic, sincere, hard-working, hard-working, and all her enthusiasm has been given to the people around her life. In the end, it was exchanged for the bullying of the mother-in-law, the complaint of the mother, and the cold-blooded ruthlessness of the younger brother.

In the past two years, when her menopause has declined, her physical condition has declined, and she needs spiritual comfort and help, in addition to her sister who is grateful, sensible, and can give some comfort, the other family members have shown greedy, selfish, and ruthless fangs, and hurt their sister-in-law fiercely.

The sister-in-law's heart was hurt to depression, and her physical strength was weak, and she really did not have the heart to support their greed and solve a variety of accidents. The sister-in-law who woke up began to introspect herself and learn to let go.

The sister-in-law said that now that she let them go, she truly enjoyed the peace, and only then did she realize how happy and comfortable it was to live for herself.

"Now that I think about it, we used to be wrong, always digging our hearts and lungs to make our families live a good life, tired and half dead, and no one was satisfied." This is what they are looking for, the fault is not in them, you should reflect on yourself. "The kind sister-in-law is still reflecting on herself, and it hurts me to hear it."

"Well, I thought the same thing. You are too good to others, they are used to it, as long as you do a little bit that does not meet their wishes, you are a villain, no conscience. Our kindness has no boundaries, and compassion has no reason. This is the new word I learned from reading books recently, "sympathy for reason." I was deeply touched.

"Just as the story of the beggar and the rich man, a rich man passes by the beggar every day and gives him ten pieces of money, and over time, the beggar is accustomed to the rich man's charity, and he takes it for granted. Until one day, the rich man forgot to bring money, only gave the beggar a piece of money, the beggar shouted loudly, you still owe me 9 yuan. This greedy and unscrupulous family member is the psychology of this beggar.

In the future, we will only spend our energy on our own small family and treating our sons and daughters-in-law well, and no one else is worth your hard work, and sometimes these people are not as good as sincere friends.

The two of us basked in the sun, cleared our minds, summarized and reflected on the first half of our lives, and imagined and planned the future of ourselves and our small family.

As the saying goes, "The road knows the horsepower, and the day sees the hearts of the people." This is not only used in friends, colleagues, interpersonal communication, etc., but also between family members.

The words of wisdom of the ancestors, we know is to know, and when we really deeply appreciate it in the family affection, the heart has been hurt, scarred, and all thoughts are gray.

No matter how kind and obsessive a person is, he is afraid of paying wrongly. This is true for love, and affection is even more unsettling. Pure and kind hearts are regarded as fools by family members, sincere efforts are seen as deserved, soft and warm love is ignored, and even the strongest love will be consumed.

The west wind is evil, the affection is thin, the wind sweeps away the leaves, and there is no place to go. Humanity is, the heart is cool and self-help.