Introduction: After becoming a parent, we will sincerely feel that it is really not an easy task to want to do a good job in the role of parents and to educate children well. Perhaps we have heard a lot of educational principles and experiences between the birth of children, but when we really practice, we will find out which ones are really useful and which ones are of little use.
In the growth of children and our education, in fact, we need to constantly run in, and our education can not be set in stone or copy others, of course, we can often get a little inspiration from others. So what are the most inspiring parenting concepts and experiences in 2021? Xiaobian here will share with you my experience summary:
1. Inspiration on "family culture"
This concept is inspired by the book "How Do You Measure Your Life", the author's corporate culture has migrated to "family culture", the core idea of which is that parents want their children to become what kind of people, then first of all, they must become that kind of person, and treat children with the behavior of such people, so that children can be imperceptibly.
Until then, we always wanted our children to be our ideal children as we were educated, obedient, polite, not lying, and so on, but we found that it often backfired. In fact, this is a very key point is that children will get a lot of behavioral thoughts imprinted on us, and when parents have good behavior, children will develop corresponding behaviors.
2, we can't hurt children frequently because their children love us
I don't know if parents have such a feeling, when we treat other people, if we quarrel or make a conflict, we always have to have a long time to deal with, or even die and do not interact with each other. But for children, they love us firmly, no matter how much we scold the child, or do not understand the child, they will eventually choose to forgive us.
Young children are the best at coaxing and relying on us the most, so even if we scold the child and say something hurtful, the child chooses to hug us. In this regard, as parents, we often feel guilty about this, children should be more worthy of our love, rather than consuming children's emotions, do a patient listening, words and faith parents will make children feel happier.
3. Teaching children integrity and kindness is more worthy of attention than teaching children a prominent skill
We often have an appreciative attitude towards some very talented children, but there is one thing that makes me very depressed about the talented children, the girl plays the piano very well, the singing voice is also very beautiful, but in terms of personality, character is very poor, will lie and bully the weak.
Therefore, I found that no matter how good my children are, the foundation is still on the need for good character, and teaching children integrity and kindness is far more meaningful and important than music, art, and dance. Because good character will support the child's life, and bad character is easy to burn all the achievements of the child.
4. When educating children, the telling of facts is easier for children to accept than subjective evaluation
"How are you so bad", "How are you so lazy", "Why are you so bad on the test", these words often appear in the process of educating children, but we find that when we use these words to comment on children, there is often no good effect feedback. Moreover, this can easily stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, and the more you teach the child, the more disobedient you become.
Because in people's psychology, there is often resistance and disgust to bad evaluations, and the suggestions behind evaluations are often unwilling to accept. Therefore, when educating children, the statement of things is easier for children to accept than evaluation, "you fell a bowl", "you did not finish your homework", "you scored 56 points", which is simply telling the facts rather than subjective evaluation.
Important note: in the process of children's education, a good way is more effective and effective, for which we want to shape and cultivate children first of all to establish a corresponding "family culture", and children do not excessively consume the child's love for us, compared to good talent, integrity and kindness of moral education is more important, less subjective evaluation of children and more factual education.
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