There is a question on Zhihu: Are you willing to have the ability to predict the future?
One of the answers is thought-provoking, saying that no, if the future can be accurately predicted, but it is impossible to change the future, then there is no point in predicting the future.
Indeed, knowing the future without changing it is not only a meaningless thing, but more likely a very painful thing.
In the movie "Time Traveler's Wife", Henry is a person with the ability to travel through time and space, according to the average person's idea, with this ability, isn't life like hanging up, can you effortlessly change your destiny?
However, Henry does not feel very happy, because he can only predict the future, but he cannot change the future, he cannot even control the time he travels, which makes him live in anxiety every second, he does not know what time he will reach in the next second, what space he will be in.
Having the ability to predict the future in the absence of a way to change the future is actually not a happy thing, it is like two sides of the same coin: if the future life meets our expectations, we will lack passion and motivation in the face of the current efforts; if the future life does not meet our expectations, we will feel negative and anxious in the present.
Life focuses on process and experience, in the journey of life, whether it is family, friendship, or love, it needs to experience the precipitation of time, which is precious, so instead of having the ability to predict the future, it is better to put me now.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="9" >, the unexpected death of Henry's mother made him live in fear and guilt all his life. </h1>
One of the pain points of being able to predict the future but not change the future is to watch the people you love the most leave, but you can't change the outcome.
In the movie "Time Traveler's Wife", the young Henry knows that his mother will be killed in a traffic accident, but he cannot change the outcome and can only painfully accept this cruel fact.
Because of his ability to travel through time and space, in Henry's view, his mother's death is like an inescapable nightmare, infinite reincarnation in his world.
Henry fears that he does not know when he will have to witness the pain of his mother's unexpected death again, and Henry feels guilty that he will not be able to change this ending.
Foreknowledge the future, sometimes is not a good thing, it will make our current life, become negative and painful, life focuses on the process, when dealing with family affection, only to grasp the present, in time to pay kindness and love, in order to make themselves feel ashamed.
Therefore, it is better to predict the future than to grasp the present.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="33" > two, unable to accompany his wife at all times, is Henry's helplessness in life. </h1>
The most precious state of love is to be able to stay together for a long time, two people who love each other can accompany each other in ordinary years, and every minute and every second is precious and extraordinary.
In the movie "Time Traveler's Wife", Henry's relationship with his wife Claire is intermittent, because Henry does not know when he will suddenly cross, so he can neither accompany his wife on important days nor plan his future with his wife as a whole.
On the wedding day, Henry will suddenly and uncontrollably disappear into another space, leaving his wife Claire overwhelmed at the wedding scene.
On one morning when he and his wife are snuggled up, Henry will suddenly disappear, travel to another time and space, and reluctantly leave his wife.
Many times, focusing only on the result and ignoring the process is also a very painful thing, because the process and the result are often causal, and the process determines the result, even more important than the result.
In love, especially so, love focuses on the process, pays attention to the mutual companionship and mutual maintenance between couples, compared with the result, the process of falling in love is often more worthy of being cherished.
In love, instead of predicting the future, it is better to grasp the present and love the people around you with your heart.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="34" > three, predicting one's own death but unable to change it is also a very painful thing. </h1>
It's also painful to know when and how you're going to leave this world, but not be able to make a change.
In Time Traveler's Wife, Henry has never seen himself over fifty years old, and he has foreseen his own death, but in the face of death, he can only choose to wait silently, but he cannot make changes.
The state of knowing that you are about to leave this world, leaving the person you love, but unable to make changes, is painful and painful.
Instead of foreseeing the future and enduring the pain of waiting for death, it is better to grasp the present, cherish every minute and second of life, and cherish everyone you love.
In the movie "Time Traveler's Wife", Henry's ability to travel through time and space is not enviable, but worthy of sympathy.
Henry only has the ability to foresee the future, but not the ability to change the future, which makes him live in anxiety and pain.
Henry can neither change his own fate, nor can he change the fate of his mother and wife, and after he foresees the future, he can only wait for things to happen in anxiety and pain.
Life focuses on living in the present, since we can't change the future, we might as well grasp the present, grasp every minute and second of our lives, and love the people we love with our hearts, only in this way can we be worthy of life.