Author | Tomato Mom
Source | Daughter Pie
These days, many mothers have sent private messages to discuss with Mai Card about taking their children out to play
Regarding the matter of taking their children out to play, some mothers are very supportive and are ready to take their children to see the world after the epidemic is over.
However, there are also mothers who are skeptical:
Think that the child is still young, anyway, where to play can not remember, why toss it? Tired and a waste of money.
But is this really the case?
Children who travel a lot from an early age
The brain undergoes miraculous changes
To be honest, there are indeed many unforeseen problems with children:
To prepare a lot of things in advance, but also to face a variety of unexpected situations encountered during the journey;
Parents have to take care of their children while playing, and they are tired at the end of the day;
At the same time, we must also worry about whether the child will be unsatisfactory and unwell...
But in fact, taking children on a trip from an early age is a positive and meaningful way to educate.
The famous brain scientist David Eagleman once pointed out:
Neurons in the brain are not supplied in unlimited quantities, and as children grow, the synapses connected by neurons are constantly being trimmed, and these prunings are carried out by the brain according to the stimulation of the external environment.
It can be seen that the importance of the growth environment to brain development, a good environment can provide the brain with rich stimulation, help brain synapses continue to build and shape, of which 0-6 years old children neuroplasticity is the strongest.
And nature is a new environment for children.
The beauty of the sun, moon and stars, the beauty of mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, the wonders of flowers, birds, fish and insects.
The brain gives meaning to these sensory signals from the outside world, such as giving saltiness to seawater, color to the sky, and fragrance to flowers.
Therefore, from the perspective of brain development, the meaning of travel is not whether the child remembers the scenery he has seen, but in activating and shaping the brain, so that he can better understand the world and become more flexible and intelligent.
Dr. Margot, a child psychotherapist, has also pointed out:
"The rich environment provides novel experiences that allow children to enhance their social, physical, cognitive and sensory interaction skills.
In a novel environment, it can promote the active expression of genes in the prefrontal lobe (equivalent to the CEO of the brain), which is also related to the child's high IQ, which helps to enhance the executive ability of stress regulation, concentration, good planning and learning ability, and improve physical and mental health. ”
Don't think that you can't remember anything when traveling with your children, and don't feel that taking your children out of the house is tossing and turning;
Children who travel regularly from an early age are quietly undergoing amazing changes in their brains – they will become more and more "smart".
Excellent children, are "wave" out
People who have seen "The Strongest Brain" must be familiar with Wang Yuheng, the "Eye of Ghost Talent".
He graduated from Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts, ranked first in the Tsinghua college entrance examination, and his professional score was 40 points higher than the second place, and his talent and strength coexisted, and he was an all-rounder.
In fact, When Wang Yuheng was a child, he often traveled around with his parents, and he rarely studied to death, especially liked to be with flowers, plants, fish and insects.
Now, he has a daughter, and as soon as he has time, he takes her everywhere to "waves", goes to the aquarium to observe jellyfish, and plays with white dolphins...
His daughter was out of school for almost half of the semester, traveled with him everywhere, did not leave her homework behind, basically maintained the top five grades in the class, and had a special love for reading and sports.
He believes that a child's world should not be filled with textbooks, grades, and should be full of life and colorful.
The world is very big and rich, and the more she sees, the more she will not be insulted.
Yes, every excellent child is from a small "wave".
- independent
Last summer, I took my kids to an outdoor summer camp.
There, I was particularly impressed with a boy who was 7 or 8 years old.
The other children were still twisting and grasping the hands of the adults, who were already carrying hiking bags, looking at the map and leading everyone to find their way.
Encountering problems in the process of climbing and hiking, he was calmer than the adults, quickly analyzed the situation, and found a solution;
Finally, when setting up a tent at the top of the mountain, he did not ask his parents for help, but led his friends to work together to complete the task first.
On the way back, I chatted with the little boy's parents and learned that the parents often took their children on trips around the motherland, over the snow-capped mountains and through the vast grasslands.
Moreover, every time they travel, they have the consciousness to let the children take their own luggage, pay for it, and solve various problems during the journey.
Over time, children become more and more independent, and no matter where they go, they are particularly adaptable.
- assertive
I have 2 colleagues around me, and the children are all new to elementary school.
A colleague rarely takes his children out on a trip, feels expensive and tossed, and it is better to have that money than to enroll his children in a few more interest classes.
Another colleague takes her child out to "wave" every weekend holiday, and often sees her circle of friends with her child punching in a certain attraction, taking photos with small animals, and eating grilled fish by the sea.
I had seen the children of the two of them at a party, and the difference was really obvious.
An introverted, shy, taciturn; a confident and generous, talkative...
In fact, children who often go out to "wave" often accept new things and have deeper insights and feelings about the world, so their personalities are often more confident and bold, and they are more calm and fearless when encountering things.
- Broad vision
Since he was a child, the little boy Simba has followed his parents to the north and south, playing all over the world.
At the age of one and a half, he followed his parents to the Irtysh River in Xinjiang to see swans, camels, and poplar trees.
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He once rode a hot air balloon between heaven and earth in Cambodia, overlooking the vast expanse of land.
I have also fished for piranhas in the Amazon forest with local residents.
With the constant encouragement of his father, he challenged himself and climbed the Haba Snow Mountain, which is 5396 meters high.
While other children sit in kindergarten to learn, Simba learns no less than others.
Taking a hot air balloon ride in Cappadocia is an art class about color, chatting with friends from all over the world on the road, a foreign language speaking class, climbing mountains every day, and being the most abundant physical education class...
Moreover, various travel experiences have made his vision extraordinarily broad, tenacious, adaptable, and early on, he planted his dream of becoming a photographer.
Don't create a secular, present, and small world for your child, take him to see mountains, seas, stars, and nature, and he will definitely have enough heart to accommodate life in the future.
Perhaps, many parents feel that traveling with their children requires both time and money, and they do not have the capital themselves.
In fact, as long as there is a heart, nature is the best classroom for children, and flowers, birds, fish and insects are the best teachers for children.
With the arrival of the winter vacation, I suggest that parents can make travel plans according to the characteristics of their children's different age groups.
Because children of different ages have different stages of brain growth, their feelings about the world are also different.
- 0-3 years old
0-3 years old, is the golden age of children's brain development, they mainly rely on experience to feel the world, often in the play to observe, learn;
Therefore, the destination chosen by parents is best based on being able to play and have actual contact.
For example, beaches, zoos, botanical gardens, wild suburbs, etc. are all good choices.
When children play, let them immerse themselves in their own world and try not to disturb them.
I remember the first time I took my 2-year-old daughter to the vast sea, she sat curiously on the beach, and every time the waves came, she would make a silver bell-like laugh.
Remember the first time she was taken to see the panda, she raised her small hand and made 2 circles on her eyes: Yay! Like Dad!
I remember the first time she ate brown sugar sticks, she danced happily, softly pressed her body to me and said: Mom, delicious.
Amazingly, when I showed my now 8-year-old daughter these old photos, she had an impression in her head.
However, to avoid too much tossing, boating and car fatigue, it is recommended that babies aged 0-3 try to choose short trips, and the travel time should not be too long.
- 3-6 years old
3-6 years old, the prefrontal lobe of the child's brain develops rapidly, and the effective stimulation of the brain is extremely important for the child's growth and personality integrity.
At this time, the child's self-care ability is gradually mature, and he can also go to a little farther away to play.
At that time, I often took my daughter to the places such as playgrounds, farmhouses, suburban climbing, etc., I remember that one year the rape flowers in Wuyuan of Qingming Dynasty bloomed, and I also took her to play for 3 days.
Parents can take the opportunity to travel to cultivate their children's good character:
For example, catching a train, going to a scenic spot to leave on time, queuing up when going to a playground, and knowing politeness when dealing with people.
Before each trip, I let my daughter organize what she wants to bring, and when she goes out, she also backpacks herself to exercise her independence.
Have more interactions with your child during your trip: How do you feel? What are your impressions of this place? Where do you want to go next?
For example, my daughter is particularly sensitive to color, and can say it at the age of 4: gray glass, red persimmons, etc.
During the age of 3-6, the exercise of children's memory, judgment, analysis, thinking, and operation ability can effectively develop the brain.
- 6-12 years old
Traveling with children over the age of 6 can't just stay in the "play" stage.
At this stage, the knowledge system in the children's minds is gradually constructed and formed, and what they see and hear will be deeply rooted in their minds.
Therefore, parents can consciously lead their children to "entertain and educate", such as exploring the history of the ancient city wall, tracing the evolutionary history of insects, exploring the tides and tides of the sea...
Before you leave, you can invite your child to do a guide together and talk to your child about the customs and customs.
If it is not convenient to travel far, you may wish to refer to the weekend "doll" experience shared by this Guangzhou mother:
In the past 5 years, she has clocked in large and small children's parks with her children, some of which can be sprinkled with joy, who can participate in parent-child activities, and some who can experience rice planting;
There are also various zoos, art galleries, museums, libraries, participation in various knowledge lectures, volunteer activities;
Outdoors, the nearest is to see the flowers and insects of the community, farther away to the suburbs to climb, ride, play in the mountains...
Her children are now 11 years old, with a particularly rich knowledge reserve, fluent writing, and an interest in history and science.
In fact, there are really many ways to travel, take your children to play in the nearby small parks on weekends, or a day trip to the suburbs; small long holidays can go to the surrounding areas to drive, see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, will let the children harvest full, worth the trip.
According to the British Family Holiday Association, research:
49 percent of respondents have the happiest memories of traveling with their families; 33 percent say they still vividly recall family vacations from their childhood; and 25 percent use those memories to get through tough times.
Children's childhood is precious, and those who play under the pink cherry blossoms, hug their families to watch the sunrise at the top of the mountain, and eat a wonderful meal in the countryside will become the warmest fragments of time in children's memories.
Those who have seen the scenery, the road they have traveled, will eventually be imprinted in the child's body, becoming an indispensable asset in the child's life, this winter vacation, may wish to plan a special trip for the whole family.
I believe that these unforgettable experiences will surely become a beam of light for children's childhood, and suddenly bloom at some point in the future.
*This article is original to the Daughter Pie. My family has daughters, and there are women who do everything. A parenting platform that millions of parents follow. *Some of the pictures in this article are from Figureworm Creative
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